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Why Did God do it This Way
zander:
I know this is a tough situation DeeJ. I have honestly been there with regards to wanting a partner. Its a nightmare! Im not saying that this will offer you any comfort whatsoever, but now i know that everything is of God and we have no free will, then i look around and see that there are people WORSE off than me, i feel very blessed.
I have never had a proper girlfriend, for the record and i am 31. I am embarking on a great relatiuonship right now with a lovely girl and its new, but i know that its OF God. And there is no guarantee even if it will last. All i know is that what is in front of me is unavoidable.
I will sure pray for you and your father.
Kevin:
Hello Deejcop, I personally can relate what you are going through. I lost my mom to alzheimers 9 yrs ago. She was diagnosed with it when she was just 55 yrs old. Loosing my mother was the hardest thing that I had ever gone through in life.
At the time I was basically in a non denominational church and also having church at home. And let me tell you when God didnt answer my prayer about my mother being healed my walk with God just disappeared. I went back to the world and I hated God with everything I had. I called Him literally every name I could think of. I would say the must horrible things you couldnt even imagine. My wife would just shake her head and couldnt believe the filth that came out of my lips.
Now I look back and you know I guess that I really didnt love God. Who am I to tell God what to do. Now I have a true love for my creator.
God puts things in our lives,obstacles, and yes even tragedies for it is part of His plan. Though we may not understand them at the time we have to trust that He knows what He is doing.
I do pray for you and that God will comfort you and that your dad will be restored according to our Fathers' will. May you find peace in this. Truly sometimes ther eis no easy answer are words to say, but always trust in our Father. I do pray for you my friend
Kevin
gmik:
I am so sorry you are going thru all your trials, but count it all joy if you can. I relate to you and the other posts. Similar thoughts, feelings, actions, anger, depression, etc etc. You have got to hang on to 2 thoughts. God Loves You, and He is Faithful. The board will indeed pray for you and hurt with you. You are not alone.
hillsbororiver:
Hi DJ, there have been some excellent posts here and very appropriate scripture as well. I have been where you are, with me it lasted over 3 decades. Prayers to heal sickness, no answers, prayers for understanding, no answers, prayers for purpose, no answer, prayers for reconciliation, no answers.............................on my timetable. I failed to realize we are on His timetable.
I have been on the receiving end of condolences more times than I really care to remember, especially with my brother and sister, and other friends and loved ones who died "too young" or before their time so to speak and I saw the misery of my parents as they aged, they started out life physically handicapped and ended it weak and helpless in a hospital bed, that to them was cruelly reminiscent of the years in the hospital that they spent in their youth.
I won't go into the details but there was a time I hated God, hated everything I thought I knew about Him, but I was acting like the child who when needing correction gets disciplined by his parents, overeacts and proclaims hate for them because his understanding of their purpose was too heavy for his immature mind. He would really hate them for a time, run away or threaten to because he did not like being chastised or having his desires unfulfilled, even when his desires would have proven to be self destructive. "Everybody else does it, everybody else has one" children are apt to say to parents who's only interest is the very best for their child, but the child only sees it as cruel and being deprived.
The parents have a better understanding of what is necessary than the child does and God has an infinitely better understanding of what we need and when, than we do. I know that condolences and sympathy, good wishes and all that did not ease the pain for me when I went through some of my more intense tribulations, sometimes it takes years to accomplish that but we have the promise that we all will be together again, never to hurt or be seperated again, this life is a vapor, soon to pass and when the time comes that we are with Him and all of our loved ones and we look back to this experience it will seem to have been a very small price to pay for these immortal treasures.
The prayer I made for understanding took 34 years before I felt it was answered, I then realized all the troubles I was going through was actually Him answering my prayers, it was then when I understood the old phrase "be careful what you pray for, it might come true." His way is not our way and so much of it makes no sense to us as we go through it, but when we look back we see it so differently.
As for the last part I can also speak from experience and let me assure you that being single is WAY better than being in a bad marriage, again patience is the way, getting out of a bad marriage can be a real problem, enduring one a torturous tribulation.
Pro 21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
Pro 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
Pro 27:15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.
No offense ladies! The same is true with men as well, it works both ways!
Love and peace to you DJ,
Joe
Harryfeat:
--- Quote from: gmik ---I am so sorry you are going thru all your trials, but count it all joy if you can. I relate to you and the other posts. Similar thoughts, feelings, actions, anger, depression, etc etc. You have got to hang on to 2 thoughts. God Loves You, and He is Faithful. The board will indeed pray for you and hurt with you. You are not alone.
--- End quote ---
DJ, My thoughts and prayers are similar to gmik who expressed it so much better that I.
My parents put a lot of pressure on us for grandchildren. I hope that your prayers for a child are what you wish and not just to please your dad.
My older sister was eager to please our parents and present them with their first grandchild. She also wanted lots of children. In her haste she married a man who was very immature. She got pregnant early and had both families excited about the new grandchild. In her third trimester her husband came home one day in a fit of jealousy over the attention everyone paid to the unborn child. He proceeded to punch and kick my sister in the stomach all the while expressing how he didn't want the child because it was taking her full attention away from him.
Needless to say she went into labor and the child lived for a few hours before it died. She got her wish to be a mother and my parents got their grandchild for a few hours.
It has been a few years since then but the hurt is still there. After that, our parents never put any pressure on the rest of us for children and expressed their wish for only our happiness through God's will.
I pray that God will ease your pain know His love for you and your dad
feat
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