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decas247:
Hi

all i am new to this forum so please forgive my trying to get the hang of it. i am writing this because i really don't know what to do, i have been with my boyfriend since February this year and everything is fine with him he is kind and loving, but lately we have been having heated debates about god and our beliefs and it seems like he is trying to prove me wrong whenever i discuss rays teachings with him, i have cried many times at the end of are heated discussions as he has told me that i need to go to church and read the bible from beginning to end as i am just following rays opinions. i take him to the bible truths website but he never wants to sit down for himself and go through the site, but he likes to criticize me for using the site, as he feels i just need to read the bible from beginning to end and that is all i need, not rays sight.

so i am feeling down as i cannot express myself freely with him in this area and he wants me to come to church with him. he also wants us to get married and i felt i could marry him but i don't know if that's such a good idea now as we cannot agree, he also says he will speak to my parents about my beliefs and see what they will say about it. so i need some advice please .

from your sister in Christ

God Bless   :(

sonofone:
Hi Decas, I just read your post and really want to help. In reading your post I immediately have strong opinions as to what you should do. I would like to know a little more about you before I voice an opinion to you. How ling has it been since you have been in relationship in Christ? How mature is your faith? How old are you? You say you've been dating since February,and are talking about marriage? The questions are necessary background information to make sure I speak a relevant word into your life. Right back.

Kat:

Hi Selina,

Well maybe you should ask your boyfriend, why does he want you to get the church's opinion instead of Ray's?  Why don't you both compare who has the most Bible based 'opinions.' 
You should find one of the things that you and he disagree on that Ray teaches and get the scriptures that Ray shows to prove his opinion and stand behind what the scripture says, in you discussion with your boyfriend.  Do not talk up Ray or Bible-truths to your boyfriend, but stand on the scripture.  Continue to find the scriptures to back up your differences on point after point.  Write it down if you can't remember it. 

He wants you to do what he sees as right and is willing to causes you a lot of stress in order to do so, as you said, i have cried many times at the end of are heated discussions.  And he is even willing to go over your head to your parents, to try a get his way, not a good sign of respect for your opinion.  He thinks his being right is more important than your feelings?  A difference in beliefs is a very important factor in a relationship.  You need to seriously reconsider whether you want to married a man who is already standing strongly against what you believe.
This is my 'opinion' as to how I see your situation, I hope it helps  :)

mercy, peace and love
Kat

Bradigans:
Well, all I have is THE WORD. I hope this doesn’t get me in trouble. John 16:13 - Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come.I believe your boyfriend is right about certain things, and wrong about certain things. But the thing is, you have got to follow your heart. Proverbs 20:27 - The spirit of man is the candle of the LORD. God’s Holy Spirit is going to lead guide and direct you through your heart (spirit). Don’t be afraid to follow (2 Timothy 1:7, Matthew 10:37-38). Again, if you’re in THE WORD (2 Timothy 2:15) and you feel comfortable at Ray’s site then that’s where you should be.

IN HIS LOVE   

dawnnnny:
Hi Selina,

Great advice here for you.  I just wanted to add that my son is the same as your boyfriend.  He says that the ONLY thing you should ever read is God's Word and nothing else.  These people don't understand that going to church every Sunday and listening to a "sermon" by their pastor is the SAME thing as reading a website or a book written by a man of God.  For both, you need to discern whether he truly is a man of God who is speaking TRUTH.  AND for that you NEED THE WORD ONLY.

That is what impresses me about Bible Truths - is that Ray uses more scripture than anything else.  I wonder if your boyfriend (or yourself) go home after Sunday services and dig into the word to see if what that pastor taught was scriptural?  Most don't.  Most assume that the pastor is 100% right.  I used to be like that   :-[   BUT I'm not anymore  ;D ;D

Personally, I would suggest you do your own studies and avoid confrontation with your boyfriend, it serves no purpose.  And I agree, please don't rush into marriage until (and if) you feel God is leading you in that direction.

I will pray for you!

Much love,
Dawn

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