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Confession and Forgiveness - When, who and how?

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Farlsborough:
This is a very challenging aspect of Christian life for me too, I'd love to hear what other people's thoughts are.

Essentially my mother, who brought me up to love God and certainly was a great mother by most standards, left my father (when I was at university) to move in with a man she had been having an affair with for about a year. My parents inevitably divorced and are both re-married, my father first to a Christian lady, my mother to this (non-Christian) guy.

Now, she has repeatedly apologised for "the upset I've caused you", but never for the act of adultery or leaving my father - she clearly feels justified in this. I don't think she'd say "it was right", but she at least feels it was her choice and not for anyone else to criticise.

Now, I believe that, whilst it was her choice to do those things, equally she was always going to do them. I can also see where problems in her childhood have led her to being vulnerable to such temptations.

But how do we respond to people in such scenarios? Say, "you never had a chance, you were always going to mess up like that, so don't worry!". It somehow doesn't seem fair (or true) to say "you had free will, you could have done otherwise", but equally I feel that (as Ray has said on numerous recordings) she will give account for those actions (as will I, for my actions). It is for God to judge, but surely we must still stand by what we feel scripture says about sin?

Difficult!

Dave in Tenn:
Scripture says a LOT more about sin than "thou shalt" and "thou shalt not".  And the Lord's Righteous judgments are about a lot more than "guilty" or "not guilty".

Ian 155:

--- Quote from: Farlsborough on November 09, 2014, 02:11:12 PM ---

Now, I believe that, whilst it was her choice to do those things, equally she was always going to do them. I can also see where problems in her childhood have led her to being vulnerable to such temptations.


Difficult!

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Im inclined to say that Your moms "shadow" will bring you healing.... honour them, even though you may see fault (they may have meant it for evil) God meant it for a greater good.

Like you said "I can see now" that was meant  - so since you "picked" that up or it opened your understanding, be grateful - God has expounded on something someone else done and impacted you, thru those actions.



One never knows what they are going to be used for or how they are going to be used... I can tell you this, whatever it is It is Always,  for a Grand Purpose - 
 

rick:
Hello Farlsborough,

what comes to mind is ( God tells us to love our enemy ) how much more should we love our mom ?

Your mom is still your mom regardless, honor thy Father and Mother, for this is good and acceptable to the Lord.  :)

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