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Ellie:
Hi everyone.I'm just not sure how to handle or respond to the following and would appreciate some input.....
  My mother, at the age of eighty has been in love with another man for the last fifteen years.Last year,after years of caring for his wife,the man's wife passed away.Also last year,my father had to go into a home and is declining daily.
   Now that they have relative freedom they are both seeing a lot more of one another. My mother has met his family,they all like her and include her in their social plans,lunches et.
   I am at a bit of a loss as to handle the situation from the perspective that my mother,wants to tell me,someone,all about it.Strangely this is the first time in her life that she is seeing a" loving" family or how it can be.
   She was a   very  abusive,cruel mother.I am amazed that she is perhaps learning "love". Something that I pray for her.Yet I just don't quite know how to respond to her phone calls and her talks.
    I am not interested in judging her,but it being morally wrong makes me feel uncomfortable ,as though I am a part of it in some way.
    Your thoughts on this would be appreciated
                   Peace to all ....Ellie.......

Terry:
Hi Ellie, thats a hard question on how to talk to your mom, if it was me i would stand still,pray and listen to that little voice from deep inside at least with me that seems to work when i will listen.
God Bless
Terry

G. Driggs:
Are you talking about adultery? Personally I don't think I can tell anyone that is what they are doing is wrong, cause I'm no better. I would certainly pray for them, and definitely listen to them. Dont encourage them either.

Just know, we have a just, fair God who will be her judge, along with the Elect.

You ever consider sharing with her what you have been learning here?

2Ti 2:24  And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient,
2Ti 2:25  In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth;
2Ti 2:26  And that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who are taken captive by him at his will.

I dont know, but just maybe if you share with her some Scripture or something from Rays teaching, and that your learning, maybe she will get the hint that it makes you uncomfortable, if that is what the REAL problem is.

You know you really cant change anyone? That is up to God.

Thats a tough one for sure, maybe someone here can give better advice.

Praying for your wisdom in this matter.

Peace, G.Driggs

Ellie:
Terry & G Driggs,
                        Thank you both for your input and bible verses are apt.I guess I'm talking about adultery.Even if we are looking upon another with desire.
                         I certainly wont encourage her,have shared my point of view.I don't think I,m any better either.Daily we struggle with sin.
                        I think that It being my mother was a bit confusing.However,I shall just let it go and continue to pray for them all.
                         Thanks again .......Ellie.........

Dave in Tenn:
Hi Ellie.  Can't give you a long dissertation on the Law or anything, but it is difficult to 'judge' one's parents--even in the way we have come to understand 'judgement' through B-T.  I went through that (though the details differed greatly) when I was a much younger man, and have no desire to do it again.

These days, I hold very close to the Word that Judgement begins in the House of God--and since He makes His Home in ME--I don't have much interest or reason to clean anybody else up, especially when they don't ask for my help.

Perhaps it's possible for you to 'pretend/assume/reckon' that this relationship does not violate marital law.  I don't know.  But if the details are clearer or are being related to you in conversation, then don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and say that such talk makes you uncomfortable.

Not to be flippant, but what child of ANY age wants to hear too much detail about their parent's private life?  She'll just have to understand and get over it.  If she won't go THAT far, then it seems like there's not much chance she's going to recieve the Word of God from you.

That's just me, though.

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