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Help with my attitude
Linny:
Hey Phazel,
I am going to speak from experience here but when we are hurt by people, we have to make a choice. We can CHOOSE to be offended, or we can choose not to be offended. One good thing I did learn from our former church and from my Spiritual mentor was that "dead people don't get offended." Meaning, dead to ourselves. One thing I have learned from my many years of living is that my side or version is not the only side and I have to consider that others are not only not living my present life and situation, but they have their own very personal background and life experiences so that what seems ridiculous to me may make perfect sense to them. They may still be completely wrong, but I make a choice to give them the benefit of the doubt. It makes things hurt a lot less.
It is certainly not easy to walk in our Spirit man over our fleshly man but the more we try to do it, the less the world can hurt our feelings. If my Savior can be spit upon and treated as He was, let them do it, and then forgive those who did it, how can I walk in offense of such minor things in comparison? I am not saying it is easy, it is just an attitude that takes time to cultivate and lots of prayer and help from the Lord to maintain. I work HARD to do it and still fail a lot of the time, but I get better all the time too.
Linny
Martinez:
--- Quote from: Samson on March 09, 2008, 08:34:42 AM ---
Phazel, remember the old saying, " With friends like that, who needs enemies, " Personally, I pick my friends sparingly, I have alot of acquaintances, but hardly any real friends; I like what it says at John. 15:14-16, he called his Apostles his friends, instead of slaves, John being especially close to Jesus; John. 21:20-22. I try to be friendly with everyone, but have had in life, few genuine friends.
Keep your chins up, my Brothers, I'll pray for you, please pray for me.
Your Brother, Samson.
--- End quote ---
Hey Samson!
I too don't have many friends but a lot of acquaintances. it is a very lonely road we are called to travel. it doesn't have many traveling companions and it's narrow because it leads to life.
That still doesn't stop it being lonely though!
Thank God for the internet!
Bradigans:
--- Quote from: Martinez on March 09, 2008, 04:42:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Samson on March 09, 2008, 08:34:42 AM ---
Phazel, remember the old saying, " With friends like that, who needs enemies, " Personally, I pick my friends sparingly, I have alot of acquaintances, but hardly any real friends; I like what it says at John. 15:14-16, he called his Apostles his friends, instead of slaves, John being especially close to Jesus; John. 21:20-22. I try to be friendly with everyone, but have had in life, few genuine friends.
Keep your chins up, my Brothers, I'll pray for you, please pray for me.
Your Brother, Samson.
--- End quote ---
Hey Samson!
I too don't have many friends but a lot of acquaintances. it is a very lonely road we are called to travel. it doesn't have many traveling companions and it's narrow because it leads to life.
That still doesn't stop it being lonely though!
Thank God for the internet!
--- End quote ---
I've made that statement above of being lonely many times myself. I'm beginning to believe it's not true anymore. It's just a matter of taking your eyes by faith off of the physical (temporal) of what you don't have, and putting them by faith on what you do have in the spiritual/eternal (2 Corinthians 4:18).
- Hebrews 12:22-24 - But ye are come unto mount Sion, and unto the city of the living God, the heavenly Jerusalem, and to an innumerable company of angels, to the general assembly and church of the firstborn, which are written in heaven, and to God the Judge of all, and to the spirits of just men made perfect, And to Jesus the mediator of the new covenant, and to the blood of sprinkling, that speaketh better things than that of Abel.
There are brothers and sisters all around, and even angels. Don't be concerned, like Satan wants you to be, of what you don't see with the eyes.
ciy:
1 Samuel 30:6 is always an encouragement to me when this narrow, lonely walk gets tough. We are set apart for a reason and I believe one of the main reasons is so that we come to see that all we can turn to is the Lord and He will supply us.
" 6And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the LORD his God. "
Know that God has you in the palm of His right hand.
CIY
David:
Hi Phazel
I would just reiterate what everyone has said here, that this something we all battle with. Its the Adam in us.
I'm about as bad as you can get for the way in which I have treated some people, and we're not just talking a couple here. I used to use a lot musicians forums, and I lost count how many I got banned from because I was so self opinionated, argumentative, unforgiving, self righteous, judgemental, sarcastic and even insulting to hundreds of people, and possibly thousands that were just inactive readers.
The beast in all of us to begin with is complete, it has every facet of evil there is in us. Not all are always manifested, but a lot of it is.
Just keep in mind our transformation, our conformity to the image of Christ is a gradual process that takes our life times.
2 Cor 3:17-18 17 Now the Lord is the Spirit; and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. 18 But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.
Notice the blue section of this verse. We are being transformed, and as we go along in our walk in Christ, if we abide in his commandments we are given a little more glory as we go along.
The fact that God has laid it on your heart to share this and to publically repent of it shows that God is working in you and dealing with this problem in His own way, after the council of His own will.
Let that be your exhortation brother, God is dealing with it and will burn it out of you completely when He's good and ready.
Be blessed
David.
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