Hi, Ray
Through the past year you have helped me a lot through all my hardships and God bless you for all the wisdom you have brought me. I have been told different things about sex in a marriage, one person said no because God only made sex for when you want to have children not for anything else and another person said it's okay because as long as your married God said it is allowed. I would like to have your take on this issue since I trust your views of the bible and I know that God has blessed you with wisdom. I thank you for all your help and your time and may God bless you.
Sincerely,
Matthew
Dear Matthew:
"Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman hve her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife DUE BENEVOLENCE [affection--sexual]: and likewise also the wife unto the husband" (I Cor. 7:1-3). And what will this void then? Fornication. Sex in marriage is NOT FORNICATION [fornication is 'pornea' and it means 'immorality'--hence, sex is not immoral in marriage].
In I Cor. 7:5 -9 Paul teaches that one "defrauds" if he does not allow his/her mate to have sexual relations to satisfy the sex drive within them. The phrase "come together" means "sexual cohabitation." Likewise it is better to marry and have a mate than to be single if one cannot control their burning passion (Verse 9).
God be with you,
Ray
