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A complex dilemma;''she really does look like a helper fit, helper meet''he said
acomplishedartis:
hi Dave in Tenn, thanks for your contribution
--- Quote from: Dave in Tenn on April 26, 2012, 06:05:02 AM --- Matters of the heart are the trickiest of all, and Scripture has little to say about 'dating' explicitly. Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church is not EXACTLY the same thing as 'be fond of and attracted to your girlfriend."
--- End quote ---
Yes, I have questioned my self the boyfriend-girlfriend concept in the past. The time might comes when it's already too late to keep on playing 'the game' (too late for me already... and would you believe me that I never really used it... ha.) and one most better seek to finally engage.
--- Quote from: Dave in Tenn on April 26, 2012, 06:05:02 AM ---Hoping I haven't been a fool at the gate.
--- End quote ---
No, I don't think so.
Gina:
--- Quote ---Should he go back with her?, Should he wait and see what happens? Should he stay with his
present good friend that lives close to him who is available to wait for him until he clarifies his
situation? He needs time and they are waiting for his decision!
--- End quote ---
If I were in your cousin's shoes, I would definitely not go back with her. She's much too immature for marriage, and besides they don't see eye to eye on their beliefs about organized religion -- will that be another bone of contention? Most likely.
I believe he will regret marrying her if he does. Why? Because by marrying her he will be teaching her that it's okay to continue to harass him for everything that doesn't make her feel good. And I can almost guarantee that she will continue to blame him for everything that doesn't make her feel good, and they will divorce, sooner rather than later.
My two cents.
cheekie3:
Moises -
I am not sure if what I am about to state is 100% Scriptural:
If you cousin was engaged (betrothed) to his ex-girlfriend - does not GOD treat this as the same as Marriage.
If so, do not the Scriptures say that a Believing Husband should not leave his unbelieving wife; as she may become a believer as she sees the believing Husband living his life in the Spirit through Christ Jesus.
Regards, George.
acomplishedartis:
Gina, I think you have some good points...
I am glad you posted.
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Hi Cheekie3.
Ray have an speech called ''What is marriage?'' and what you stated I am afraid, is not Scriptural. Here is quote from the beginning of the transcript:
Marriage is a contract.
Now maybe a more important question would be, is love required to make a marriage? [No] Right on, no. Love does not even enter into the definition of a marriage. It does not. Proof……how many arranged marriages have been in the world? Millions. Do most of them when they get an arranged marriage, love each other? They don't even know each other.
Does sexual union have to be involved, in the definition of a marriage? [Unless it is consummated, you can annul it, right?] How long do you have to do that? Two years, eight years? Now we are putting time limits on it.
Sex and love has nothing to do with the definition of marriage. Nothing to do with it and I’m going to prove it to you. So What is marriage? We are going to find out. Get ready for a revelation, because this may not all be what you think it is.
Here you can see some really good points: http://forums.bible-truths.com/index.php/topic,5675.0.html
There you will see that God does not treat this (the boyfriend-girlfriend ''game'') as the same as Marriage.
(Also they weren't seriously engaged, they just talked (sometimes planed) about it, like many boyfriends-girlfriends do.)
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