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Deborah-Leigh:
Hi Pam
I thoroughly enjoyed that study and insight Ray provided for us. Especially: The phrase "unequally yoked together" is not a phrase that signifies a "marriage." L Ray Smith....it applies to marriage...as Ray points out, yet is not soley speaking of marriage!
That sure put things into perspective.
Hi Samson
You convey measured and valuable affirmations of encouragement. Also you seemingly effortlessly bring to the surface very significant observations. eg
Quote :... an obsession needing to know THE REASON FOR EVERYTHING, motivated sometimes by fear of the unknown...\
This says to me...obsession : the need to know the reason for everything.
God IS everything.
Going deeper...just for a second....obsession : the need to limit the un-limitable. Or the need to control God and knowing you can’t, and being afraid, being very afraid, because you know you can’t and you still try anyway, so you scare yourself to death trying! ~lol.... :D
.....perfect love casts out fear...~ :)
Arc
JohnMichael:
For me, personally, I can relate to those that have Analysis-based brains and well as Emotional-based ones. I tend to be split, somewhat, equally down the middle. It can be a headache and a curse at times.
For example, here's a fictitious scenario:
I see a friend has a booger hanging out of his nose.
The logical answer would be to tell him. However, I take 10 minutes deciding whether or not to tell him because I don't want to embarrass him. My mind is analyzing every nuance of how he would take it. "Will he be embarrassed? How can I say this to avoid that? How should I say it so as to minimize any embarrassment? Should I just leave it be? Would he tell me if the roles were reversed? Would he want me to tell him?" Etc.
Sometimes I wish my brain had an "OFF" switch that I could push. I really do. ;D
John
Grace:
--- Quote from: JohnMichael on May 27, 2011, 10:52:08 AM ---For me, personally, I can relate to those that have Analysis-based brains and well as Emotional-based ones. I tend to be split, somewhat, equally down the middle. It can be a headache and a curse at times.
For example, here's a fictitious scenario:
I see a friend has a booger hanging out of his nose.
The logical answer would be to tell him. However, I take 10 minutes deciding whether or not to tell him because I don't want to embarrass him. My mind is analyzing every nuance of how he would take it. "Will he be embarrassed? How can I say this to avoid that? How should I say it so as to minimize any embarrassment? Should I just leave it be? Would he tell me if the roles were reversed? Would he want me to tell him?" Etc.
Sometimes I wish my brain had an "OFF" switch that I could push. I really do. ;D
John
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JohnMichael,
I can't help but respond to this. I'm laughing my head off as I read this......How well I can relate!! I'm not so much like that now but, let me tell ya....I went in the other direction and just blurt it out now and you still will get the same type of responses if you tell them they have a booger on their nose immediately and when you wait 10 minutes..... ;D ;D
Grace
Linny:
Well, you were right! It definitely hasn’t been boring! :D
I have to look at my family here to formulate a response. When we began our marriage almost 20 years ago, I was the analytical one with the big mouth who said whatever I thought whenever I felt like it. I had a very small filter.
Hubby on the other hand, took WAY too much crap for my liking and could ignore me when I wanted to fight! How dare he.
After all these years, I find myself the one with the best filter and he takes ZERO crap! We seem to have melded together or taken in/on each other’s strengths. We appreciate one another so much.
My husband being the peaceful type was attracted to my kick butt and take no prisoners type. He to this day LOVES female heroine movies and characters. Not because that is who I am by any means but that is how he sees me. How precious is that?
And I was equally attracted to a person with amazing self-control who had such a servant’s heart to others and so much mercy for the downtrodden that I didn’t and still do not possess like he does.
So to answer your initial question about WHY I have to say that it is because we’d be bored out of our minds living with someone who didn’t challenge us or who thought just like us and I can’t see us growing out of ourselves at all.
I have always been interested in personality types and I truly believe that our strengths are also our greatest weaknesses if we do not reign them in. I think finding a mate who is unlike ourselves is one way that God uses to hold up a mirror and show us how to tame those traits and use them as He intended. And I think my children are better for having to live with and deal with people who are so very different in how we interact with the world. We get to guide the one who is like us to grow in her strengths and we get to teach them to appreciate one another and learn from each other.
So as irritating as it can be to live with such an annoying person sometimes, ;D :D ;), it has so many benefits!
Deborah-Leigh:
Hi Linny ~ you absolutely echo what has also happened in my marriage too! It is like an identity swop in a few character traits that were totally alien to me when I first met my husband.
I have learned things I did not want to learn and have changed in ways I could never imagine possible! ~ :D I found this quote today that I think fits ....
... there is a Chinese proverb: Great doubts deep
wisdom. Small doubts little wisdom.
Never stop doubting, never stop questioning, never,
ever assume you have all the answers. Having all the
answers kills the question itself; renders it lifeless --
and you, too...
Keep looking, keep seeking. Never, ever find it all.
Because when you find it all, you deny that there is
more. And there is never not more.
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