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ara:
a former neighbor dropped by the other night, asking for money, for medication of her child who was supposedly bitten by a dog.
as i was talking to her,my recall of her when we were still neighbors, her family was already borrowing money from our neighbors, without being paid up to now. the husband was jobless,they have 3 children, the wife is also jobless. we tried to shared a little what ever we had, but seeing them doing nothing to earn a living, we were discouraged to continue doing so. seeing her again now, made me think is she fooling me again, with hesitation i gave her a little money, bacause i remember we have to love our enemy, but deep inside, i hate her for being lazy. is this love?
Jackie Lee:
I am fairly new to this forum so I say this with hesitation.... I believe once we find out we are being used then the loving thing would be to help them in some way like buy them a few groceries.
I would not give them money though.
I really don't know for sure if I am correct on this.
TRUTHSEEKER:
--- Quote from: ara on February 25, 2007, 10:22:30 PM ---a former neighbor dropped by the other night, asking for money, for medication of her child who was supposedly bitten by a dog.
as i was talking to her,my recall of her when we were still neighbors, her family was already borrowing money from our neighbors, without being paid up to now. the husband was jobless,they have 3 children, the wife is also jobless. we tried to shared a little what ever we had, but seeing them doing nothing to earn a living, we were discouraged to continue doing so. seeing her again now, made me think is she fooling me again, with hesitation i gave her a little money, bacause i remember we have to love our enemy, but deep inside, i hate her for being lazy. is this love?
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My initial feeling is that in this situation it is best to love people at a distance. Love them because we are commanded to love; but don't keep them as company. They will only bring you down. Some people this side of heaven you'll never get along with. This is life. It is a hard thing to continually feel that you are being taken advantage of. Nobody likes that feeling. Nobody wants it to happen. You ask "is this love?". Well, it is only love if you are compelled to do so without giving a second thought about the decision you made. Giving is wonderful. But if your giving is done grudgingly and with remorse (or even worse, hate) then it is not love. You regret giving this person(s) aid because they apparently lack the means or the desire to acquire what they need for themselves. If you want to give in love...then give. Don't regret doing it. Embrace it. Give God thanks that He gave you the resources so that you can give. Afterall, Jesus said that it is what we do in secret is what God will use to bless us openly. If you are not at that level of faith as yet don't despair. God will give you what you need, when you need it, in his timing. In the meantime, pray about the situation and let God do what God does best...meet your needs.
rrammfcitktturjsp:
To All,
Well in our experience we do not give out money. We would rather give out things that they need as in gas or a bus ticket. In lubbock one has to be careful of being swindled. I do not think there is anything wrong with what you said Jackie Lee.
And secondly, one should never give it if will put their own family in jeopardy. I know since having our precious son, we do not give out any money or things of that nature, becuase to do that, would be to take money away from our son and our family.
Sincerely,
Anne C. McGuire
Jackie Lee:
I kinda learned the hard way, I now just give to family and donate to organizations like Rescue missions.
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