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ned:
Dear Jerry:
I feel for your 13 year old daughter.  I have a 12 year old daughter, and I read her your post and she had these points to offer to your daughter

(from one child to another):
- accept herself
- talk about it
- be friendly (love your enemies)
- join clubs to try to make friends
- pray about it

Does she need a penpal?  My daughter offered to communicate with her (MSN or e-mail)  
PM me if this would interest her.

From me,
Kids are definitely cruel, most of them living for themselves, as is their selfish nature, and have no desire to please others.  Unfortunately, this is just the way it is.

You are at the right place, Jerry, sharing your heartaches with God's children, and I will pray that you will feel His peace in your burdens.

Marie

jerry:
Thanks Marie,and thank your daughter for careing,my daughter never uses the computer except games guess she's not into it much,but I will mention the pen pale offer to her,shes really a cool kid.I try not to make a big a deal out of all she goes through sometimes I think it bothers me more knowing what she goes through than it does her.I tell her not to worry about freinds at school  now most kids her age dont understand true freindship and the unconditional love that comes with it.Thanks for your thoughtfulness............................Jerry

SherBearMom:
Hi Jerry, I can relate to you whole heartedly.  I have always felt that I didn't belong in this world.  When I was young, My paternal grandad wanted nothing to do with my sisters and I.  My paternal grandmother always chose my 2 younger sisters and never wanted me around.  My own father played favorites as well. I wasn't his favorite, but my youngest sister was.  I have cousins & their friends (whom I went to school with) who used to tease me by calling me names.  I was shot at walking home from school.  I maybe had 3 or 4 friends but they weren't best friends.  Even my mother would criticize me if I said anything. I never had my first real boyfriend until I was 20.  I too know all about being lonely.  Before I really came to know Christ, I use to cry all the time wondering why I was brought into this world.   So as you can see, my childhood was horrible as well.  Now I have faith in God thru our Lord Jesus Christ and he has brought me peace, love and understanding as well as strange & vivid dreams. 

Much love & peace to you Jerry
God Bless You!

Sherry aka Sherbearmom   

 

jerry:
Thanks Sherry for your understanding,only people that have gone through hardships in this life can uderstand the things we go through as a child.I too was an outcast from the time I came into the world my mother abandoned me and my sister at my aunts because she could'nt take care of us,they already had five kids,we were the outsiders and treated that way,then at school I was treated badly because I was poor the kids all made fun of my clothes I hated school,but I did have a couple of freinds,You almost come to expect to be treated like that after a while,but now it does'nt bother me except when my daughter brings up her problems with it,she was talking about it again tonight.I told her not to worry about fitting in I said special people dont fit in if they did the would'nt be special.Is'nt it strange how many of Gods people are the dont fit in type,I told my daughter that we are like the stars in heaven created to stand out in the darkness,and one day make them all ashamed.I told her those kids are going to grow up one day and have to look her in the face so continue to be nice to them even when the treat you bad.Thanks for careing enough to share with me it helps to have a place to come and be who we really are and not be ashamed Godly freinds are such a blessing
............Jerry

chuckusa:
Jerry,

Well, maybe if we did/had "fit in" to the world, we would have never gotten to know Christ.

 I see it all around me, a desire to be like everyone else.

 I, for one, don't want to be like everyone else. I tried it once and it wasn't pretty.


My daughter is going through the same thing. She is seen as weird because she doen't lie, loves people and wants to be with her family instead of running around with boys or whatever they do these days...haha

Hang in there, God will send his loving cool rain upon your life and it will all come together. I believe that.

God bless you and your family...from mine!,
Chuck

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