Thanks Kat, I believed you nailed my situation exactly. My wife wants to do what she thinks is right. This for her is going to church. I don't mean to sound mean or judgemental but I live with my wife. I can not discern that she has ever even repented of her sins and statred a relationship with God. She does not pray,read her bible.She relies on church attendance to define her goodness. I have a hard time talking with her about anything spiritual,she gets bored and distracted and overwhelmed. She likes to say I don't know as much as you,which is nonsense. Babes in Christ are hungry for the word,more so than old dogs like me. I don't study half as much as I did when I first came to God. Like infants who require feedings every four hours,her infancy in Christ should result in her hungering after the things of God. If church is going to be the substitute for relationship she is in big trouble. As for our marriage,she is the one that makes this into the be all to end all. I end up feeling bad for her,because I see that I am not what she wants.That is I am not a superficial church goer. I want God and him alone. I can take or tolerate the church to a point,but I need God.Unlike her I understand the difference between the two. I believe that God is giving her time to grow,while he is allowing me to attend this church,but when God says I can leave, I am gone and the chips will have to fall as they may.