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justifyothers:
Hi lacey,
I am new to this forum, so I don't remember you. But I felt your pain as I read your post.
It's funny about prayer. Jesus tells us a few things about it:
Pray privately
Pray consistently
Ask God as a Father
Pray that His will be done on earth....you know the rest.
Oh sweetie...the VERY best thing for you to do is to pray for God's will -- not that you will become pregnant, or that you will be given what you ask for, but to pray for His will. " Seek first the Kingdom of Heaven..." This is true. I can't relate it to your exact situation, but I know it is true in my life and I have seen the power of seeking Him first!!
Not that you are anywhere near giving up, because people sometimes wait years for these things -- but adoption is a wonderful opportunity to follow Jesus and help "the least of these".
A little humor.....kids are boogers anyway!! Sure they are cute when they are babies, but then they start asking for money$$$$$ ;-)
Will pray for you guys for sure!!!
karen
Lacey23:
Hi Joe, Shoane, Darren, Brian and Karen,
Thank you very much for responding to my questions and giving me the link on how God wants us to pray and scriptures- they were a huge help. To be honest with you, right now I feel a whole better knowing that what I went thru, it’s not to hurt us but for our benefit and from what I’ve experienced in the last 3 years with infertity, I was spiritually behaving like a little girl- screaming at God for not giving me what I wanted at the time. God had a good reason for putting me thru that, and right now I feel so immature for being like that. It’s amazing how God teaches us lessons thru life experiences and none of them are easy-I thank the Lord for letting me go thru with this because it taught me a lot. I can feel that you guys have prayed for me, because I am starting to see this situation differently now, I wanted to say thanks for praying for me. I see that the baby issue isn’t the end of the world, and it’s not life and death important kind of thing, not something that I have to have because others were having it. God will bless me when he wants to and after all, babies are one of the gifts from God and it should be freely given too.
Thanks for replying to my message. It’s greatly appreciated!!!! And I apologize for making you guys wait a week for it.
Lacey
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--- Quote from: hillsbororiver on October 01, 2006, 04:50:25 PM ---Hi Lacey,
Your desire for children certainly seems to be honorable and in accordance with His command,
To Adam;
Gen 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
And to Noah;
Gen 9:1 And God blessed Noah and his sons, and said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth.
Of course there are spiritual implications and many layers of truths in these passages other than physically bearing children. When we pray for things we always first and foremost must humbly seek His will before our own. Ray has an excellent article that addresses prayer;
http://bible-truths.com/praying.htm
I hope this helps and I am really glad you shared your concerns here.
His Peace and Wisdom to you and yours,
Joe
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--- Quote from: shoani on October 02, 2006, 06:24:56 AM ---hi Lacey, welcome back
i - dont know were to start- am not good with writing especially with this topic.
Your story is a little identical to mine. i never went for an insemination and opted to wait on God without waisting any money (not that i was not tempted, i went for tests and never got to fetch the result). I KNOW EXACTLY HOW U FEEL EXPECIALLY ABOUT TWINS. i cant help but think that twins can be a hussle but that is what i pray for as well. my problem was constricted tubes and i belive God has a purpose. at least U have ur hubby by ur side which is good. with me, it caused a rife that may lead to a divorce but am putting God first in all those.
i read an intersting story (on Health24 site)about another woman who tried(IVF) seven times and succeeded the eighth time. its like the story of a rightous man falling seven times and rising again.
I get angry with God sometimes that to some people it is as easy as that, whereas to some of us is as heavy as h....l. its emotionally draining and it kind of makes one loose hope. this infertility topic is making my heart heavy with pain and tears. i cannot help but think why does God make it so difficult for some of us. there R lot of promises that one can pick from the bible but for me none has materialised. i remember one prophet came over me and said God said He is going to bless my womb in Spring(2005) and i kept waiting until today. i exhausted myself visiting infertility sites and getting as much infor as possible but the stress is enormous. Only if God can hear my plight and never, and i mean never have any married woman infertile or struggling for a child. its the most killer-pain that a woman can bear. it makes the marriage less enjoyable.
To U let me say, hang in there and do your efforts but put him first. He has a lesson that He wants U to learn out of all that. Nothing will separate us from the luv of God even infertility. HE luvs as just the same. I sometimes console myself and pick that quote from the bible that goes somethin like " there will come a day that happy will be a woman who never bore a child" i just dont know where in the bible chapters is that. Hang in there sister, U not alone.
There R times that i get happy that I dont have a child and can enjoy my life fully without waking up at night and looking for nannies all over and getting worried for no apparent reason. there is a good side to it really, we R just cought up in pain that we dont realise it. am happy cos U trying without any pressure. be easy on yourself and give yourself a break inbetween the inseminations. its not your fault that U R like that, it really is'nt.
I' ll pray for U sister. dont let go of prayer until He gives in to your needs. not that a prayer can change his mind.
God be with U
shoane
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--- Quote from: YellowStone on October 02, 2006, 01:20:51 PM ---Hi Lacy, welcome back ! :)
Your story almost exactly mirrors that of my son and his wife, who were unable to have a baby even after trying just about everything.
All was not lost however, because God was with them and offered them the path of adoption. After a short but frustrating wait (11months) they were given short notice that a mother was to give birth within the week to a child that needed parents. They were of course ecstatic, having been pre-qualified for adoption. They were at the hospital at the birth of "their" son, and love him as their own. He is my first grandson and no greater love has a poppy ever had for his grandson who is about to turn two.
Love is everything, we know this because God is love and his is the Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end. Blood, is not a limitation of love but rather one of our own carnal minds. I know not everyone can or are ready to adopt a child, but I would ask that you atleast consider the option. I have no children of my own, my two sons are mine by love, respect only, though my youngest son, just turned 18 and changed his name to mine. I do not love him any less because his blood is different than mine, for love is the great equalizer.
I hope I have not stepped on any sacred ground here.
Much love to you,
Darren
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--- Quote from: buddyjc on October 02, 2006, 02:21:31 PM ---Hello Lacey,
I think I do recall you. I have been around for awhile. Since I am a man, it is difficult for me to feel your pain. I have been thinking about your post for days, wondering what I could say to make you feel better. My heart goes out to you, and I am praying that God's will will be done in this matter. Waiting on God can be a difficult thing for us, but you are not alone in this wait. Sarah, Abraham's wife, waited for Isaac. Hannah waited for Samuel. Rachel waited for Joseph, and Elizabeth waited for John the Baptist. I am sure that these are not the only ones who have waited on God to open the womb. Remember Lacey, that it is God who does this. He opens and shuts the womb, and God does everything for a purpose. You can always trust your loving Father.
Psa 37:4 Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
Psa 37:5 Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
Pro 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
God wants you to cast ALL you cares upon Him.
1Pe 5:6 Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time:
1Pe 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
As you go through this trial, always keep in mind that God is in control of every aspect of your life. Keep your eyes fixed on Christ, the author and finisher of your faith. Don't lose hope Lacey. I myself have been going through a period in my life where God has been teaching me how to wait on Him. I have a daughter, her name is Anna, who was diagnosed a few weeks ago with diabetes. The expense has been wearing a giant hole in my wallet, and I have had to keep telling myself that God is in control, don't worry. We have been waiting for news about insurance, and just now while writing this post, my wife has told me that the insurance we have on her is now in effect, and we are not going to have to pay a dime for anything. Praise God!!! Do you think it is a coincidence that I am writing this to you, and I get news like that?! Wait on God Lacey, it will be worth it. I don't know what God's plan is. His plan might be that you adopt, as Darren suggested. It might be insemination, so keep trying. He might be teaching you, as with me, to wait on Him. Whatever God's plan Lacey, don't lose faith and hope. Do not allow bitterness to come into your life.
We here at Bible-Truths consider you a part of our family. You can come here to get away from the world, or to have a place where you can dump your troubles out. We are here for you Lacey.
Your Brother in Christ,
Brian
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--- Quote from: justifyothers on October 03, 2006, 11:43:50 PM ---Hi lacey,
I am new to this forum, so I don't remember you. But I felt your pain as I read your post.
It's funny about prayer. Jesus tells us a few things about it:
Pray privately
Pray consistently
Ask God as a Father
Pray that His will be done on earth....you know the rest.
Oh sweetie...the VERY best thing for you to do is to pray for God's will -- not that you will become pregnant, or that you will be given what you ask for, but to pray for His will. " Seek first the Kingdom of Heaven..." This is true. I can't relate it to your exact situation, but I know it is true in my life and I have seen the power of seeking Him first!!
Not that you are anywhere near giving up, because people sometimes wait years for these things -- but adoption is a wonderful opportunity to follow Jesus and help "the least of these".
A little humor.....kids are boogers anyway!! Sure they are cute when they are babies, but then they start asking for money$$$$$ ;-)
Will pray for you guys for sure!!!
karen
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bobbys43:
Hello Lacey,
I have a friend and he and his wife wanted so badly to have children. They both just love children but it just was not God's will for their life. Instead God gave them nieces and nephews to raise and take care of because there parents did not have the time for them and really did not care what happened to them.
they are now taking care of another niece and nephew who's mother just packed up and left them and their father does not take the time to care for them. This friend even goes to the school when the nephew gets in trouble to talk with the principal and his councelor. These kids are emotionally unstable but God provided this friend of mine and his wife to take very good care of them. I was with my friend one day and he had the niece with him and I heard the sweetest and most loving thing come out of their mouths and it was "Mark I love you" and he replied back to her "I love you too' and the look in both of their eyes just made my heart melt. I could tell they really ment what they said.
I know this is probably not much of a help to you but God may have something very special for you and your husband and maybe it just is not time for that special something to be sent to you yet. And when it arrives it will have been well worth the wating.
I will pray for you and your husband my friend.
Much love to you,
bobby(bob)
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