Hey all,
First of all, thank you for all the replies and warm welcome and most certainly the prayers. Prayers.. Need lots of those... It has been a while and I apologize. I believe almost an entire year. I was... well, how can I say this, a walking contradiction on the inside? Even that feels to shallow and vague in describing what was going on. I had so much turmoil within me that even the forums had become a negative place. But I'm back, and Lord willing to stay.
So I wanted to share with you all a few thoughts that crossed my mind while reading all these replies. First there are many.. so It will take me time to go through them again and really respond to everything and everyone on an individual and person a level but ill touch on what really stuck out to me. My thoughts are very scrambled so I apologize ahead of time if their exists no form of structure to my comming thoughts.
First, I don't like the idea of "distracting" myself to avoid lustful pulls and temptations of the flesh. I believe, God is big enough that if He wants me to conquor this beast that I won't need to "distract" myself to get around it. I'll be able to look the beast in the eyes, to look temptation down the barrel of a gun and not be shaken. I won't be tempted to lust because that is how powerful God is.
This distraction of myself feels like a bandage to the problem. What happens when the distraction ends? I am faced again with the same problem I was in before, temptation and overcome by it, because the distraction simply hid the real problem. I can do everything I want to the outside world to make it go away. Even lock myself in the darkest of rooms with nothing safe my own thoughts and even then, my thoughts would betray me. For the problem is not outside in the world, but rather inside this fleshy body.
Secondly, the marriage idea. Again, another bandage to a festuring wound merely masking the problem and not removing it. Marriage is not an option for many reasons. The biggest reason being is that I am way way to different from most girls my age that I would end up scaring them away with how deeply devoted and passionate I am towards the Lord inside, on that inner quite level. I have to turn my back on the Lord to fit in with just about anyone my age. Very few people would see who I am and accept it. Woman just aren't ready for the type of guy I am. Woman my age want to party, woman my age they want to be carnal like men my age. They want to fullfill the desires of the flesh in every mannor just like any other guy out there. Even myself in times of temptation and little protection from the Lord. My generation cares little for God, even those proclaiming our Saviour are nothing like me. Even the "christian" woman. They praise Him one moment and blaspheme Him the next. Either in word or deed, feeling no remorse if any for their actions. Christians uplift themselves into the heavens with their self righteous Holier-than-thou attitude and would have nothing with me if they knew what I truly believed.
Another huge reason against marriage is I am not ready to be the man I have to be, the man of God I want to be and need to be for marriage.
As you can see, i don't like the bandage approaches to this situation.
I also know I don't want to struggle with this into my 30's, and 40's and 50's. I hate seeing even my own father lust after woman and say things about them I wish I had never heard. I don't want to be that man when i'm his age nor when i'm married.
Sexual references and comments towarsd women as nothing but sex objects is EVERYWHERE. Distracting myself is not possible even if I tried. It's on facebook, its in games, its in music, its on t.v., its in movies, it's in books, woman promote it, men promote it, SEX SEX SEX. Theirs no escape... but I DON'T WANT TO BE THAT MAN, I DON'T WANT TO LUST ANYMORE AFTER ANY WOMAN. I WANT TO SEE MY WIFE ONE DAY AND ONLY HER. I'm TIRED OF THIS! I've had it! Is this trully the fate for men, to SUFFER this move destructive sin for all teh days of our lives? Why? Why can't I be 22 and not lust after woman any more? Whats wrong with that...
And if you're concerned for me.. don't be, i'm not on the verge of losing my faith. Infact, it's never been stronger, but... i HATE this sin. I don't like this flesh... and I really don't like these hormones.. -.-
Anyway, this was long winded and probably poorly constructed manifestation of my thoughts and state of mind. Ill try and re-read these posts again and address more specific points, I know many were made.
Thanks again for all the encouragement, the versus of scripture, they work miracles, they really do.
God bless.
Kindly,
Alex