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HoneyLamb56:
Would appreciate some insight or words of wisdom; my brother is having an affair and the in-law has lost contact with a daughter (who confronted him) and grandchildren because the in-law believed his lies (denials).  I have recently found out about the affair from another source;  is it my place to speak to my brother or am I being judgmental?  Should I be looking at the specks in my own eyes?   Do I ignore it believing that God has a plan to deal with it?  I feel like part of a cover-up.  I resent him for what he's doing but yet am I not supposed to love him unconditionally?  Is this a case of "am I my brother's keeper" ?  and on it goes in my mind knowing what havoc this can wreak.  Is it my business?  Really lacking spiritual discernment. :-X :(

Roy Martin:
I must agree with John 100%.
 Let it be as it is.

Roy

judith collier:
I don't agree because there have been times in my life and even here on this site when i needed to be corrected head on. One doesn't have to be judgemental when confronting but rather genuinely concerned, like reminding them there is really a bigger problem within the marriage itself and that needs to be dealt with. It's harder to keep commiting sin when you know you are being prayed for and looked at. At least it was for me. Sin grows in darkness, bring it to the light.

Deborah-Leigh:

There are too many variables yet that aside you should pray to God to help YOU over the difficulty that you are facing regarding the strain you are discerning. God is working all things in accord to the council of His Will and we have to accept, trust, have peace with and believe it. If we are not doing that, we will fall apart...like I do...often.

Arc

Stacey:
IMO - If you love your brother than be up front about it to him what your concern is with the whole matter.

Look, I know as well as most of us here know it, it get's repeated almost daily, that God is in control and His will is gonna be no matter what but, guess what? Regardless of that fact, we all have to get up and make choices through out the day, every day and my opinion is this, make every choice a good one and to the best of your ability with the knowledge you have about what ever the case may be which, in then case, happens to be you and your brother.

You asked if it's your business. Should you worry about the specks in your eye's? This is all up in your eye's and business! So far, you have said that this has caused you to resent your brother, and you are very concerned with what might happen. At the very least, confronting your brother would relieve you from feeling involved in a cover up and let your brother know where you stand now that you know about it. 

I hope only the best for ya, to get through this!

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