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Why do people close to me always rile me up?

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loretta:


Definition of rile
(verb) cause annoyance in; disturb, especially by minor irritations.

I am the one who is shouting, not always but when I get really mad. At my husband, daughter, mother, maid. They really manage to rile me up. These are not minor irritants, but issues that I tend to overlook, forgive, let go, turn the other cheek, layer upon layer till I feel overwhelmed, controlled, boxed in, like a doormat. I do say whats on my mind, bit nobody pays attention, nothing changes till I start shouting.

I know I am not perfect, but am I so bad? :'(

Dennis Vogel:

--- Quote ---nobody pays attention
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Resentment is one of the worst emotions. Getting rid of it is the real "turning the other cheek."

Dennis Vogel:
Loretta, Ray says “Getting saved is the hardest thing you will ever do.”

It would be nice if we could just flip a switch and become all the things Jesus tells us we need to be. But that's not how it works.

In some respects we are to become like a “doormat.” But it takes years to kill the old self:

2Co 4:16  For which cause we faint not; but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day.

You are on a journey and it's not going to be easy.

1Co 10:13  There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

arion:
Oh dear....shouting at the maid?   ;D  I'll never know what that is like.  LOL  One of the hardest things about our walk is seeing just how far we have to go when we hold ourselves up to the light.  But that too is part of the process and there is no 'magic' pill.  We all have issues.  Some are more visible such as losing our tempers and others not quite so visible.  But believe it or not your right where God wants you to be right now and part of our frustration with ourselves is also part of the process.  We need to be absolutely convinced that we can't live up to God's ideals in our own strength and he has ways of demonstrating this to us.

wat:
Without knowing any details of your situations, I'll say this.  I don't know about shouting, but sometimes stern words are necessary.  Soft words and suggestions almost never work in my experience, unless the person is already leaning in that direction.  If things need to change, being live and direct (and controlled) can be the right way to go.

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