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lareli:
So after dwelling on this whole free-will thing, I've started to wonder about regrets and resentment.. If I regret, not repent, but regret or harbor resentment for anything that has happened in my life then aren't I showing contempt for the Gods plan and will for my life?

Where I'm at today is exactly where God wants me, yes? And where I'm at today would be totally different had one tiny experience in my past been different, right?

Understanding the free-will thing has helped me reconcile a lot of heart ache from my past and made it easier to forgive all trespasses against me and also perpetrated by me. It's all His plan so to live with regrets, resentment, or un-forgivness is to say in my heart that God messed up in His plan. Isn't it like saying 'I could've made Gods plan better'?

I think of this movie called Mr. Destiny.. It's about how if this kid would've swung his bat a half second sooner or later in the championship game, how dramatically different his life would've ended up.

I never thought I could have the relationship and understanding of God and His purposes as I do today. It's so valuable to me that I can look back on all the bad times in my life and say Thank You to God for those bad times because had one of those bad times not happened, then who knows if I'd know God the same way I know Him today. I think the bad times, the hard times in my life have shaped me more than the good times, so I especially thank Him for the hard times.. I try to consider this when experiencing the hard times that I know will come tomorrow. If I can appreciate the hard times of the past then I now have to acknowledge the future hard times as equally valuable and try to have more hope and a better attitude in those sufferings knowing that it's all for my good.

rick:
Hello largeli,


First, what caused you to dwell on the free will thing? Do you see God as the cause? If you have regrets but do not repent is it not Gods intention that you repent not ?  :-[

If you harbor resentment for things in your life, you absolutely are in contempt but aren’t  we all? Are we not here for an experience of good and evil for the sole purpose of being made in the image of God ?  :)

Where your at today is exactly where God wants you to be and would things be totally different for you if one experience in your past had been different ? God’s intentions for your life would not allow for such a thing would they?  >:(

Every experience you had are having or will have are directed by God who directs our footsteps, God is completely and fully in control of all His creation, there is no getting around it.  ;)

Everyone’s salvation is guaranteed because we do not have free will, we cannot go against God’s intentions, we can go against God’s will as long as it’s God’s will we go against His will but if it’s not God’s will that we go against His will then we cannot go against His will.  :-\

Do you honestly believe you could of made God’s plan better than He the creator?  ::)

Just some things to think about if it’s God’s intention for you to think about. :)

Ian 155:

--- Quote from: largeli on September 25, 2014, 11:04:16 AM ---
Understanding the free-will thing has helped me reconcile a lot of heart ache from my past and made it easier to forgive all trespasses against me and also perpetrated by me.

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This understanding gets even more difficult... just the understanding that I have been used as a "tool" to cause so much hurt and hardship to my wife and kids, family, friends and even strangers...hard pill to swallow it gets stuck going down every now and then.

Sometimes the "well its OK God caused me to make certain choices" does not really wash with those affected.

Perhaps One day I may be used as a good instrument and all those hurt by "my" past actions would forgive me.

I am however getting to a place where I know why certain "bad" things are done to me by the same...to forgive is divine.

Dave in Tenn:
Nobody ever goes against His purpose, even when we (for a season) go against His will.  He is reconciling ALL to Himself.  Hang in there.

rick:

--- Quote from: Ian 155 on September 26, 2014, 12:31:45 AM ---
--- Quote from: largeli on September 25, 2014, 11:04:16 AM ---
Understanding the free-will thing has helped me reconcile a lot of heart ache from my past and made it easier to forgive all trespasses against me and also perpetrated by me.

--- End quote ---

Sometimes the "well its OK God caused me to make certain choices" does not really wash with those affected.


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Hello Ian.


This can get really deep I suppose but I keep thinking about your statement and I disagree with how you phrase or coined it, I know ultimately God is the cause of all things but God does not make us make any choice.

We, that is, every human being makes their own choice without being forced to, its true that no human being can make an uncaused choice but we choose to do what we do because we like to do whatever we do because of who we are and what we are.

I think by saying God cause me to make a choice would be equal to saying God made me commit murder or God made me rape a women or God made me steal.

God creates all the circumstances but its we not God who makes the choice, God does not force us to do anything in that respect , we do it naturally from the nature of our own hearts.

God does not make of force any human being to sin not even Satan can make or force anyone to sin, when we hurt someone its us who are doing the hurting not God however it was Gods intention that we do it but its we not God who does it.

Does that make sense to you?  :)
 

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