Loretta,
Yelling is self preserving or "fear of death". Jesus took care of death on the cross and...the fear of death. How many times did he tell his disciples "Do not fear" "fear not".
What are you afraid of that makes you yell at those around you and try to invoke fear and your way?? Are you afraid of not being loved enough, in control enough, perfect enough?
This culture programs us to put on a perfect fake image... and years of trying only putt me in a bad mood making little things get under my skin.
Jesus said, "It is finished" and He meant it. All of the fear was taken care of that pushes you over the edge to lash out verbally to precious one of a kind human beings that He's allowed in your care and circle by His sovereign will. You're steps are ordered by Him to mold you into His image not your own image and your own kingdom. Let go of your kingdom building that only harbors more and more fear of self preservation.
There's rest and peace in Yeshua!"
1 John 4:18
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love.
Don't punish others with your yelling and words. There's no reason to fear.
God is full of love that will work in your mouth too!
Call it what it is and ask God to take over that fear and lust of the flesh that keeps you yelling.
He's got it all covered!
13 For you were called to freedom, brethren; only do not turn your freedom into an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. 14 For the whole Law is fulfilled in one word, in the statement, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” 15 But if you bite and devour one another, take care that you are not consumed by one another.
16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh. 17 For the flesh [g]sets its desire against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; for these are in opposition to one another, so that you may not do the things that you [h]please. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the Law. 19 Now the deeds of the flesh are evident, which are:
immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmities, strife, jealousy,
outbursts of anger,
disputes,
dissensions, factions, 21 envying, drunkenness, carousing, and things like these, of which I forewarn you, just as I have forewarned you, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. 22 BUT the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. 24 Now those who [k]belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
25 If we live by the Spirit, let us also [l]walk by the Spirit. 26 Let us not become boastful, challenging one another, envying one another.
Remember, it's not their fault that they make you angry enough that you verbally abuse them. Never right to blame shift.
Just giving it to ya straight my sista!
Let Him do His work in you. Give up your control and your kingdom. Those around you can't walk in the spirit but you can. He has to do it ALL!