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Jody Edwards:
My wife and I have been engaged in a discussion on how to apply Paul's admonition to not become "unequally yoked". Our discussion is centered around "close friendships" and "home school groups".
1) My wife maintains a close friendship with a "carnal believer" girlfriend that she had before we were called out of the harlot church system 3 years ago. She was a friend of hers in a little bible study group back then. When we decided to leave the harlot church system, my wife withdrew from the bible study but still maintains a close friendship with that one lady. Can anyone advise us to whether that relationship is appropriate?
2) A couple of years ago, we started home schooling our 3 boys. There were two home school groups in the area that we had a choice of joining. One was "Christian" and one was "non-Christian". We new the Christian group's belief were no different than the harlot church that we left so we decided to join the non-Christian group. There are many group activities each week with that home school group and we usually participate in them. As a result, we have become friends with some of the families in the group who are unbelievers, my wife more so than me. Can anyone advise us on this relationship as to whether or not it is appropriate?
I am feeling convicted on both counts above but my wife is not. I would appreciate any advice as to what we should do. My wife is willing to submit to my decision but since it would affect her life in such a large way, I want to make sure that the course of action that I take is scriptural. Any scriptural insight that anyone can give me in these matters will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Jody Edwards
chuckt:
--- Quote from: Jody Edwards on November 21, 2008, 11:05:54 AM ---My wife and I have been engaged in a discussion on how to apply Paul's admonition to not become "unequally yoked". Our discussion is centered around "close friendships" and "home school groups".
1) My wife maintains a close friendship with a "carnal believer" girlfriend that she had before we were called out of the harlot church system 3 years ago. She was a friend of hers in a little bible study group back then. When we decided to leave the harlot church system, my wife withdrew from the bible study but still maintains a close friendship with that one lady. Can anyone advise us to whether that relationship is appropriate?
2) A couple of years ago, we started home schooling our 3 boys. There were two home school groups in the area that we had a choice of joining. One was "Christian" and one was "non-Christian". We new the Christian group's belief were no different than the harlot church that we left so we decided to join the non-Christian group. There are many group activities each week with that home school group and we usually participate in them. As a result, we have become friends with some of the families in the group who are unbelievers, my wife more so than me. Can anyone advise us on this relationship as to whether or not it is appropriate?
I am feeling convicted on both counts above but my wife is not. I would appreciate any advice as to what we should do. My wife is willing to submit to my decision but since it would affect her life in such a large way, I want to make sure that the course of action that I take is scriptural. Any scriptural insight that anyone can give me in these matters will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Jody Edwards
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here is an article from ray:
http://bible-truths.com/yoked.htm
and as for unbelievers and the like:
1Cr 5:9 I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:
1Cr 5:10 Yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out of the world
its the ones calling themselves christians that boast of sin and have no shame you need to stay away from :'(
The unbeleiving world needs your light to shine ;)
were would Jesus Go??
God bless
chuckt
mharrell08:
--- Quote from: Jody Edwards on November 21, 2008, 11:05:54 AM ---My wife and I have been engaged in a discussion on how to apply Paul's admonition to not become "unequally yoked". Our discussion is centered around "close friendships" and "home school groups".
1) My wife maintains a close friendship with a "carnal believer" girlfriend that she had before we were called out of the harlot church system 3 years ago. She was a friend of hers in a little bible study group back then. When we decided to leave the harlot church system, my wife withdrew from the bible study but still maintains a close friendship with that one lady. Can anyone advise us to whether that relationship is appropriate?
2) A couple of years ago, we started home schooling our 3 boys. There were two home school groups in the area that we had a choice of joining. One was "Christian" and one was "non-Christian". We new the Christian group's belief were no different than the harlot church that we left so we decided to join the non-Christian group. There are many group activities each week with that home school group and we usually participate in them. As a result, we have become friends with some of the families in the group who are unbelievers, my wife more so than me. Can anyone advise us on this relationship as to whether or not it is appropriate?
I am feeling convicted on both counts above but my wife is not. I would appreciate any advice as to what we should do. My wife is willing to submit to my decision but since it would affect her life in such a large way, I want to make sure that the course of action that I take is scriptural. Any scriptural insight that anyone can give me in these matters will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Jody Edwards
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Hello Jody,
As Paul states in the scriptures, conversing with unbelievers is expected in this world. So what is it about both relationships that you find inappropriate?
Marques
Beloved:
This is from the Analytical literal translation
(1Co 5:11) But now, I wrote to you* not to be associating with anyone being named a brother if he is a sexual sinner or covetous or an idolater or a slanderer [or, an abusive person] or a drunkard or a swindler, not even to eat with such a person.
(1Co 5:12) For what [is it] to me to also judge the ones outside? You* judge the ones within, do you* not?
(1Co 5:13) But God judges the ones outside. "And you* will expel the evil [one] from among yourselves." [Deut 17:7; 19:19; 22:21,24; 24:7]
You may have a "Clinton" problem...what exactly do you mean by "associate"
...if it is normal social human activities (cooking cleaning no religious classes etc) then I see no problem....but to let them into "your religious house", either by praying or discussing your beliefs....that is wrong.....Christ said ....come out and that means stay out...no looking back.....
Jesus and the apostles interacted with the world...Paul went to all of the capitol/major cities, the cross roads where people congrated...he went there to teach...those that were drawn to Christ ...he shared spiritual food with...the others only physical food.
it does not sound like spiritual food will be found in either camp...and the few are scattered...so a ray would say...just 'do what is right'...represent Christ to all
beloved
OBrenda:
Hi Jody,
Speaking as my understanding, when the scriptures speak about being "Yoked" it means to be bonded together for a time for a task, job, or mission like plowing a field.
When the field has been plowed & worked, off comes the yoke and as far as I know it doesn't say anything about hanging out at the barn eating some hay with a bunch of the the other animals.
Keeping in mind some exceptions ...I'm not about to throw my pearls to the swine, or argue and debate with the donkey!
So I tend to lean torwards believing Julie having the maturity to deal with her friendship with the woman to the harlot church on that level, (hanging out & eating Hay) so long as it remains respectful to where Julie is with her beliefs. They could not put themselves in a position to "Plow God's Field" together, because they are not like minded.
Home schooling, a bit more tricky but same wisdom, I'd probably feel better with non Christian groups and would be clear about the boundaries. We are to Live in the World, but we are not of he world. We are to be a light, and not cover it up with a bowl (isolate).
I know when I'm in a group of people (or one) that is contrary to my spirit. They attack, demean, degrade and throw sarcastic remarks at my character and beliefs. They are not my friends, (but sometimes family) and I pray for them and avoid them as God allows me. As you mentioned, even you and your wife don't see exactly the same, even more so is our walk with others.
Sounds like you enjoy this group, I imagine if they are home schooling they care deeply for their kids education? What is your concern & what any more harm can they be than the usual strife that even we have with each other here?
Hope this helps, I look forward to what others may share,
Your Sister,
Brenda
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