I understand where you are coming from and I fully agree with what you responded to. As Paul said, to some, marrage is for them, for others, they stand back from it. I suppose in every married life, the words have come to mind,"If I were not married, I would not be enduring this or that". And you know as well as I, in any relationship between a man and woman, there comes heartache and heart break! As a song writer said,"You got to give a little, take a little, and let your pure heart bread a little, that's the story of love".
Men, especially in the religious circle, has took what God has ordain, and turned it inside out, and made a mess of it. God said, it's not good that man should be alone, there fore I will make him a help that is fit for him. That's where Eve came in. Now I am not saying that it's God will for every man to marry, some people do better with just Jesus and them selves, as Paul said, and some people need to married because they need some one else in their lives, long story short.
The point is, as you said, it's so easy to be a dogmatic legalistic, but take no account of who is getting damage, perhaps wounded mentally and spiritually for life, and I have seen it happen to so many people.
I guess that why my heart desire is,"Even so, come Lord Jesus". I am convinced that there are many thing that will stay confussing to us until Jesus comes and straighted it out. Tim