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Kat:

Hi Jimi, well I will give you my opinion, because this is a matter I have considered. Believers are unique in this world and so of course we think differently about most worldly things. We are a witness not just for the moment, but will be a future reference for people to reflect on as well, what I mean is that people will look back on our actions and remember what we stood for by those actions. So even though your intentions are to merely show love, for many if not most your actions will speak louder than words or your intentions.

You realize that your niece is entering a sinful lifestyle, and will have to give account for that, I feel as we know the truth of the consequence of sin, but people of the world do not understand that... So in attending and in reality supporting what this ceremony represents, you are actually sanctioning it. I would never want anybody to be able to look back on my direct involvement in their life as to appear in any way as putting my blessing on a sin that they certainly will have to answer for... That really is love that she might not fully understand now, but eventually it should become most evident.

So just wanted to add my perspective, it's certainly not an easy life we live, with many hard choices to make. But it's "narrow path" that we are on and many may think ill of us now because of our way of living, but certainly it's God that we are trying to obey and please above people.

Mercy, peace and love
Kat

cheekie3:
jeetjkunejimi -


--- Quote from: jeetkunejimi on August 27, 2016, 06:22:29 PM ---Hi all, I have a small dilemma and I'm wondering if anyone on the forum can help me. My niece is getting married next year and she has sent me an invitation, the seeming problem is that she's marrying another woman :o. I feel in my heart that I should have no problem going and supporting her on a very important day to her and her partner but, I also feel uneasy that I will also be in some way supporting gay marriage... which I don't. I feel that it's important that I show her how much I love her and also how much I love her mother, (my sister of course) who will expect me to attend along with my brother who is also a very strong Christian believing as I do.

I will of course be making my own decision as will my brother but, it's always good to seek wise counsel. Thanks for any constructive and scriptural input that any of you may have that could help me decide.

God bless :).   

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This is very difficult to deal with in the correct manner.

I do not know how I would deal with this.

I believe most would take the view that we should not judge others' chosen way of life, even if we were not that way inclined ourselves - and it would be disrespectful.

I have tried hard to envisage myself agreeing to attend the wedding, or not attending.

To me, I could not see myself attending, as I would be endorsing their lifestyles, even though there is only One Judge of us all (His Beloved Children), no matter how you cut it - it boils down to this:

A. If I go, I would be accepting their chosen lifestyle.
B. If I do not go, I would not be accepting their chosen lifestyle.

I would continue to pray for them, as and when I was burdened by The Holy Spirit.

Most would take the comfortable and Convenient option, and go, as it is nothing to do with them, as what others choose to do is entirely up to them.

The root cause of all this, is whether or not we believe in God's Laws or mankind's laws (really Satan's laws).

What does Our Almighty Father and Creator say about this.

He says enough to convince me that it is wrong to engage in such practices.

Perhaps, I would say to my sister and niece, and their families and friends, something like this:

"You know that I care for you all, and you know that I follow what God says about how we should live and behave - and you know that God confirms what marriage is.

I cannot therefore attend your wedding, as it is contrary to what God says a marriage should be."

I will continue to pray for you.

You are in a very difficult position.

Kind Regards.

George


 

Dennis Vogel:
This is not about judging or love, etc., IMO. But by you attending you are sanctioning, giving your blessing to this act.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_know_it_when_I_see_it

I suggest you try and find other ways of supporting your Niece. You may want to just tell her the truth.

AwesomeSavior:
Hi jeetkunejimi:

Towards the end of last year, my father and I learned that my cousin's daughter was also getting "married" to a woman. At first my father said that he would go to support his twin brother, who is this woman's grandfather. I told him that I was not going to go to this thing as it is condemned by Scripture. Eventually, he changed his mind. We received a "Save the Date" mailing in January from them, and then the invitation in March for this May "wedding". We both checked off the box that indicated we weren't going to this "ceremony". All the rest of our family participated except for one aunt and uncle out of state.

Afterwards, in talking with one of my brothers, he said he would never go to another one of them, and even his wife, who was supportive, said that she felt a bit uncomfortable when they smooched. The grandmother, who is my father's brother's wife, was drinking a little bit extra during the reception, and my cousin Mike, who is the father of this girl, was really troubled at the thought of this whole situation, per what my brother had told me.

Come quickly, Lord Jesus.

Dean

lostANDfound:
I think so many of us have been slowly lulled into worldly "tolerance" that we are neglecting to call sin what it is.  So maybe if I turn up the heat, it will bring things into sharper focus.  This is not hypothetical, there are a real-life mother and son in the USA who are trying to have laws changed to suit their incestuous relationship.  We KNOW that's a sin, right?  Please tell me the usual arguments don't soften the edges and make it easier to swallow in this case!  Please tell me we KNOW our response to that wedding invitation.  Like Dennis said, it's not a matter of judgement or love.  A blogger wrote powerful words about it, I don't think this is considered teaching but if it it please delete Moderators:

"It goes like this: The mother, Monica Mares, gave up her son, Caleb Peterson, for adoption when she was 19 and he was a baby. Their paths crossed again some 20 years later, and soon after that fateful reunion they decided to strike up a sexual relationship. Incest is still illegal in all 50 states, so one or both of them may wind up in prison for several months. They’ve now taken their plight public in hopes of rallying the most progressive and fearless members of our tolerant society to their defense.

They make a strangely familiar case. They say they are in love. They say their love is just as loving as anyone else’s love. They say they aren’t hurting anybody. They say they’re consenting adults. They say this is none of the government’s business."
He later states, "If that was good enough for gay “marriage,” why isn’t it good enough for a brother and sister or mother and son?"       -Matt Walsh   

Anyone squirming in their seats yet?

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