Bunni, I agree completely! Hell is surely not a doctrine of peace or love!!
I've always been asking questions, long before bible-truths. If we have free will, how can God already know everything in advance? If there is a hell, why can't God stop people from going there? Furthermore, God already knows these people will go to hell! And then, I read Revelation. God, to me, was a vengeful sadistic tyrant. And I'd do well to stay on his good side. I never was able to think of Him as a God of love. I mean, all those people are going to hell! Eternal torture in fire!!
There was once where I even asked why we preach if knowledge is what makes people "eligible for hell". I still can't find a satisfactory answer.
The Oneness Pentecostals made it look like they taught the truth, hell, tongues, and all. And what a bleak "truth" it was! I never really felt free, I felt more chains, and burdens at the ends of the chains. And they tell me it was the good news, and "oh, doesn't the truth set you free?". No, it made me self-righteous, holier-than-thou, depressed, and in retrospect, disgusted.
A friend of mine was just telling me about how her classmate passed on (she was our same age...), and she was very shocked and sad. Somehow, we rolled into, "Wonder what hell mongering christians will say when they hear about it." If I was a pentecostal, I would keep my mouth shut as I would have no words of comfort. I'll probably be thinking about the horrors of her roasting in hell too much to feel any form of sadness.
In hindsight, I was a totally different person when I was in Babylon. I remember that I didn't want people to go to hell, and therefore I preached (read: forced my beliefs on) to as many people as I could. And I looked at others through different glasses. It's scary. Truly I was (still am) a beast!! If I could erase that whole period of time, I would!