I wouldn't say second-hand, but certainly second of the same hand.
Gen 2:21-24
(21) And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
(22) And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
(23) And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
(24) Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
The whole spiritual relationship between our Father and Christ, Christ his Bride(the CHURCH), and the husband and wife, why is being second a BAD thing?
?
Because our Father said so?
Without Christ being at the forefront of the husband's very being, then the whole idea that the husband IS the head of the household is not going to work.
Our Father IS the Head of His Body, Christ.
Christ IS the Head of His Body, the Church.
The husband IS the Head of His Body, his Wife.
1Co 11:3
(3) But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Eph 5:23
(23) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.
If Christ is IN the husband, then the husband will LOVE the wife AS HIS OWN BODY. pay close attention to the order in which things MUST occur in order for the relationship to be correct and healthy.
Eph 5:20-33
(20)
Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;
(21)
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
(22)
Wives,
submit yourselves unto your own husbands,
as unto the Lord.
(23) For the husband is the
head of the wife, even
as Christ is the head of the church: and
he is the savior of the body.
(24)
Therefore as the
church is subject unto Christ, so let the
wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
(25) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
(26) That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
(27) That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
(28 )
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
(29)
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:(30) For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
(31) For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
(32) This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
(33) Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Will this come over night for most husbands? NOT, NOT, TRIPLE NOT!
As all things are with Christ, it is a process, but the start of the firstfruits of Christ in a husband is immediate. The fruits of the Spirit, will be a worthy witness to the fact of Christ working in a husband or not. So, if this isn't being seen in your husband, then obviously all the other things are out the window.
You have to have a foundation laid first.
Luk 6:48
( 48 ) He is like a man which built a house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock.
1Co 3:10-11
(10) According to the grace of God which is given unto me, as a wise masterbuilder, I have laid the foundation, and another buildeth thereon.
But let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon.
(11)
For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ.
God Bless
Edited and added this because it adds to the point of the post I made:
1Co 11:3
(3) But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
1Co 11:8-12
(8 ) For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man.
(9) Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
(10) For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels.
(11) Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.
(12) For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman;
but all things of God.