http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7X7sZzSXYs"A video by filmmaker, Andrea Dorfman, and poet/singer/songwriter, Tanya Davis.
Davis wrote the beautiful poem and performed in the video which Dorfman directed, shot, animated by hand and edited. The video was shot in Halifax, Nova Scotia...
This video was shot on a Panasonic HVX 200 and the animation was hand drawn+painted and then scanned into Adobe After Effects, exported as QTs and edited on FCP."
HOW TO BE ALONE by Tanya Davis
If you are at first lonely, be patient.
If you've not been alone much, or if when you were,
you weren't okay with it, then just wait.
You'll find it's fine to be alone,
once you're embracing it.
We could start with the acceptable places, the bathroom, the coffee shop, the library.
Where you can stall and read the paper,
where you can get your caffeine fix and sit and stay there.
Where you can browse the stacks and smell the books.
You're not supposed to talk much anyway, so it's safe there.
There's also the gym.
If you're shy you could hang out with yourself in mirrors,
you could put headphones in.
And there's public transportation, because we all gotta go places.
And there's prayer and meditation.
No one will think less if you're hanging with your breath
seeking peace and salvation.
Start simple.
Things you may have previously based on your avoid being alone principals.
The lunch counter, where you will be surrounded by chow-downers.
Employees who only have an hour and their spouses work across town
and so they -- like you -- will be alone.
Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone.
When you are comfortable with eat lunch and run,
take yourself out for dinner.
A restaurant with linen and silverware.
You're no less intriguing a person when you're eating solo dessert
to cleaning the whipped cream from the dish with your finger.
In fact, some people at full tables will wish they were where you were.
Go to the movies, where it is dark and soothing.
Alone in your seat, amidst a fleeting community.
And then, take yourself out dancing to a club [COMMENT: Or in your own apt. ? ],
where no one knows you.
Stand on the outside of the floor till the lights convince you, more and more,
and the music shows you.
Dance like no one's watching...because, they're probably not.
And, if they are, assume it is with best of human intentions.
The way bodies move genuinely to beats is, after all, gorgeous and affecting.
Dance until you're sweating, and beads of perspiration remind you of life's best things,
down your back like a brook of blessings.
Go to the woods alone,
and the trees and squirrels will watch for you.
Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets,
there're always statues to talk to.
And benches made for sitting give strangers a shared existence,
if only for a minute
And these moments can be so uplifting,
and the conversations you get in by sitting
alone on benches might've never happened
had you not been there by yourself
Society is afraid of alonedom,
like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements,
like people must have problems
if, after a while, nobody is dating them.
but lonely is a freedom that breathes easy and weightless,
and lonely is healing, if you make it.
You could stand, swathed by groups and mobs or hold hands with your partner,
look both further and farther for the endless quest for company.
But no one's in your head,
and by the time you translate your thoughts
some essence of them may be lost,
or perhaps it is just kept.
Perhaps, in the interest of loving oneself,
perhaps, all those sappy slogans from preschool over to high school's groaning,
were tokens for holding the lonely at bay.
Cuz if you're happy in your head
then solitude is blessed and alone is okay.
It's okay if no one believes like you.
All experience is unique,
no one has the same synapses, can't think like you.
For this be relieved,
keeps things interesting
life's magic things in reach.
And, it doesn't mean you're not connected,
that community's not present
Just take the perspective you get
from being one person in one head
and feel the effects of it.
Take silence and respect it.
If you have an art that needs a practice,
stop neglecting it.
If your family doesn't get you, or religious sect is not meant for you,
don't obsess about it.
You could be in an instant surrounded, if you needed it
If your heart is bleeding, make the best of it
There is heat in freezing, be a testament.