Mobile conference 2005
http://bible-truths.com/audio/M05 .mp3
Esther - The Destiny of Women
There is a difference between men and women, most of you know what those differences are. There is broad categories and generalizations and there are truths to those generalizations. Men like to have their vanity stroked. They love praise and recognition.
Women want power….did I lie? Somebody want to disagree with me? Well it does go both ways. But make no mistake about it, women want power. Of course they are pretty clever, they often times have the power, but they let their husbands think that he has the power. But they know when they actually possess it. It’s like, ‘go on your silly little way sweet heart, but I know who’s in control.’
Men like to battle and be conquers. They enjoy watching war movies more than women. Woman enjoy watching soap operas more than men. Are these not generalizations? Yea, they’re generalizations.
One teacher educator said, ‘men give love to get sex, and women give sex to get love.’ Does that ring true? I think so, these are truisms. People learn this at a young age, girls at about 12, 13 or 14, they realize that they have some power over boys. It doesn’t take them long to figure out, what it’s all about.
Men think with their heads, women think with their hearts. Men take it for granted that they are far superior than women. Women hate men for taking it for granted, that they are far superior than women. I don’t mean hate it, but you know they don’t like that vanity in men, that they automatically assume, ‘well I’m a man and I’m better than a woman.
What is the balance? Jesus Christ is the balance.
I got an email from a girl name Pat. She said, ‘I submit personally that God is a woman hater and showed it from the beginning. The original sin was Adams’s fault, that’s how sin entered the world. But God already hating women, gave the woman the blame and the worse punishment and set her low. Yes this great experiment had failed, but God already proved Himself to be gender prejudice and yes knowing the beginning from the end, He set the woman up and let her take the fall. I hate God, I really do. I hate most Christians.’
I get interesting emails. This girl is bitter. Now, what about it though? Don’t some of you women feel a little bit, that you have been a little lower than men, even from God’s perspective? I mean when we read scriptures like this, and here we have these apparent contradictions, when we read scriptures like Acts 10.
Acts 10:34 And Peter opened his mouth and said, Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons:
Alright we’ll accept that, the word of God says it, we should believe it. Notice this in Corinthians.
2Cor 6:18 And will be to you a Father, And ye shall be to Me sons and DAUGHTERS, says the Lord Almighty.
Did He leave women out? No, “sons and daughters.” Even though sons is used more often, daughters is in there, sons and daughters. God will be a Father to His sons and daughters. God is no respecter of persons.
Gal 3:28 There can be neither Jew nor Greek, there can be neither bond nor free, there can be NO MALE AND FEMALE; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
There is no male or female, you’re all one, you’re sons and daughters. God is no respecter of persons.
But then on the other hand… did you know that there are over 1700 personal names in the Bible, names of people. It took me about 3 hours to learn this one statistic, so I hope you will appreciate what I’m going to tell you. Over 1700 personal names in the Bible, but there are only 104 that are women. Wow, you’re out numbered 16 to 1, 1600 for the men, 104 for the women.
1Tim 2:11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.
Does that sting a little bit, women?
1Tim 2:13 For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
v. 14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
v. 15 Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
1Cor 14:34 Let your women be silent in the churches;
Wow, does that sting a little bit women? I thought God was no respecter of persons. I thought there is no male and female. I thought we were sons and daughters in the kingdom of God. What is all this?
Eph 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
v. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
v. 24 Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Does that sting a little bit ladies? Does that seem like a little bit of a put down? Do you see the same equality there with men? Here is another one.
Deu 24:1 When a man has taken a wife and married her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes, because he has found some uncleanness in her, then let him write her a bill of divorce and put it in her hand, and send her out of his house.
v. 2 And when she has departed from his house, she goes and becomes another man's;
v. 3 and the latter husband hates her and writes her a bill of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house; or if the latter husband dies, he who took her to be his wife
v. 4 her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife after she is defiled.
The Pharisees came to Christ and said, “can a man put away his wife for every cause?” (Matt 19:3)
Well what is this? Does that sound a little chauvinistic to you women? A man could put away his wife for any reason that she displeased him. Do we have a commandment like that for the women, that she could away her husband for any reason, is there such a commandment? No. Does that sound a little chauvinistic from the scriptures to you? Does that sting a little bit when you read these things women and you say, ‘I’d like to believe that God is no respecter of persons, but it sure seems like maybe He’s a respecter of gender.’
He calls the woman the weaker vessel, that might be thought of as a put down a little bit... the weaker vessel. Well I guess they could just bite their tongue and live by it and say, ‘I don’t quite understand it, but it does seem like we have been put down.’
The true of the matter is, that’s not true. Now didn’t you know that I was going to say something like that? You didn’t think I was going to dig a hole that I couldn’t get out of, did you? Let’s go back to Ephesians so I can clear something up really fast here.
Eph 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
v. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife….
How? To lord it over her, to be the boss, to crack the whip, to insult her, to have her walk 3 paces behind him, to cover her face with a veil in public, like the Muslims? Is that what it means?
Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
v. 24 Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
This is not as bad as it sounds, it is not nearly as bad as it might sound to you women. You are subject to your husbands, in the same way that your husband and the church is subject to Jesus Christ. Now let’s ask ourselves is that a bad thing? That the church should be subject to Jesus Christ, is that a bad thing? Well of course not. First of all it puts Jesus Christ in the seat of responsibility, He has to love, provide and protect His church. Is that not comforting?
What is the analogy of the husband to the wife then? The same thing. The husband is to love, provide and protect his wife. This is a beautiful thing! This is not chauvinistic and there are lessons to be learned for both. Men should learn the finer traits of femininity. Women should learn the virtuous quality of masculinity.
The perfect balance in all of this is Jesus Christ, who created them both. If Jesus Christ created man and woman, male and female, don’t you think He drew upon something to come up with what they are? The creation came out of the mind of God. So there is no inequality there. They are both to learn. Just because the man is over the wife and the wife is subject to the husband, is not a degrading position anymore than the church being subject to Christ is a degrading position. It is a very honorable position. Can we not agree on that?
But I know what some of you are thinking, ‘but you don’t know my husband, he ain’t no Christ.’ I do know that. But Christ will deal with your husband if he uses or abuses you or whatever. By the way, there is no law in the scripture that says a husband can use and abuse his wife and children and she has to put up with it. The husband is not the god over the woman and she has rights.
You know it says, except for fornication, she be put away, you that commit adultery (Matt 5:32). So is that the only thing that can dissolve a marriage, adultery? Well actually it doesn’t say adultery, it says fornication and if you’re married, you can’t commit fornication, I mean not technically. If you’re married you can only, technically, commit adultery you see.
But the word fornication comes from the Greek word ‘porneia,’ like pornography - porneia, it can mean a whole host of sins - immorality. If a husband will not provide for his family, Paul said he’s worse that an infidel. I mean he’s worse than if he had no religion at all, worse. That’s immorality, that grounds for leaving your husband. If he abuses the children, that’s porneia, that’s grounds for leaving your husband. If he beats you, that’s porneia, that’s immorality, that grounds for leaving.
Now don’t try to stretch your mind as to how thin you can take that. Like, ‘he said a cross word to me, I think Ray was saying that would probably be porneia.’ No, I’m talking about real abuse. You don’t need to stay in an abusive relationship, where you are beaten, where the children are abused, where your husband runs around like an ally cat, those all come under porneia - immorality. So God did not stick you in a situation that would be sheer hell and allowed no way to get out, He did not.
This shouldn’t be a problem to us, if we see that the proper relationship between the husband being over the wife, is the same as Christ being over the church. It shouldn’t be a problem with us. This is a beautiful thing. This is not chauvinism.
Now we have a lot of examples of men in the Bible doing and accomplishing great things. We have examples of how these men are going to be rewarded and stuff. The 12 Apostles, they said, ‘we’ve left our families and forsaken our livelihood to come out and what will we get out of it?’ Christ said, you will sit on thrones and rule over the 12 tribes of Israel. Well what about the women? What about their wives? You know they are not even mentioned. So you read this stuff and you say, ‘I don’t know, it seems like it’s a man’s world,’ even from God’s perspective. So let’s see.
Women did serve in the church. I don’t have time to go through all of this, but Lydia provided a home for Paul (Acts 16). Phebe, it says she was a deaconess (Rom 16). How was Christ’s ministry financed? It wasn’t through tithes and offerings.
Luke 8:1 And it came to pass soon afterwards, that he went about through cities and villages, preaching and bringing the good tidings of the kingdom of God, and with him the twelve,
v. 2 and certain women who had been healed of evil spirits and infirmities: Mary that was called Magdalene, from whom seven demons had gone out,
v. 3 and Joanna the wife of Chuzas Herod's steward, and Susanna, and many others (women), who ministered unto them OF THEIR SUBSTANCE.
That means their possessions - their wealth - their money. How about that. Who financed the ministry of Jesus Christ and the 12 Apostles? Women, no men were mentioned, just some women, that’s pretty neat. But what about the big jobs? Alright so they could finance the ministry and they could be deaconesses and stuff like that. But do we have examples of where God is going to set the women over the 12 tribes of Israel or something like that or is this all reserved for men?
We have an example of Joseph, who was a captive, slave in Egypt and God raised him all the way to the number 2 position, right under Pharaoh... and he was a slave! We have Daniel, he was a slave in Babylon, God raised him all the way up right under King Nebuchadnezzar, and the whole Babylonian empire. But what about women? Look what it says in I Corinthians.
1Cor 10:11 Now these things happened unto them by way of example; and they were written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the ages are come.
That these types were written for our admonition... when we read Joseph was raised up from slavery, to the second place under Pharaoh, that’s for our admonition. When we read about Daniel raising to the number 2 position in the Babylon empire, that’s for our admonition.
But what admonition do we have for women, where is that type? You could look at Ruth. She did pretty well. Ruth the Moabite, she went with her mother-in-law, when their husbands died and she said, ‘your God will be my God.’ She forsook paganism, went into a far country, said your God will be my God, she adopted their customs. She was willing to humble herself and go out in the fields and labor, as a common laborer. Because she had a good heart and attitude, she was probably a looker too. Boaz, who owned all this property and was a leader, ended up marrying her. So she did good. But is that as high as we go with women? If they are lucky and they play their cards right, they’ll marry a rich man, they’ll get a sugar daddy. Is that as far as these examples take us?
What about the virtuous woman? Okay, what has God got in store for her?
Pro 31:1 The words of King Lemuel, the prophecy which his mother taught him.
It’s interesting that it says, “his mother taught him.” this is not a man telling other men, here’s what you look for in a good woman. Lempel's ‘mother’ said, here’s what you look for in a good woman, a wife, you see.
Pro 31:10 Who can find a woman of virtue? For her value is far above rubies.
Rubies are worth more than diamonds, you know.
Pro 31:11 The heart of her husband trusts safely in her, so that he shall have no need of plunder.
v. 12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
v. 13 She seeks wool and flax, and works willingly with her hands.
v. 14 She is like the merchants' ships; she brings her food from afar.
My wife will do that , she shops for the best food and prices. She is always doing that, she is willing to do the work, just to bring home the groceries.
Pro 31:15 She also rises while it is still night, and gives food to her household, and a share to her young women.
v. 16 She considers a field, and buys it…
I mean this woman has some entrepreneurial abilities. She goes out and evaluates property and real-estate and makes a purchase. She plants a vineyard, with her own hands.
v. 16 …with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
v. 17 She binds her loins with strength, and makes her arms strong.
v. 18 She sees that her merchandise is good; her lamp does not go out by night.
And all of these are, of course parables. I could site every phrase in here and it’s a parable.
Pro 31:19 She lays her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
v. 20 She stretches out her hand to the poor; yea, she reaches forth her hands to the needy.
It’s a wonderful thing to see this in a woman. She just does it, you know. My wife will do that. If someone has a need, she will just make herself available.
Pro 31:21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household; for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
v. 22 She makes herself coverings; her clothing is silk and purple.
v. 23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.
Why is her husband known? Because of this wife. That’s what it is saying.