I have another way to see this maybe. My sis called me today. She's having a hard time and wanted someone to talk to, and I'm brother slash therapist you see. Well, she was talking about how this person acts this way, and another acts that way, and she herself feels this and that, and I explained this the best I could think of to her.
I'm a good example of it. I'm a pretty shy dude, not very outgoing. Why? I didn't choose that; in fact it drives me a little crazy sometimes, it really bothers me here and there. BUT....that's how I am. That's how my brain was made to work BY GOD when he created me. My wife's a good example: her heart is so huge, so loving and caring that she has trouble saying no to anyone who asks for something. She'll go so far out her way for people that it strains her whole day. Later she'll say "Why in the world did I just drive 2 hours, waste gas, yada yada......" It's because God made her mind work that way. Her heart is golden.
I don't choose to be shy or awkward. Trust me I don't LOL! But I am. And I don't know how many times I've heard my wife on the phone say "Okay I'll help" and then as soon as she's hung up she realizes what she got herself into. She'll say, "Why did I say yes?" Because circumstances prompted her to.
Everyone of us think a little differently. We're much like snowflakes in a way; no two are exactly alike. My mind will work totally different in a given situation than yours. I guarantee it! (or your money back.) Just the way your mind works affects the judgements and decisions, and ultimately the action that you take.
Another way to look at the free will argument is stop looking through YOUR eyes with YOUR emotions with YOURSELF as the centerpiece. Look at the BIG PICTURE. Like my example of me driving to work, through construction, running late, being stressed and all that.......the whole world does stuff like that. Everyday. People cross paths with others by accident, and it's just snowballs every second of everyday and night. Billions of people! How awesome, how frighteningly awesome, is our God to be able to control all of that? Woah. I don't think I could control two radio-controlled cars at the same time, let alone 6.5 billion people, cars, animals, nature, and all the other factors that shape our everyday. Think about it too hard and you'll get dizzy......
Anyone who hasn't quite grasped the free will thing yet, let me tell ya.........I was on the verge of it for a long, long time. Way before I ever heard of this forum I wondered if free will was actually free indeed. I'm talking like when I was a young teen, about 15-20 years ago. So I watched the world, thought and dwelled on it. (That's what I do all the time.....think and dwell on stuff.) Most people think it's a waste of time. Let me tell ya........think about it. Trust me. It will dawn on you and you'll be like WOAH I THINK I REALIZE WHAT THEY MEAN NOW! Not many you ever tell will understand and they'll think you're a fruitloop, but who cares if they aren't as "enlightened" or whatever as you? :-)
Matt