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hammerandnails:
I have a question about the unbelieving husband and the believing wife.
My husband is not a believer.
Oh, he believes that is a God, and that is the extend of his beliefs.
We were separated for 4 years, and I decided that I would never marry or have a relationship
ever again. I dedicated my life to the Lord. But MY plan did not work out, as usual. ::) ;)
The Lord had other plans for me which included me returning to my husband broken and humiliated.
Since my return, I am being purged, burned, pruned and what ever else God is doing, and it hurts.
I am going through a lot of changes. Up today, down tomorrow, and some days I am brain dead!!!!  :'(
My question is on 1Cor.7:13,14
      "And the woman which has a husband that believes not, and if he be pleased to
       dwell with her, let her not leave him. (v.13)
       For the unbelieving husband is sanctified (set apart) by the wife, and the
       unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean;
       but now are they holy." (v.14)

Anybody can explain this to me?
How I am sanctifying my husband?
How is he set apart?
Anybody can relate to this?
Any words of edification?

Thank you.
Blessings
Ariel
       

Samson:
Hello Ariel,

                I don't personally like to tell what people should or shouldn't do regarding 1Cor chapter 7
                and Marital Separation, Divorce, etc. However, here is an E-mail to Ray that has some
                relevance regarding Marital Difficulties.


                Also read the Article from the front page of this Site Entitled: Unevenly Yoked, Well read this
                e-mail below, I couldn't find anything else of a similiar nature from Ray.


                 
                http://www.forums.bible-truths.com/index.php/topic,2618.0.html


                 
                                      Hope this Helps, after being a former JW for twenty years,
                                      Marrriage Separation and Re-Entry is a stressfull past for me.


                                           Kind Regards, Samson.

Akira329:
How I am sanctifying my husband?
As CHrist is sanctified he is sancitifying you through his word and his word is truth.
You will do the same with your husband, speak the truth and live in his word.
Joh 17:17  Sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth.
Joh 17:18  As thou hast sent me into the world, even so have I also sent them into the world.
Joh 17:19  And for their sakes I sanctify myself, that they also might be sanctified through the truth.
Love him as Christ loves the church.
Eph 5:25  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

1Co 7:12  But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
1Co 7:13  And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
1Co 7:14  For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
1Co 7:15  But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
1Co 7:16  For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
1Co 7:17  But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.
1Co 7:18  Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised.
1Co 7:19  Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God.
1Co 7:20  Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called.
1Co 7:21  Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather.
1Co 7:22  For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the Lord's freeman: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ's servant.
1Co 7:23  Ye are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men.
1Co 7:24  Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God

Endure :)

Antaiwan

cjwood:
hi ariel,
i can relate. however, my husband is an agnostic. he doesn't believe that there is any proof that there is one supreme God. actually, he is the one who caused me to really start questioning how my God could be a God of love and give a new commandment through Jesus Christ that we are to love our enemies, BUT, He was going torment unbelievers in a physical fire for eternity. it wasn't long after that when God led me to the bible-truths website. i have been married for 16 1/2 yrs. we do not have any children, however, i do have one daughter from my previous marriage. (she is now 29 yrs old). my husband and i did not date for long before we got married. i asked him about whether he believed in God, before we got married and all he really said was that he used to go to church every summer with his grandmother when he and his family were visiting the u.s. my husband grew up in london. anyway, i kind of dropped it after that i guess because i was "assuming" by his answer that since he attended church with his grandmother that he had at least a beginners knowledge of God. i was so wrong. in the last 4 yrs the unequally yoking of a believer (me) to an unbeliever (him) has taken its' toll. especially the las 2 yrs. he had an online affair which i walked in on the day after christmas in '06. i was devastated. then in '07 i just purposely put my focus on my daughter's wedding at the end of '07 (it was in san miguel, mexico). i felt like i was on a roller coaster, up one day and down the next. my husband told me that he wanted a divorce but that he wanted to pay off all debts first. he works in the oildfield industry and works in the international arena (currently works offshore in nigeria). then he decided we should go ahead and try counseling. i have not worked since '02 when i got laid off from my company when they downsized. my husband said that i didn't need to work because he was earning a good salary. in 1997 i was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. in early 2000 i got breast cancer (very early stage). in late summer 2000 we moved into a new home. then, in 2002 i got laid off. in 2004 my father died unexpectedly, and my health issues became more predominant. i started going to a pain clinic and per multiple mri's found that i had cervical and lumbar problems due to past injuries. i have nerve damage in my left leg. i started suffering depression due to my health issues and due to my husband being gone every other month, and due to my daddy's death and my momma's subsequent heartache and feeling of loneliness and depression (they had been married 60 yrs.). when i found out about my husband's online affair at the end of '06, he confessed that he had been unhappy since 2004. bottom line, after i was led to the bt website and started learning how absolutely awesome our God and His Son are, i felt i needed to do some serious thinking about my marriage which was pretty much a farce. i would go back and forth between being so angry at my husband and wanting to get as far away from him as possible, and then facing the reality that due to health problems i most likely could not support myself or work full-time to keep my health insurance. then i told myself that i could not stay in my marriage just because of money and health insurance, because i knew that my Father would meet my needs if He indeed was calling me out of my marriage. after i went to the bt nashville conference the past september, i came home convinced that i needed to go through with the divorce. when i talked to my husband about this, it was obvious that he was concerned that he could very possibly loose me and our marriage. in the past few weeks he called me from nigeria to say that he didn't want a divorce and that he missed me and didn't want to loose me. so, there i was, a living example of the scripture you referenced. a believing wife with an unbelieving spouse who wanted to stay in the marriage. he acknowledged that he had made a serious mistake with the online affair, and that he has work to do regarding his issues with lust and pornography. so, i would lay awake at night, AGAIN, and cry out to God asking Him to show me what path i should take. actually, it was after i started going to God and crying out to Him that my husband called me from nigeria to say he didn't want to divorce. so here i am. it has been almost 2 yrs since the online affair and we are still married. i am actually getting excited about seeing him when he comes home this thursday from nigeria. BUT, i still wonder HOW can our marriage work out with the unequally yoking issue. the bt link that samson posted as a reply to you was a very good one for me to read. i had never read that particular email response by ray. i have read the unequally yoked to an unbeliever paper that ray wrote. i have studied and restudied it a few times now. like ray responded to the email question in the link, i know that God is showing me that i am to be the best wife i can be each and every day. i also know that i am to continue studying the scriptures daily and to not use my husband as an excuse not to study ray's teachings and the scriptures. after i found out about my husband's affair i had put my studying of the scriptures aside because i didn't want to "turn my husband off." BUT, he never asked me to stop studying the scriptures on to stop going to the bt website. God has shown me that i am to keep my eyes on my Saviour and His truths, but that i have a duty to my husband even if he is an unbeliever. i have shared the truth about there not being a literal hell where unbelievers would perish with my husband and he has listened, but, i know for a truth that i cannot lead my husband to God. that is between God and my husband. i can only be the best example of a loving wife and loving child of God that i can be. my husband has made it clear that he wants to stay together and i have made it clear that trust and honesty and respect are very big issues in our marriage. so, i take it one day at a time. i actually realized that after 2006 i had stopped praying to God for my husband. now i pray without ceasing that God will tenderize my husband's hardened heart towards God and His Son, and that God would show mercy and grace to my husband and draw him to Himself. for my husband's sake though, NOT for mine. what better thing could i do but to pray that God would reveal Himself to my husband. what better thing than that could happen to him!!!??? but then again, if it never happens before i or my husband pass away, then i know at least that my husband will repent and confess that Jesus Christ is Lord after my husband goes through the great white throne judgement. so, i too used to wonder about 1 cor. 7:13. but i guess i believed that since there was the issue that the unbelieving husband would be sanctified by the believing wife, or else the children would be unclean, meant that since my husband and i didn't have any children, then the scripture didn't apply to our situation. but i know that i need to do more indepth study of that particular scripture. ariel, i would exhort you to read the link that samson provided and continue to give your heart to God and studying of the scriptures, using ray's teachings as a guide, but not to harbor resentment towards your husband because of his lack of desire to pursue a personal relationship with God. if you truly love your husband, pray for him and pray for your marriage. if i haven't learned anything else, i have learned that God loves you more than you can even begin to imagine, and He knows your needs and desires of your heart. He is the best daddy, daddy that any girl could want. He will show you his path for you. believe it.

i will keep you and your husband in my prayers.

love in Jesus Christ,
claudia

Falconn003:
This article says alot about marriages.........

Unequally Yoked

Marriage and Unbelievers

http://bible-truths.com/yoked.htm

Rodger

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