Well said Dennis.
My advice?
Success and failure are relative; they are a state of mind; an attitude if you will.
There are no absolute successes or absolute failures.
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There is a British comedy series that was aired a couple of years ago called, “That Mitchell and Webb Look” (recommended!). In one of their sketches, Mitchell and Webb were playing Nazi SS officers in the midst of battle.
The dialogue went something like this:
“ Otto, why are we here? I mean, what’s this all about? All this shooting and stuff?”
“ Hans my friend, it doesn’t matter WHY we’re here; we have orders and a job to do.”
“ But why are we dressed in black? And have you noticed that we have Skull and Bones on our hats? That’s not very nice is it? What’s all that about? We’re going to frighten people walking about with these things on our heads.”
“Hans; we are supposed to be frightening. It’s all designed to frighten people. This is war.”
“WAR? But whose side are we on? Those chaps we’re firing at don’t look half as frightening as us.”
Hans looks down again at his uniform and suddenly has a gross realisation.
“Otto? Are we the ‘bad’ guys?”
Otto looks blankly at Hans and gently nods.
“Oh my God! This is awful ! I’m going home.”
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As funny as that may sound, nobody will go to war believing they are wrong.
Axis troops were praying to God, just as the Allies were.
I’m not justifying the madness of genocide and war here; I’m drawing a parallel.
In the ‘latter days’ scenarios of scripture, all types of malevolent and insidious men are numbered as well as those that are peaceable and benign.
Neither camp believes they are wrong.
What has this got to do with your circumstances?
Well, negatively, someone has to be the ‘bad’ guy. God predicts it.
Now lets transfer this value judgement to commerce and industry.
Let’s take a look at success and failure.
SUCCESS is good, right? ; and FAILURE is bad, yeah?
SUCCESS is RIGHT ? FAILURE is WRONG ?
What if you succeed in doing wrong? Or fail to do right?
The whole notion of success and failure is a cultural abstract.
I totally recognise were your head is. You sound like me.
The trick is not to see it as success or failure.
I’m halfway through my first major screenplay. It’s been three years so far; because of distractions. It took me a full year just to outline, another year to storyline and this last year is actually becoming a script. Looking back, I could have done all this in six months; so why didn’t I ? Attitude.
Attitude to what you are following or are engaged in is the single most important ingredient of concluding a matter to your satisfaction.
concluding a matter to your satisfaction.Success and failure don’t come into it. It’s about how satisfied YOU are with what you’re doing.
My father told me that there is no such thing as a lazy man.
Men are either motivated to do something or they are not.
It’s entirely a question of MOTIVATION.
“ Dad, how the hell do you get a man out of bed if he refuses to be motivated to get up?”
His answer?
“Set fire to the bed. That’s enough motivation for anyone, I don’t care how lazy he is.”
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The question I had to ask myself about being a budding ‘Hollywooder’ was:
Did I believe it?
It seems you have a very distinct goal in your head, not just a doctor, but a specialist.
Henry Thoreau once stated:
“ If you can head confidently in the direction of your dreams and live the kind of life you have imagined, you will come across a success undreamt of in common hours.”
The most important word in that entire statement?
IF.
IF you can.
Can you head CONFIDENTLY in the direction of your dreams?
Would you like to be able to?
Let me tell you what’s missing here.
A COMPELLING FUTURE.
The guy in the flaming bed already has a compelling future; PAIN.
He sees the approaching consequence of his lethargy and bingo!
He immediately chooses the PLEASURE of not being fried to a crisp.
You need to start using your imagination to build a compelling future.
Whatever ‘floats your boat’.
Do you see yourself making over $200,000 a year?
What would it be like?
What kind of a car will you drive?
What kind of a home will you own?
What kind of clothes, food, friends, partner and lifestyle will you have?
What kind of challenges might you face?
What if it all goes belly up?
What would that mean?
Now you’ve probably seen all this kind of methodology before, in some form or another.
But it’s about
concluding a matter to your satisfaction.No one else’s.
Ask yourself. Why do you believe what you believe about you?
The
Reticular Activating System (check it out on wiki) is that function of your brain that governs attention. That which you say you lack.
“Ye lack nothing”EMOTION plays a big role here and that is what is causing your attention to wonder away from that which
you say is important. Maybe without realising it, you are investing your emotions into things that
you say are contrary to you real desires.
When I first read your piece on BTF, I was reminded of a time when a lady friend asked me to fetch the salt from her kitchen cupboard. I walked into a huge kitchen that was completely unknown to me. I checked every single shelf, over and over. I began an internal mantra that ran: “ I dunno where the salt is. Where’s the salt? I can’t find the salt. It’s not here. It can’t be here. I cant see it. I cant see it, I cant find the salt, I cant find the salt, I cant find the salt.”
She’s calling for the salt now and I don’t want to look stupid. I’m getting angry with myself. My emotions are sizzling and suddenly I burst.
“ I CAN’T FIND THE #*&^%& !! SALT !!!”
She walks quietly into the kitchen, looks in disbelief at me and takes the salt from the shelf that was directly in front of me; at eye level!
Why didn’t I see the salt?
Because I had been telling myself, with great emotional intensity, that I COULDN’T FIND THE SALT !
So my R.A.S. did exactly as I told it and refused to see the salt.
This mechanism also works in reverse!
Every buy a yellow car because it was unusual?
All of a sudden, you’re seeing yellow cars everywhere!
Did everyone go get a re-spray just to ‘tick you off’?
NOOOOOO!
They were always there, but you just didn’t notice because there was nothing in your radar to pick ‘em up.
This is an attention mechanism that is fueled by emotion.
And THAT is what you must harness to Med studies, if being a Doc is what you truly want.
But forget the success and failure crap; it isn’t serving you.
And stop asking the question, “What’s wrong with me?”, because your own ego will take great delight in giving you a list which will swim around your head, creating your ‘reality’ of just how wrong you are.
Find what makes you happy, what ‘juices’ you and follow it with high emotional intensity; give it passion. But DO use and rely on
imagination.The world we live in was built by it.
You are made in His image. His imagination is your reality. You are like Him.
Every thought you have will be a cause that has an effect. Every thought. Make it captive. Make it serve your happiness; your joy. That’s His will for you. Be Happy.
I understand that this may be a lot to take in and you may be hearing these things for the first time. Its impossible to cram a dissertation into a single mail, but if you’ve caught something in these few lines that has piqued your desire, please be in touch on the PM line.
Muchest Luv
Grape x
PS. Lyric from Daddy
http://youtu.be/0put0_a--Ng
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