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lostANDfound:
hi all, i've written and erased this post many times in previous weeks.  there's too much to put here but basically there is a mess of problems with my mother-in-law, her relationships with her sons, emotional abuse, addictions, and recently a suicide attempt.  i have questions about WHAT Is THE RIGHT THING TO DO!??  the few times she'll answer the phone she complains of being cold, hungry, having to sell furniture.  in the past she would only accept cash and we finally figured out (thank-you Father) that we shouldn't give her cash, but instead only directly pay for groceries, mortgage bills, etc.  then came the suicide attempt which would have been successful if God hadn't stirred us up to call the cops and break her door down after she'd been unconscious for 3 days.  and now she just doesn't ask for anything, which should be a relief, but i find even more disturbing after years of watching her manipulate her sons for money.  it seems like my husband has washed his hands of it all but i think it's a coping mechanism for him.  i am so grateful that we have prayer as a first and last resource for these situations but i'm hoping for some practical advice on what i can do to love her with a Chirst-like love. 
thanks.

Deborah-Leigh:

Pushing a porcupine away, when it wants a hug, can make it bristle more.

Embracing the porcupine to not live alone anymore, and move in with you.....?

We aren't talking a about a porcupine, but a person in great need of help. There are some professional therapies available also to ease the suffering of suicidal people.

Not a easy experience for you or your husband lostANDfound.

You have my sympathies and prayers

Deb.

Nan:
I will pray for your situation.

lostANDfound:
we've offered many times to have her come live with us.  she hasn't accepted any form of help unless it's cash.  she won't see us for any reason right now, but in the past she would only see us if we agreed to bring her money.  she is a bitter, hurt, enslaved, lonely person that God has placed in my life.  she has amazing children and grandchildren who she consistently alienates to feed her "victim" mentality.  you can probably sense a fair bit of exasperation mixed in with the concern i feel for her.  i feel as though we're just spinning our wheels in whatever we attempt with her.   

Deborah-Leigh:

I get the picture lostANDfound and I also get this picture....that you have opened your arms and heart and home to her and this gesture shall return to you to warm heal and bless you in time to come.

Blessings be on you andyour husband, as you endure
Deb

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