Remarriage

[John from Kentucky]

Jesus said, "But go and learn what this means: 'I desire mercy and not sacrifice.'  For I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners, to repentance."  Matt. 9:13

The top of the ark of the covenant, which represented God's throne, was known as the "mercy seat."

"Mercy and truth preserve the king, and by mercy he upholds his throne."  Proverbs 20:28

[Gina]

Jesus said, "But go and learn what this means: 'I desire mercy and not sacrifice.'  For I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners, to repentance."  Matt. 9:13

The top of the ark of the covenant, which represented God's throne, was known as the "mercy seat."

"Mercy and truth preserve the king, and by mercy he upholds his throne."  Proverbs 20:28

I love that.

[River]

Hey Dennis,

  I am sorry you misunderstood my post. And I am sorry others have jumped on the band wagon to make what I consider personal attacks. I guess you are not aware that I have been married and divorced. My age is 43 in less than a month. Also my wife left me with a 3 year old son who I have raised on my own. I also have battled mental illness since I was 18 after being medically discharged from the Marines. I have spent over a year in hospital stays for mental breakdowns. I have been put in five point restraints more times than I can keep track of. And I have been Baker Acted many times as well. I have lived off disability most of my life. But I am not into a contest with anyone on who has suffered more grief. I try to accept my life and do my best. You if desire to keep throwing stones my way, feel free. Your wasting your time because I know I am a sinner and I know I don't have the answers. What ever I write I also have applied to myself. So yes when I wrote about people getting married and divorced, I was included in that! My post still stands, we don't understand! I didn't think my wife would ever leave me and my son. I never worked for that to happen or planned it to happen. And that is one of my points. From the sounds of it you must of thought I was coming down (judging) people who have been married and divorced. But now you know, I've been there! I personally could care less about that sort of marriage anymore. I like the marriage proposel God has given me. And he don't leave nor forsake. 

[ez2u]

River  my heart went out to you bless you   it truly is a very unique struggle that you have  mental illness runs in my family and  it is very difficult  Thank God you know Jesus Christ what a blessing  my father and sister are both mentally ill and have a personal relationship with Christ which has been extremely helpful in their daily struggles  my son Josh has a way to go  but our love is strong for him as our prayers are many.  these are issues are to understand  peggy

[onelovedread]

Wow. Do we even remember dre91's original post: "Can I remarry after a divorce?"
Sounds as if he is asking whether God permits this. From the responses, it sounds like a yes. But perhaps everyone who does should be led by their conscience, and should do so in faith, rather than guilt.

[DougE6]

Now there is some irony. Some people who were railing against "judging" were apparently guilty of doing just that very thing.

[Gina]

The person we are in a burning building isn't the person we are at a picnic.

[octoberose]

Hi dre,
I had wondered how you were. It's nice to see you on the forum.
Since the Bible likens the marriage of a man and a woman to Christ and His Church, it's not surprising that we are to be mindful of the Holiness it represents.
Can you remarry? I fervently hope so. Whatever you do, do it in faith.
I love Ephesians 5:25-33, especially in the amplified version. It speaks of the sacrificial love that a husband should have for his wife. If you feel led to love like that, then your life and your wife will be truly blessed.
Whatever you do I pray God's mercy and peace over you.

[Revilonivek]

Can I remarry after a divorce?

I would say- Follow your heart. if you feel led to remarry. go for it. Just do it for Love.

Denise

[Gina]

Now there is some irony. Some people who were railing against "judging" were apparently guilty of doing just that very thing.

Don't start, Doug.

[acomplishedartis]

Since most of us here are supposed like-minded, then it's fine if we (with enough evidence and love) try to reprehend someone for his own good and for the good of the ones around.

One of the restrictions of online communication is that we can't see others hands movements, face exprecions, tone of voice, etc. therefore what we write is what matter the most and what we write is most of the evidence from where others can decode what we are trying to say. So I guess it is important that we try to convey well what are we really trying to mean when we write.

Dennis response regarding judging have been a good lesson for me to remember. It reminds me a writing from Ray called 'Repentence and guilty of all', it is one of my favorite ones. I believe that it is a good exercise to try to put your self in the shoes of many others and then try as best as we can to judge not.

''All wrong, but given similar conditions, YOU would do the same!''

Yes, I can certainly apply those principles to other kinds of mistakes (sins). If people around here (the forum) wouldn't know better then there is no point on telling them to judge not.
With people whom doesn't know better we should not even get surprised when they do something that it is wrong.

[Dennis Vogel]

Now there is some irony. Some people who were railing against "judging" were apparently guilty of doing just that very thing.

If you are referring to me Doug, in what way am I guilty of judging?

[Samson]

Can I remarry after a divorce?

Hi Dre,

I've been following this Thread since the beginning, deciding to wait awhile to Post. As some Forum Members know, at least some, maybe more, I have much experience in this area, Marriage/Divorce/Separation and even some instances of Porneia(both parties involved in some cases), All to my Eonian shame, nothing to be proud of, but fact non the less.

The bottom line is that you can't UNRING A BELL, meaning this, if your legally divorced from a previous Marriage and are now contemplating Marrying someone else, that's your choice. Hopefully, for your sake, you've had enough experience with previous relationships to have presently learned to proceed with caution before saying " I Do," Perhaps you might want to get Married to avoid committing Fornication(Porneia), Premarital Sex in this case. If that's true, that's good, but you certainly wouldn't want to sin by getting Married to someone your not evenly yoked with and putting yourself in a position where the odds might indicate it could lead to the same problem again, ie- another relationship that might lead to divorce.

Of course, only God knows the Beginning & End of every matter, what exactly is going to transpire in the relationship, providing you decide to say " I Do," still it would behoove anyone of us to proceed with caution in this Choice, Marriage that is, especially if Our experience has taught us the hard reality of what an unsound choice could lead to.

I know, the power of physical sexual attraction can be strong and cause us to getting Married and if We believe that We like that Person, that will add weight towards choosing to do so.

I mentioned UNRINGING A BELL earlier. Please let Me explain by sharing an experience. Back in 1989, I divorced my first Wife, I fell in "Love" with a Younger Woman and Married Her shortly after Divorcing My first Wife, I really didn't want to Marry this second Wife, at least, not right away. My intellect told Me to wait, but I didn't want to lose Her, plus She cried, whined, nagged, etc, so I caved in and We got Married. A Minister friend of mine told Me that since My divorce wasn't on scriptural grounds(Porneia), I would have to return to my first Wife, even if it meant getting rid of my second Wife. Of course I thought that was ridiculous, but He insisted that the divorce of My first Wife wasn't valid, because I committed Porneia and She didn't. This Minister applied the passage at Matthew. 19:3-9 to the exact tee, meaning this: My wife would be eligible for obtaining a Divorce, because she didn't commit Adultery, but since I got divorced on Unscriptural grounds, My divorce was invalid and so was My new Marriage.

See how complicated this might get, you can't unring a bell. If you got drunk or told an insignificant Lie, could you undue or eliminate what you already did or if you punched someone in the nose ten years ago, can you undue what you already did. All you can do now, is pray to God to cause you to make better choices than the ones you made in the past.

The comments in this type of a thread can be addressed from so many directions, it can get confusing. Hope this might help and not ruffle too many feathers. I might make a comment to River and maybe some others. Kat explained to Me about inserting quotes in a dark box in order to answer more than one Person in the same Post, but I have to practice that first,  .

Kind Regards, Samson.

[Gina]

Dre,

If you get remarried, promise me you'll play this for your wife on your honeymoon, wherever that may be.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vy8AHo3R-RM&feature=autoplay&list=PLFF839D5A5DC531F0&lf=plpp_video&playnext=2

(I will give the first person to come up with the lyrics to that song...a "kudos." )

[indianabob]

Hi Gina,
I listened to the song and it was nice music, but why would a man want to play it for his intended or his wife? Was there a message that a woman would appreciate?
I'm old and dumb, but I can be romantic given the right motivation. Sorry I just don't see why you offered it to Dre 

[Gina]

I don't know a lick of Portuguese, so if there's a message, I wouldn't know.  Just something in my head tells me its honeymoon music. 

[aktikt]

Gina,

You sure know how to hijack a thread.  Nice. 
I think in this case the hijacking was for the better, though .

Josh

[Gina]

Gina,

You sure know how to hijack a thread.  Nice. 
I think in this case the hijacking was for the better, though .

Josh

I try!