What do i do? I need help.

> Testimonies / Prayer Requests / Fellowship

<< < (3/4) > >>

Matt:
Alex,
I do not know you at all or much about your relationship. I do not have an answer or cure all, but I have had a similar experience and I want to pass it on to you.

I just want to point out one thing to you. Ask yourself why do you feel “and yet without her, I am incomplete”? I am not making light of this feeling, I felt like this too, but one day, she spelled it out for me in English (something I am afraid us guys need too much in the eyes of women). She told me that she did not want to complete me! She did not want an incomplete man. She wanted me to be her “lifeboat” and to be there (complete, not missing anything) for her. She wanted a safe and secure place. In order to prove this, I had to examine myself and see if this is what I really wanted. I had to endure several years of testing from her just to see if I was serious. Sometimes it was very painful. That has all passed now and we are still married. If this was meant to be, you will need to have much endurance, patience, love, and most of all prayer! I feel for you brother and I pray for happiness and peace in your life!

Matt

lilitalienboi16:
Hello matt, thank you for that encourageing story of hope, i'm overjoyed that all went right, that you were able to endure the fire and come out refined and tried in Him! I pray for the same. Lord only knows my fate, but i hope i am not destined to feel this pain in this body all my life, it would be far to much for me to bare alone, and even now with the Lord i still feel pain and suffering inside.

Moise, i'm glad you are alright after that ordeal, you are certainly stronger then me, because i have been without her for a year and a half, and i still think of her. When i am around her, i am completely transformed in a way that is hard to explain. All my feelings for her are still so very strong, but as i said before, my heart at times is hardened in anger because of the suffering. I turn to things of this world, when i should turn to the Lord, and i am learning more and more that this world only brings me more pain and suffering, and that only the Lord can heal my open wound. He is the one who works all things, and i know He has caused me to feel this pain and endure this trial for a reason, i only pray that His reason be that one day she will return, and when she does, i will be as matt said 'Complete' and her strength and refuge, as a husband should be for His wife, as Christ is for His church.

Thanks for all the prayers, and God bless you all. I couldn't ask for a better family!

Love in Christ,

Alex

Bradigans:

--- Quote from: lilitalienboi16 on October 21, 2007, 06:06:41 PM ---
--- Quote from: Bradigans on October 21, 2007, 11:19:28 AM ---It seems as if God most of the time, if not all the time, draws HIS kids through afflictions. Lets have a look at what Paul has to say about afflictions because I believe he's an authority (2nd Corinthians 6:4-11). 2 Corinthians 4:17-18 - For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory; while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal. And folks thought that physical circumcision was excruciating. Hebrews 12:6-7 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?Physical circumcision has nothing on spiritual circumcision. Hebrews 12:5 - Have ye forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him. God is making and molding some of us into spiritual warriors (trojans and spartans). There's something coming, or it may already be here. 2 Timothy 2:3 - Thou therefore endure hardness, as a good soldier of Jesus Christ. Take up your cross (Matthew 10:38, Philippians 3:10).

IN HIS LOVE

--- End quote ---

Thanks bradigan, this has always been a very fiary trial for me, and it's lasted far to long for me, i am faint and weak, and sometimes i harden my heart in anger and suffering rather then open myself up to the Lord, but He is teaching me... though i am in pain always, to deny this, would be to lie to myself and not be true to who i am. Until jacqueline returns to me, i will always be hurting.

God bless,

Alex

--- End quote ---
I remember years and years ago being in the same state you're in over a woman. Man, I was in despair. Well, a certain brother gave me this verse. 1 Peter 4:12-13 - Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you, but rejoice, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ's sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy. That grief, and i believe it's the rejection more than anything that's so hellish. Thought go through your head. Has a man you have an ego, and in your mind you feel like, do I measure up? It's an ego thing more than anything, and has a lot to do with a rejection complex. I was mean to her in the beginning and took her for granted, but when I changed, she changed. I thing she liked it when I was a dog. At the point of rejection, it seemed like the more I went after her the more she was repulsed, repelled of and by me. I remember trying to make amends by sending flowers to her job. I was in Texas at the time, i'm from Michigan. She told me, the money i was spending on flowers I should save so i could take my --- home. It's like she wasn't satisfied with a knife being in my heart but wanted to twist and turn it. I never knew folks could be ruthless this sort of way. She put me out of our apartment, and i was living on the street. But God was there. It seems like in those days I would have to go so low to feel God's presence. We also had a son together. Man, I went through so much, this isn't even the tip of the iceberg. Even after I got through all of that which what i shared wasn't even the tip of the ice berg, there was plenty more to come. You will adopt the attitude of Job 13:15 - Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him.There is nothing worse though I think for a man of God, then a woman whose heart is snares and traps. Ecclesiastes 7:26 - And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her.Get into God's WORD so you will never have to be snared like this again. Ephesians 6:12 - For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. You're not the only one that has and is suffering. You will pull through. John 16:33 - These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

Sue Creamer:
Alex,
My heart goes out to you, I can feel your pain. I too have experienced that kind of pain and hurt and I am so thankful to say NOW that I HAD to go through it, I NEEDED to go through it and I have come out on the other side...as you will too, a stronger better person. Hang in there bro...

Arcturus - you said:
"I too thought that my pain would endure forever. It felt that way then. Pain has a way of making us believe in its power to never go away or weaken or diffuse. Pain is nasty that way. It is a liar. Pain comes TO PASS and it always leaves us with a lesson and a gift. You will live."

Those are awesome words!!! I am so sorry for the trial you went through, but the wisdom you brought with you through that trial takes my breath away. I know that the next time a trial hits me I will remember what you have said about "pain" and how it is a liar because it WILL pass and a lesson and a gift will be what replaces it....!

Peace to all..
Sue Ann

Navigation

[0] Message Index

[#] Next page

[*] Previous page

Go to full version