Hi mrsnacks,
We are in the situation that God wants us to be in. Some people are in a marriage that they are walking together in growing in the knowledge of the truth. That must be a wondrful thing. But marriage can also be a way for us to build character, when we perseverance through difficult situations.
Rom 5:3 And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance;
v. 4 and perseverance, character; and character, hope.
I believe that marriage can be a means that God uses to put us through trials and test. We have a marriage relationship with someone we love, and we need to learn how to deal with our mate with compassion and wisdom. We have Christ in us, so we need to be the best mate we can be, whatever the situation.
Eph 5:21 Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ.
v. 22 Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord.
v. 28 Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
v. 29 For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church,
v. 30 because we are members of His body.
If we are being trained as God's elect, we are learning how to deal with all kinds of people and situations now, because the elect will judge the world with Christ. If the elect is to judge the world shouldn't they be learning how to properly handle a relationship now.
1Co 6:2 Do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if the world is to be judged by you, are you incompetent to try trivial cases?
I'm learning how to be a better wife myself, with Christ's guidance
mercy, peace, and love
Kat