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longhorn:
Hank now has a bright red number 3 painted on his shell...... if he wonders again... he's on his own.

Longhorn

Samson:

--- Quote from: cjwood on May 27, 2011, 12:29:44 AM ---@craig...so many words spoken in your post.  i have felt a deep appreciation, and brotherly love for you ever since i first started reading your posts way back when.  ;)  i believe that your post response was directed to me for the most part, then to those who (can, at times) get their feelings hurt, and to those who are very sensitive, etc. since you are also apparently including me in this deficient group of members (need to grow a backbone  ???), i believe your response would have been better served in a pm to me.  but, since you rather chose to respond within the thread, as to why my post was removed, i will do likewise.  however, it would be wrong for me to do that on this thread.  i will respond to some of the specifics you brought up at a later time, on a new topic thread.

@samson...this thread topic is very interesting, enlightening, and at times hilarious. 


Hi Claudia,

My apologies that you originally "might" have felt that I was intending to secure answers from those that are part of some inner circle. Of course, you noticed my Wife's response. She made that response while I was at work last night without My endorsement, another personality trait that has lead to Her Mental Health demise; ie- attempting to fix hurt feelings, " to please," everyone, etc. In a balanced way, attempting to please other people & try to reconcile differences is healthy, I fall into that category too.

My intention was to just randomly, at that Posting moment, choose names that would approach this Topic from a different angle. As Moises recognized, I didn't list Unmarried Members with the exception of John from Kentucky, for His Humor sarcastic approach & John Michael, because He Has had experience & success with assisting Couples by providing interpretation for their misunderstandings of their Mars/Venus Brains. Craig for Comedy, Kat, Arcturus, Gena & Rene for Wisdom provided regarding the Female Brain and helpful insights towards gaining a better understanding to this Age Long conflict. All of them lived up to My expectations, including Grace & Moxicarose.

Of course, those recommendations in my original Post were not meant to be all inclusive, by any means. Actually, I probably would have listed you and Eileen Knight, but I haven't noticed the two of you on the Forum lately, so you Gals slipped my mind. In passing, I slightly noticed approximately, a week ago, a Thread Eileen Knight started a week ago about breaking someone's heart, not really having interest, not because I dislike Eileen Knight, but I glanced over it thinking: Boy, some Woman would be fortunate, at Her Age, to look good enough to break hearts. In all honesty, aside from Kat, John Popovich & John Michael Abercrombie, I don't hardly communicate with any Forum Members. Craig, I hardly ever conversed with, aside from a very few PM's, that were mostly Yes & No responses, that includes Dennis too. I even asked Craig to be Friends on Facebook and He never responded. Joe Ferra(Hillsbororiver) told me that Craig doesn't even go to Face Book too much, so I didn't take offense. Moxicarose made a very interesting Post on this Thread and I didn't even think of Her. I'm certainly not ignoring Moises, He's provided some very interesting Threads & Posts. He had one on General Discussions recently that seemed to require much thought and I never responded, because I will sometimes avoid Threads that require too much reflection, thought, insight and research for a fear that I won't answer in the right way and look stupid and not be thorough enough, not feeling able to INVEST THE TIME, right now. Occasionally, that includes Arcturus too, she's very intelligent and to respond to some Her Posts would require too many Brain Cells and Deep thought for me to respond, at least, at that particular time. Sometimes, I see a Thread and don't have the time to invest an intelligent answer and time will pass by and I forget about that Thread, so My apologies to others, as well.

               Claudia, I hope the above, makes some sort of sense to you, I noticed that Marques showed good Wisdom to abstain from this Thread,  ;D, Samson.

claudia

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Samson:
Hi Responders & Others,

I will attempt to insert quotes from responders with My reply. Kat told me how to copy a particular quote from the Posts desired & put into my white Post area, I don't even know what I'm doing. I want to learn how to insert part of quote like others do, where it has your name, I don't know how to do that.

CRAIGS FIRST POST: Thanks for the Humor, for Me, it's the Knicks & Mets won the championship & We made Love too,  ;D.

Deborah's Post: The so much part is that any reason is simply a figment of a self justification of which Pam is aloof and beyond such denigrations and or constructs of a human ego, presenting for itself, its case for, or against a motion. Hence that reply, it is what it is, means the highest form by which the actual statement is, I love you and so there is nothing else to say of the matter. Let’s move on, my way that is in harmony, joy and appreciation for being able to let go of self justification. It is what it is.

Comment: Yes Deborah, it's true, no justification required, none really sought from Me, it's more of an obsession needing to know THE REASON FOR EVERYTHING, motivated sometimes by fear of the unknown of what a Woman might unexpectingly bring my way. Does that make any sense to you,  ;).

FROM JOHN MICHAEL: Sometimes I truly think that God separated not only His masculinity and femininity when He created Man and Woman, but that He also separated His Mind and Heart. One would be ruled by one, and the other would be ruled by the other. The joining of the two would reflect His completeness (granted, in an imperfect way).

Comment: Often True, but not written in stone, as others have expressed, great insightful post. You would make a good Marriage Counselor, forget the Criminal Justice pursuit, help us poor Married couples,  ;).
From Moxicarose: My husband and I will be married 12 years this August, and we are different as day and night when it comes to how we view things most of the time! And yes, I know that's the condition of the majority of married couples. Venus/Mars and all that. Tongue But I think it's interesting that what Samson said about wanting to know the reason behind his wife's doings and her frustration with his analytical tendency actually is the OPPOSITE for me and my husband. I am the one who wants to know why and he is the one who is happy with it just being what it is. I have a mind that spins a million miles a minute and he can fall asleep in 6 seconds flat. (While I am sorting thoughts and asking God to let the spinning slow down enough for me to sleep) The emotional side of things is still mine, of course...so not only am I analytical, but i go through the confusion of my own feelings and try to analyze them as well..Meanwhile my husband forgets that i deal with these things and wonders what crawled under my skin..Haha! He really is so comfy in his own skin. He actually isn't really that frustrated with me ever, and that frustrates me! I want him to seem like he cares more than he does because I feel all alone being so concerned with figuring things out...

balance.

balance needs to happen. Smiley

Comment: The Analytical Women with the Emotional nuances. This is an interesting combination. I WAS Married to someone like that. That Kind of Women, for Me, usually makes a good friend for me, but, as my current Wife observed, is a bad mix for a relationship, sorta like Ray's Unequally Yoked Article describes, an unequal personality mix, mainly due to the over analyzing of every emotional nuance & detail that their Hormones might dictate & more. John Michael pointed this out to me.

From Kat: Another thing I will say is I think God made a means by which in relationships, with the combination of these different strengths and weaknesses of our genders, to enriching our knowledge (physical that is). Because each brings their own gender perspective that can add greatly to the understanding of the other. As well as all the joys and pleasures of you can have in a relationship there is the inevitable problems, which are great avenue for trials and tribulations and if we are to be overcomers, we need something to overcome. So it seems to me this whole male-female thing was design to make possible a great part of the good and evil experiences that we have in this life. I will just leave it at that.

Comment: Your Husband's response about the Rain is quite similar to what my response. Of course, an added factor for Me is that: " I hate rain," I'm consistent about that. We would have to go without Rain for two months up here before you heard a peep from Me. " It never rains in California(Southern Mississippi), Girl don't they warn Ya."

Gena's Response: Conclusion Samson???  It may be more like brains are just different period!!! Wink  And Lord I don't know why HE made us all this way!!

Comment: I concur Gena ! On an intellectual level, I do understand, it's on the emotional level, I have yet to come to grips with.

Moises Response: ps. Samson, I hope these thread don't get you in any more little troubles

Comment: I welcome Your response on any Thread I start, but as you figured out, I didn't think to list you as a primary responder, because of Your being Single and asking me for advice in PM's regarding relationships. Asking Me for advice, can you imagine that,  ;D. I'm afraid this entire world is going to give all of us trouble, Lets not go looking for it,  ;).

Grace's Response: Believe it or not but, like you, I used to want an analysis and detailed information about everything and I would also analyze and give detailed information about everything.  I would like to think I'm different now but, probably not.  Grin .  At least you realize you are this way....I didn't even know I was like that until I started noticing people yawn sometimes when I was giving my analysis and details.   Cheesy  I do see how God is working on me in this area though because just like I said at the beginning of this post....now, I give quick answers at times and don't give details or reasons for them and even with that they can be misunderstood or seem "short" to others and I usually get myself in trouble if I don't explain myself (go figure!).  My husband was just the opposite too.  He never explained anything and I took everything he said the wrong way.

Comment: Grace, You have nothing to apologize for. By the way, I value John Michael's opinion and He speaks very highly of you. Regarding the Yawning, I often tell my wife that She probably broke the Guiness world record for Yawns. You other comments somewhat parallel Moxicarose.  Actually Kat's very analytical too, no Girly Girl Bimbo in Her, She's Analytical without the emotional nuances. By the way, I wasn't implying that you were a Girly Girl Bimbo, actually, that's a term My wife came up with,  ::).

Well, aside from Longhorn's Humor, as expected & appreciated, that should cover it, aside from those like Daywalker who acknowledged their pleasure & agreement. Rene said She would be annoyed with Me too, kind of anticipated She would have been,  ;D, I can be a very annoying person, mainly due to my hyperactivity & nervous energy, ask My wife,  ;).

Kat:

Hi Samson,

Try this.

Text in 'quote' box:
To take a certain section of a post and put it in your post in a darkened 'quote' box, you need to; 
Go to the post you want to quote and take your curser (the arrow on the page) to the first word and left click it on the first word and hold the clicker down and drag it over the line and go down over the entire text you want to quote.  Now with this darkened you can right click and then click the 'save' option and you have it saved to use where you want. 
Now you can go to your message box and put your curser where you want the text to come up on the page and click there so your curser will blink where you want the text to be on the page.  Now right click and click on the 'paste' option.  This will bring up the text you want to quote.
Now drag your curser over it again and darken it again.  Go to the icons and look for the little box that says 'insert quote' and click on it.  This puts the BB code on either side of the text in your message box, but it will come up in the darkened box on your post.  You can 'preview' it before you post if you like.

Kat

crazy4bam:
To all my brothers and sisters;

       This thread got me thinking about one of the first papers of Ray's that Samson read to me. I like re-reading sometimes because it makes me remember that all of us are not going to be the same and we will be unevenly yoked. Here are some of the main points of that paper:

[Marriage and Unbelievers]

Many have read the passage in the Bible where Paul admonishes: "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers," and have then assumed from it, all kinds of restrictions on Christian marriages. What constitutes an unequally yoked together marriage, or for that matter, an equally yoked together marriage?

Many will be shocked to learn that this verse is not referring to "marriage" at all.

The phrase "unequally yoked together" is not a phrase that signifies a "marriage." Nonetheless, in principle it certainly applies to marriage.

"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? Or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? For ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, says the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive, and will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty" (II Cor. 6:14-18).

The phrase "unequally yoked together" is the translation of just one Greek word, heterozugeo, which is a compound word that means, "to yoke up differently; to associate discordantly; unequally yoke together." It is used but this one time in the Bible.

The word "yoke" means a coupling as when two oxen are coupled or yoked together by a pulling beam to do work such as plowing a field or pulling a wagon.

So what did Paul mean by all these? Well, first of all it is not possible to live in a country, state, county, city, or village without constantly coming in contact with just such persons. Even Jesus Himself prayed and specified to His Father exactly how He desired for us to live under such circumstances in this life:

    Joh 17:15 I pray not that You should take them out of the world, but that You should keep them from the evil.

In a sense Jesus was requesting that His disciples would "not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers."

So how do we apply these verses to marriage? Was Paul suggesting that members of the Corinthian Church congregation could not and should not marry other members of the congregation? NO. He was very specific: "Be ye not unequally yoked together with UNBELIEVERS." Were they all spiritually converted? NO. Could a spiritually-minded Corinthian marry a carnal-minded Corinthian? Good question. Are not all "believers" spiritual-minded and all "unbelievers" carnally-minded? Let's back up to Paul's first epistle to these same Corinthians:

    1Co 3:1 And I, brethren, could not speak unto you as unto spiritual, but as unto carnal, even as unto babes in Christ.

    1Co 3:2 I have fed you with milk, and not with meat: for hitherto ye were not able to bear it, neither yet now are ye able.

    1Co 3:3 For ye are yet carnal..."
I have personally seen marriages between a believer and a non-believer that were more loving and equally yoked than some marriages between two believers. So we need to pay close attention to ALL the words of these profound Scriptures.We can advise and try to help people see different aspects of a situation. We can relay our own personal knowledge of such things. But we should not get involved in being overly righteous in these matters lest we be guilty of "forbidding to marry" (I Tim. 4:3), which is a doctrine of demons (Verse 1).

  I know that this is only some of what Ray's paper points out. IMO it states that we can and probably will be unevenly yoked to alot of people, does that mean we don't associate with them...NO! We can also apply this to marriage, some marriages last along time if the pair are the same, sometimes not. My husband and I are like water and vinegar, we just are not alike at all. When you add a little spice to our mix of water and vinegar it makes are marriage work. I can say that we have a very living relationship, not only is he my husband, he is also my best friend. Well, I talked long enough, and Samson will say thats more then I usually say.

                                                                            your sister,
                                                                                  Pam          

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