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firefly77:
Kat,
Thank you so much for your post. It really spoke to my heart and in a way I felt God's forgiveness extended to me in an area where I was convinced I had failed Him in the worst sense and was therefore not able to serve Him anymore in any way, shape or form in the future... Last not least, for the sake of following the law, unable to ever get married again.
My last marriage failed because I divorced my husband... He was emotionally abusive to me and especially to my son. He pounded scriptures into our heads about submissiveness and his rightful place as the head of the household and everybody had to fall into line after him. When he forgot to do something, he made a mistake... when I did, I sinned according to him. In my heart I started despising him and the internal conflict about wanting to do it God's way and yet wanting to get out of an oppressive abusive marriage caused me to become very ill. Not only did my husband berate me, but I did to myself as well. I finally filed for divorce mainly to protect my son and to get physically and emotionally well again.
It has been 8 years now... I am not happy about what I did because I ended up putting this "imaginary" wall up between God and me, which still stands to this day. I feel I have failed terribly and in a way feel very responsible for the way the relationship turned out. As for him, he got married again a year later. In fact, while we were still living under one roof and the divorce was pending, he had already found a new "wife" on an internet dating site. He would tell me 5 or 6 times a day, "I love you!"... Every time I heard these words, I shuddered.

It comes down to us not having a clue what "I love you" really means. You will never keep somebody's love and respect if you DEMAND it. They may say it to your face to appease you, but the heart knows the truth.

As for bible man... According to your interpretation of the scripture, I would probably be dead now, and my son would not have a mother.

May God inspire us all to love His way...

Ninny:
Bible man, No one is disagreeing with the fact that God said what He said! You asked are there in grounds for divorce in scripture! Why would you ask if you weren't looking for an answer? You aren't ruffling anyone's feathers! There have been feather-rufflers here before they come and go! BUT does God change? NO! In the Old testament if someone was caught in the act of adultery, he or she was stoned end of story..marriage vows annulled! Victim of the unfaithful one free to marry again! God doesn't mess around!
Your scriptures are disjointed and pulled right out of context with nothing to back them up! Law, law, law... are you bound by law or are you free from the law? The problem with our mindsets these days is that we grab one scripture and build a whole doctrine on it! I'm not condoning divorce or trying to find excuses for it! I have been married only once and have been married for almost 38 years so I'm not trying to defend anything in my own life...

Now if my husband were to cheat on me I could do one of two things 1) couldn't stone him! I'd go to jail! I could forgive him and go on with life and expect him not to do it again! or
2) I could divorce him and go on with my life... I haven't done anything wrong or ungodly either way! God doesn't change! Would you stay with a person who refused to be faithful to you? there is an old saying that says, "I may continue to love you, but I DON'T have to live with you!" God doesn't command us to LIVE with a cheater!  You figure the rest of it out!
Kathy

Marky Mark:
I just would like to add that as we learn of the Spirit[and Spirit is life] we also learn that the things of the letter[die, just as the flesh]. No matter what sin is committed in the flesh,they are all the same.We can and do sin, some being worse than others, but still, sin is sin. We are sinning machines and if not for the Grace of God we would ALL still be in a full fledged quagmire of filth and destruction sinking and sinking ever deeper into that filth.For by Faith we all have Hope and that Hope is to be a righteous child of God,only when HE sees fit to drag us to the Truth in all matters Spiritual. All is of God!!!  Believe It!!!


Peace...Mark

daywalker:

--- Quote from: bible man on May 28, 2009, 11:30:59 PM ---Kenny, you hit it on the head!     from the beginning it was not so!!   bound until death,not bound until someone cheats!    by the way romans 7  still has not been addressed,nevermind why i asked the question, what about til death do us part.   I WILL CHANGE THE TOPIC DUE TO RUFFLING SOMEBODYS FEATHERS lol!

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Bibleman,

The only feathers that are being ruffled is yours. You asked questions. You were given many SCRIPTURAL answers. It is only you who wishes not to accept them. You are not taking all the Scriptures into consideration--instead you are selecting a few, and ignoring the others which testify alongside with them.

How is it that you refuse to accept the plain statements of your LORD on this topic of divorce [Mat 5:32, Mat 19:9]?  ???

I know: YOU DESPISE IT. That's why. For whatever reason you are unwilling to accept what Jesus Christ said in response to your question. Sorry, but the Truth stings a bit sometimes [I know from personal experience...]


Have a good one,

Daywalker.  8)

mharrell08:
Alright, this subject has been beaten into the ground enough.



Marques

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