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Kat:

Hi Marlene,

I can understand how hard it would be to hear negatives things about you father, that you would to like to remember him in a positive light.  It seems with resentment negative thoughts come to mind easily.  Does she ever say anything positive about him? 

Perhaps if when she starts to carry on about something negative you could interupt and remind her of something positive you remember.  Or you could ask her about things that you believe would have a positive memory, say her wedding day for instants.  If she changes and starts into saying something negative just say you don't want to hear that right now and continue with a positive memory you have.  Maybe she has lost sight of the good memories and you could jog her memory on a few things.

Sometimes it seems that negativity feeds on itself.  So try to keep her mind on something positive even if it's not about your father.  I think if you just sit and listen to her negative stories it is just providing someone for her to air these griefs to.  So it may help to try and start steering the conversations more to a positive subject.  Hopefully she may start remembering some of the good things.  I will be praying for you and your mother.

mercy, peace and love
Kat

walt123:
i marlene
i was reading all the replies for your mother,and thinking along the the way the story of job,
i quess the hardest thing to do  is listen and let her vent her feeling, i think Kat is on target
in what she said.
perhaps you can do things she loves to do to get her mind off the pain she's going throw,without letting her know,
what your doing,I think it's called reverse psychology.
prayers are with you and your mother.
walt

Marlene:
Kat and Walt, You have some very good ideas. I have tried to talk about the good memories. Sometimes, she gets really mad at me. I have always praised her for the wonderful Mother she has been and is. But, if I say anything nice about him its like she is jealous. Like she doesn't want to hear. I know definitely  she is having trouble forgiving. She is so unhappy. One night I asked her if I could pray for her and when i went over she pushed my hand away. Another, time I told her when she kept talking about all his bad maybe she needed to take it to God. She said"I don't want to." I guess maybe God will have to bring her to that place where she wants to. My Mother is a very moral person. Actually, I think she sees all the big things as sins. She tells me she is nothing and that is how he made her feel. But, I know he did have some very nice things about him. He even had concern about her living alone when he died. I told her she is valuable to all her children and to God. She told me she would have not gone back to him except she was going to have my sister and her parents were getting old. So, there we see a cause as to why she stayed. That would proof what Ray says, about a cause for choices we make.
Every great now and then she will say she misses him. Then if she hears anyone talk about men cheating on tv she gets to thinking about him. My Mom has always been like Martha. Working, now she is not able she is 87. Now, she has time to think. If, you would see her face you would know carrying all those thoughts are hurting her inside. All, I can say is its in his hands. Keep me in your Prayers. I have always been the child to want to fix things for people. She would even call me while they were fighting. My husband felt bad for me, cause he knew I hate to fight. I am the youngest, and my father always told me I was strong. But, for the most part of my life god has been my strength. He is all I have. I just want you all to keep me in your Prayers, because of yet she is still very unhappy.
In His Love,
Marlene
P.S. I guess this is part of my trials. But, now I have learned I can't be the savior for people with problems.

aqrinc:

Marlene,

My Prayers have been said for you and mother.

Can we do less than he asks us to do (Love one another).

Luke 6:27:
But I say to you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you,

Luke 6:32:
For if you love them which love you, what thank have you? for sinners also love those that love them.

Romans 5:8:
But God commends his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

Just some very powerful Scriptures to ponder.

In Love Sister,

George.

Marlene:
Hello, Thanks George they were very powerful scriptures.

In His Love
Marlene

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