Thakyou Kat, Gena, Roy and Brenda,
Your prayers and advice is much appreciated. This Ex-Wife referred to by Freckle Girl is most difficult to contend with. She is wants commonly called, a PERFECTIONIST, perfectionism is a disease, because one who is a perfectionist establishes their own righteousness and uses the Bible and their " relationship with Christ " as a hammer, exalting their so-called Holiness and looking upon others as Spiritually inferior. I've been advised by my wife and a Forum Member who converses with me by phone to not respond, thus far, I've applied the counsel. I can remember that Jesus remained silent when before the Sanhedrin, prior to being nailed to the cross. Their was nothing he could say, the weren't going to believe him anyway and would twist his words. I have to admit that this is hard for me to apply, because of the Judgement and attachs towards my Character. I say to myself, I've been divorced from this Woman for 7 years and separated for three years prior to that and she still needs to pass judgement and find fault with me. I don't want to blow a trumpet, but I know of no other male that would drive 220 miles one way, once per month for ten years to see their child, I've been doing this for ten years. I consistently pay my child support(Bi-weekly), give my EX-Wife extra money when she's desperate, her own Husband, who she's separated from, hardly does anything and is currently having an affair with another woman. Also, I spend extra money on my Daughter, beyond the child support. Some might respond by saying: You good for nothing slave, you only did what you should have.
I will give you an example of her self-righteousness; She was a JW for twenty years like and followed the letter of their Law, except in area's where it was inconvenient for her, upon leaving that Religion and thereafter for reasons relating to the flaws of others, she eventually goes through approximately 5 different churches eventually ending up with a Non-denominational Born again type Church and is legalistic as ever. This Church goes so far as to tell their members which movies,T.V. and music is acceptable. My Daughter used to like Harry Potter Movies, Now I'm not advocating these movies, I don't even like them, but I asked her why it was okay to watch them a year ago and not now. Her response was that we are Christians now and weren't then. Poppycock, my Ex-Wife believed she was a Christian long before that. Prior to joining this Forum, my wife and I lived together without getting legally married, we felt we didn't need Man's certificate to prove we were Married with God. We did get Married legally on 4/17/07 and after listening to Ray's talk on Marriage and learning that the Greek word Gamos translated Marriage in the New Testament literally means Nuptials, we realized we did the right thing. My wife and I decided for the time being that we wouldn't tell anyone. My attitude was that it's none of anyone's business, except God's. I never read in the Bible that it was necessary to report our personal business to others. Finally, we told my Daughters that we were legally married, one of my Ex-Wives, the one being discussed in this post, asked me what the greek word was for liar(Sarcastically) in one of her E-mails, of course I didn't respond. I Didn't know it was my job to report her or anyone that I was Marrried and how long. The Bible indicates as Ray proved, that you should be legally married when living together, which we did, where in the Bible does it say we have to report these things to Ex-wives, especially ones that will use it against us. A Forum member suggested to me in private that I should let them know, because of an appearance of Evil(living together) and so I did. I just feel like the nerve that puny humans made out of dust like me, think they need to know my business. Sometimes the less your enemies know about you, the better off you are. Well, enough said, I'm on a roll.
Anyone that dares to venture with a comment, I'm all ears
Your Brother, Samson.
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