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what is a sister to do w/ drug addicted brothers? Prayers and advice needed...

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hebrewroots98:
Hello my dearest brethren (in this WHOLE WIDE WORLD!)  Please pray for me b/c I am burdened right now in learning that my two younger brothers have resorted to getting back onto drugs (again); I don't know if just pot or both pot and the hard stuff ???.  From what I had observed, both of them had been delivered for about the past two years; now I suspect that they are back on to the crank, crack,meth,ice and pot!  One brother was quoted as saying that he will 'NEVER give up pot for as long as he lives'...I know that I shouldn't be so disappointed, but after twenty eight years of my praying, assisting them with so much (I assisted only once they promised me that they would go to a rehab to get 'clean'), after taking them personally to several diff rehabs as well as being there for their support system that helped while they were in there, and them detoxing at my home several times, etc...), well, what do I do with my relationship with them?  (I do not want to be in the same house or them in mine, nor do I want them to be in my vehicle for fear that they might do something stupid like hide their drugs in those places and then I could get into trouble and possibly even have our son taken away ???.    Of course dh says to just leave them alone, but, if I were so addicted to drugs and had nothing to my name and lived as they are (and have been living for most of their lives), I think I would want someone to talk to and love me (and of course help me to furnish some comforts of life to them.  So, what should I do to show them that I still love them despite their ways ...when it is dangerous to have them around us?    Of course they are living in sin and are not reliable or accountable right now for even themselves....I understand that God has made vessels of honor and some of dishonor, so how are we to treat the dishonorable individuals?  I am sure that I am too emotionally close to them in order to see clearly on this right now ???....Any input would be welcomed too.  Thank You!  
Susan

Bradigans:
I would say don't be politically correct, but follow your heart. Remember, you're no one's saviour.

If your heart (Christ in you) is telling you to deal with them, deal with them. If your heart is telling you to cut them off, cut them off.

IN HIS LOVE

Jackie Lee:
Hi Susan your situation sounds almost exact to my situation with my sister in 1996.
I finally had to just seperate myself entirely.
It was hard and family didn't/don't appreciate my stance but for my own sanity I had to do it.
She pretty cleaned me out on my credit cards, it was my fault but wanted to trust her and give her a new start.
She had to spend 4 years in federal prison, I loved her then and still do but in my case which was severe I had to no longer get involved.
I had to become hardened to her cause she was pulling me down, and put my life in danger.
I will pray God's will in this situation.

Matt:
Hello Susan,
  I am very sorry to hear about this. :(
My older brother died because of drugs about 10 years ago.  As much as we loved him, we decided it was best for everyone, especially the kids, to keep him out of our lives.  He was welcome to participate in our family, but it had to be under our terms, not his. 
We were caught somewhere between unconditional and tough love.  It is a very hard place to be, but ultimately, after many years of frustration and heart ache, we had to do what was best for the rest of us.
He was draining us all, mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially. 

I pray that your brothers stop eating with the swine, similar to the prodigal son, and your family "should make merry, and be glad: for this thy brother was dead, and is alive again; and was lost, and is found."

Matt

gmik:
Oh dear Susan, I am so sorry for this pain you are going thru!  I am also sorry that I have no advice to give!  I don't know what I would do.

 You, dh, and Daniel will go thru it together so their input is important.  As Daniel is so young, he and his safety have to be #1.

You are a wise, big-hearted, gal.  I know you want to help them as much as you can.  You know scripture as good as anyone here and you have a walk w/ the Lord that you know you can depend on His leading by the Spirit.

 Take a big deep breath and resolve to calmly follow common sense and the Spirit! ;)

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