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Dave in Tenn:
For some people, scripture condemns everything except what they do.  Very convenient.   ;D  Did you know that when the wicked plow, it is sin?  I'll bet there are those out there condemning non-christian farmers right this very minute.

I concur with Bob on this.  Don't overburden children with notions of alleged "holiness".  Never lie, but don't preach above their heads and hearts.  Answer questions truthfully--they are full of them--remembering that "I don't really understand that myself" is a truthful answer, when it is.  So is, "we can talk about that when you get a little older."

I don't think it's "wrong" to not allow certain things in your house.  But there are genuine "dangers" and "influences" that make fantasy figures nothing by comparison.  What you forbid "irrationally" is what will be most appealing.  At least that's the way it worked with THIS kid.

The only thing I'd add is that every kid is different.  (Some kids more different than others, if I am an example).  If you listen well, they'll teach you far more about "parenting" than any grown-up can.

lostANDfound:
Hmm, I think I might be guilty of overburdening my kids.  Perhaps because they all were so verbal so early, we have been quite frank with them about pretty much everything.  "That's a penis",  "Everyone dies", "Santa isn't real (but we did explain that it isn't our job to ruin the game for others), we've explained a lot of what the Church teaches and a lot about the depths of God.  My boys are 7 & 9 and they recently learned about what sex is (thanks to our rabbits!)  The last time I was pregnant they knew that the baby could die before it was born.  We do gloss over some harder things, like rape, etc. until they are older but we may have assumed too much and burdened too much with our explanations about the evils of the world.  I don't know.

My son stopped reading Harry Potter on his own because it was right around Oct 31 and we had had family discussions about what Halloween is about and he connected the two and stopped reading even though he was thoroughly enjoying it.  It seemed like a good thing at the time, he is becoming his own peculiar person. But then again, I really enjoyed reading Harry Potter and I don't think it negatively influenced me.  In the past and even recently I have stopped reading books if I realize that I am being negatively influenced by it, but that is a mature act I can't expect my kids to do. 

As I type this I am feeling convicted that my focus needs to switch. I spend a lot of time and energy controlling their environment instead of fully dedicating myself to exhibit true Godly patience, kindness, love.  I know the right priority but I am failing to live it.  Please pray for God to do a mighty work in my heart.



 

Joel:
The way I see it, the Truth in Love is good, being holier-than-thou and all that goes along with that is never good.

Joel

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