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acomplishedartis:
Since most of us here are supposed like-minded, then it's fine if we (with enough evidence and love) try to reprehend someone for his own good and for the good of the ones around.

One of the restrictions of online communication is that we can't see others hands movements, face exprecions, tone of voice, etc. therefore what we write is what matter the most and what we write is most of the evidence from where others can decode what we are trying to say. So I guess it is important that we try to convey well what are we really trying to mean when we write.

Dennis response regarding judging have been a good lesson for me to remember. It reminds me a writing from Ray called 'Repentence and guilty of all', it is one of my favorite ones. I believe that it is a good exercise to try to put your self in the shoes of many others and then try as best as we can to judge not.

''All wrong, but given similar conditions, YOU would do the same!''

Yes, I can certainly apply those principles to other kinds of mistakes (sins). If people around here (the forum) wouldn't know better then there is no point on telling them to judge not.
With people whom doesn't know better we should not even get surprised when they do something that it is wrong.

Dennis Vogel:

--- Quote from: DougE6 on February 26, 2012, 08:37:10 PM ---
Now there is some irony. Some people who were railing against "judging" were apparently guilty of doing just that very thing.

--- End quote ---

If you are referring to me Doug, in what way am I guilty of judging?

Samson:

--- Quote from: dre91 on February 24, 2012, 12:20:55 PM ---Can I remarry after a divorce?

--- End quote ---


Hi Dre,

I've been following this Thread since the beginning, deciding to wait awhile to Post. As some Forum Members know, at least some, maybe more, I have much experience in this area, Marriage/Divorce/Separation and even some instances of Porneia(both parties involved in some cases), All to my Eonian shame, nothing to be proud of, but fact non the less.

The bottom line is that you can't UNRING A BELL, meaning this, if your legally divorced from a previous Marriage and are now contemplating Marrying someone else, that's your choice. Hopefully, for your sake, you've had enough experience with previous relationships to have presently learned to proceed with caution before saying " I Do," Perhaps you might want to get Married to avoid committing Fornication(Porneia), Premarital Sex in this case. If that's true, that's good, but you certainly wouldn't want to sin by getting Married to someone your not evenly yoked with and putting yourself in a position where the odds might indicate it could lead to the same problem again, ie- another relationship that might lead to divorce.

Of course, only God knows the Beginning & End of every matter, what exactly is going to transpire in the relationship, providing you decide to say " I Do," still it would behoove anyone of us to proceed with caution in this Choice, Marriage that is, especially if Our experience has taught us the hard reality of what an unsound choice could lead to.

I know, the power of physical sexual attraction can be strong and cause us to getting Married and if We believe that We like that Person, that will add weight towards choosing to do so.

I mentioned UNRINGING A BELL earlier. Please let Me explain by sharing an experience. Back in 1989, I divorced my first Wife, I fell in "Love" with a Younger Woman and Married Her shortly after Divorcing My first Wife, I really didn't want to Marry this second Wife, at least, not right away. My intellect told Me to wait, but I didn't want to lose Her, plus She cried, whined, nagged, etc, so I caved in and We got Married. A Minister friend of mine told Me that since My divorce wasn't on scriptural grounds(Porneia), I would have to return to my first Wife, even if it meant getting rid of my second Wife. Of course I thought that was ridiculous, but He insisted that the divorce of My first Wife wasn't valid, because I committed Porneia and She didn't. This Minister applied the passage at Matthew. 19:3-9 to the exact tee, meaning this: My wife would be eligible for obtaining a Divorce, because she didn't commit Adultery, but since I got divorced on Unscriptural grounds, My divorce was invalid and so was My new Marriage.

See how complicated this might get, you can't unring a bell. If you got drunk or told an insignificant Lie, could you undue or eliminate what you already did or if you punched someone in the nose ten years ago, can you undue what you already did. All you can do now, is pray to God to cause you to make better choices than the ones you made in the past.

The comments in this type of a thread can be addressed from so many directions, it can get confusing. Hope this might help and not ruffle too many feathers. I might make a comment to River and maybe some others. Kat explained to Me about inserting quotes in a dark box in order to answer more than one Person in the same Post, but I have to practice that first,  ;).

Kind Regards, Samson.

Gina:
Dre,

If you get remarried, promise me you'll play this for your wife on your honeymoon, wherever that may be.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vy8AHo3R-RM&feature=autoplay&list=PLFF839D5A5DC531F0&lf=plpp_video&playnext=2

(I will give the first person to come up with the lyrics to that song...a "kudos." ;D)

indianabob:
Hi Gina,
I listened to the song and it was nice music, but why would a man want to play it for his intended or his wife? Was there a message that a woman would appreciate?
I'm old and dumb, but I can be romantic given the right motivation. Sorry I just don't see why you offered it to Dre  8)

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