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Adam was not deceived.
skydreamers:
Sorin, keep in mind, whatever mate you will find in your future, the chances that you will find someone who believes as you do likely will be minimal, even if they are a Christian. For me it has always been important that respect for each other is a high priority. If you have this respect, there will always be the freedom to speak of the things you believe. If you ever need to hide what you believe from your partner in life, you are in deep trouble, in my opinion. Personally I find it easier having a husband that has no ties to any religion. He listens to what I have to say with interest, though at this point it doesn't make him move in one direction or another. He doesn't agree, or disagree because he doesn't really know yet what to think. But I know he loves me and respects me enough to come to me with questions and to see what I think. I don't have to unconvince or convince him of anything, and he doesn't think I'm crazy or a heretic! Of course, it would be awesome if he became a believer as well, but if that's not yet in God's plan, than I'm glad he's not some bible thumping Christian arguing with me about the existence of hell!
Here are some scriptures that have helped me....of course, they seem to be directed to those already married...but like I said, in this great big world it's probably slim pickins trying to find a "chosen one" from out of the few to be your mate....
1 Corinthians 7:14-17
14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace.
16 Wife, how do you know whether you will save your husband? Husband, how do you know whether you will save your wife?
17 Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him. This is my rule in all the churches.
Peace,
Diana-
Sorin:
Hi Diana,
I'm not worried about finding a mate who 'shares my beliefs', I'm worried whether I'll even find one at all.
Everything seems so hopeless now, and the future looks bleak. Even my faith in God is fading; slowly but surely.
-Sorin
UncleBeau:
I would suggest that you stop looking if it's something you're going to dwell on. How can you lose faith in God because he's not giving you what you want? If you're not involved with anyone "right now", it's because God DOES NOT WANT you to be involved with anyone "right now". How can you lose faith in God over that? Is His purpose not better than yours?
On an encouraging note, whether or not you lose hope, God's plan is the best possible outcome for you and He won't fail in what he does...
your friend,
-Beau
Sorin:
--- Quote from: UncleBeau on July 27, 2007, 09:02:39 AM ---I would suggest that you stop looking if it's something you're going to dwell on.
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So I should just throw in the towel? I think I should stop looking for a wife, and just play the field.
Since the girl I wanted to take for my wife, only wants to be friends. What's the point? I'm not
going to find the right person anyways. And I'm not turning celibate.
--- Quote from: UncleBeau ---How can you lose faith in God because he's not giving you what you want?
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That's not WHY I'm losing faith in God.
--- Quote from: UncleBeau ---If you're not involved with anyone "right now", it's because God DOES NOT WANT you to be involved with anyone "right now". How can you lose faith in God over that? (scratched out irrelevant) Is His purpose not better than yours?
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First point: Are you sure about that?
Second point: I don't think so.
--- Quote from: UncleBeau ---On an encouraging note, whether or not you lose hope, God's plan is the best possible outcome for you and He won't fail in what he does...
--- End quote ---
I no longer believe there is a "God's plan" for our lives. Sure it's a comforting thought; but it's an illusion.
-Sorin
UncleBeau:
--- Quote from: Sorin on July 27, 2007, 09:43:25 AM ---
--- Quote from: UncleBeau on July 27, 2007, 09:02:39 AM ---I would suggest that you stop looking if it's something you're going to dwell on.
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So I should just throw in the towel? I think I should stop looking for a wife, and just play the field.
Since the girl I wanted to take for my wife, only wants to be friends. What's the point? I'm not
going to find the right person anyways. And I'm not turning celibate.
Not looking for a wife does NOT mean "play the field" in any sense. Who IS the right person anyway? Could you pick her out of a crowd?
The last part I'm not even going to bother responding to.
--- Quote from: UncleBeau ---How can you lose faith in God because he's not giving you what you want?
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That's not WHY I'm losing faith in God.
--- Quote from: UncleBeau ---If you're not involved with anyone "right now", it's because God DOES NOT WANT you to be involved with anyone "right now". How can you lose faith in God over that? (scratched out irrelevant) Is His purpose not better than yours?
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First point: Are you sure about that?
ABSOLUTELY!
Second point: I don't think so.
YOU SHOULD. You can't prove to me that God wants ANYTHING other than what's happening..
--- Quote from: UncleBeau ---On an encouraging note, whether or not you lose hope, God's plan is the best possible outcome for you and He won't fail in what he does...
--- End quote ---
I no longer believe there is a "God's plan" for our lives. Sure it's a comforting thought; but it's an illusion.
Wow, I'm not touchin' that one. I understand your situation. I was in a VERY similar situation once, but you're speaking heresy brother.
Our very existance is God's plan.
-Sorin
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