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G. Driggs:
My Cousins 14 year old son Tony is talking about suicide because of a girl. I know the hopeless feeling in this situation when I was that age. I think my cousin wants me to talk with him but thinking about what to say I can only tell him not to do it, and that his mom should get him some help. Anyone have any experience in this matter? What should I say? I should also add that Tony's father had killed himself when Tony was a baby for the exact same thing. He was a good friend of mine,Tony Sr. Please keep Tony Jr. in your prayers.

Thank you

G.Driggs

lostANDfound:
this is terrible news.  thankfully our wise Father placed you in his life.  and thankfully a listening ear might be exactly what he needs, with prayer and comfort.  adding my prayers to yours G.Driggs. 

psalm 30:10 Hear, LORD, and be merciful to me;
   LORD, be my help.”

 11 You turned my wailing into dancing;
   you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy,
12 that my heart may sing your praises and not be silent.
   LORD my God, I will praise you forever.

arion:
The problem with teens is they live in the here and now.  Adults have the benefit of experience to know that situations change and what is a terrible burden now won't last forever.  Unfortunately teens don't have that maturity to be able to look to how they are going to be feeling several weeks from now.  You said 'I know the hopeless feeling in this situation when I was that age', you are already equipped to minister to this boy.  Share with him how it was for you and that how it will get better.  Hard times are a way for us to grow and mature and it's simply a part of life.  Be there for him but be prepared for him to initially resist your efforts.

Kat:

Hi George,

Well you really can't trivialize what he is going through, it must feel terrible to him. But there are a few things you could share with him, to give him something to think about. He seems to be paying too much attention on this moment in time, as this life is short even if we live to be 100, so he really is dealing with just a moment of time. You could tell him that this life is filled with many experiences to learn from, what he is feeling is one of the more difficult experiences and he should not give up all the rest that is yet to come, because of this. There will be good things to come. I'm thinking that this young man does not know the truth, so does not realize that if he should take his life now it is not the end of it all. We all must give account (Rom 14:12, Heb 4:13), is he ready to stand before the judgment seat of God an give account? 

George you have the truth and have an opportunity to share a few things with this young man. But you must remember that it is God that will ultimately determine each of our destiny. So don't think whether this young man lives or dies rest on YOUR shoulders. God may use you to help him realize some things, but it's all up to God. Praying you have strength, as this is a sticky situation.

mercy, peace and love
Kat

G. Driggs:
Thanks lostANDfound for the uplifting Scriptures an prayers.


--- Quote from: Arion on January 20, 2011, 07:55:44 AM ---The problem with teens is they live in the here and now.  Adults have the benefit of experience to know that situations change and what is a terrible burden now won't last forever.  Unfortunately teens don't have that maturity to be able to look to how they are going to be feeling several weeks from now.  You said 'I know the hopeless feeling in this situation when I was that age', you are already equipped to minister to this boy.  Share with him how it was for you and that how it will get better.  Hard times are a way for us to grow and mature and it's simply a part of life.  Be there for him but be prepared for him to initially resist your efforts.

--- End quote ---

That's part of the problem. It took me two years to stop being depressed and get over that girl. But then I did not have the benefit of talking to someone so you make a good point. Thanks Arion you given me something to say to him.



Thanks Kat, I have been wanting to talk to him for a long time now about a couple thing I have learned here at bt. I do not know if this is relevant but he seems to be hung up on scribbling stuff like 666. I can so relate to that too when I was his age. For me it was my way of rebelling against God and everyone. It was also a cry for help.

Yes no matter what happens all is of God, and it is my hope God won't cause him to kill himself.


You have given me much to think about and say, thanks Kat.

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