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EKnight:
Dear members,

At this very moment I am seething with anger toward my husband for his disinterest in my affairs here at BT.

Let me explain.  Last night we went out to dinner for our son's 21st birthday.  On the drive home we were talking and somehow I brought Ray into the conversation.  My son got angry and said Ray is a cult and all I do is talk about Ray says this and Ray says that.  I told him he was way off base and that I follow Jesus Christ and not Ray.  And he said then do that, why do you need Ray.  I turned to my husband and asked him to please defend me and he wouldn't.  The rest of the ride home was in silence.

I just now asked my husband why he wouldn't defend me, to which he replied that the subject of Ray was irrelevant to the initial conversation.  I told him I wanted him to tell our son that Ray is not a cult and that he should have backed me up so that our son didn't think I was involved in a cult.  His reaction to that was just to laugh and continue making his coffee!  I walked away.

I had asked him a while ago to show unity with me on the subject of BT and Ray's teachings so that the kids would see that this was not just some passing fancy of mine.  I think it is important so that if and when the kids hear me say something regarding the knowledge of truth, they don't dismiss it.  They know their father is a very intelligent man and if he were to express agreement with me the kids would be more apt to respect my words.

When I walked away, I thought to myself, if this keeps up, it could be a thorn in my marriage.  I am getting very annoyed with my husbands attitude.  He spends hours playing flight simulator, reading history books, watching the history and discovery channels and then when I ask him to read or listen to something from BT it's a bother to him.  I don't just want him to be like-minded, I need him to be.  I am finding it difficult to be alone (despite the forum) in my quest.

Thanks for listening.

Eileen

mharrell08:
My wife is not converted either so I know how you feel.

Luke 12:51-53  Suppose ye that I am come to give peace on earth? I tell you, Nay; but rather division: For from henceforth there shall be five in one house divided, three against two, and two against three. The father shall be divided against the son, and the son against the father; the mother against the daughter, and the daughter against the mother; the mother in law against her daughter in law, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.

Matt 10:34-36  Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man's [mankind: including women] foes shall be they of his own household.


You and your family will be in our prayers.


Hope this helps,

Marques

Jackie Lee:
OH Dear Eileen, I have no advice but can say when it comes to my belief I do my best to say nothing.
My sister asked me what I believed, so I wrote down how all would be saved, also God is a God of love.
I took some inserts of Ray's papers and hand wrote them since I don't have a printer.
This was the nail driven in the coffin as far as a relationship between us, she told my mother now they both think I really am screwed up.
Once in a great while I will mention something to my husband and I do believe he is thinking on no freewill.
As much as I would like to talk with him about BT I know I can't.
If I mentioned Ray's name I know he would say you are listening to all those nuts on computer, it makes no difference if you have scripture proof,  he just don't want to hear it.
 I do understand but for me to keep peace is to not say anything.
God will work it out in time. :)

EKnight:
Thanks Marques,

I just quoted those same scriptures to him yesterday but in reference to my mother and brothers and sisters, not realizing that it was applicable to him as well.

He stopped going to church when I did but I still sense in him a feeling of loss toward the "physical rituals of the church".  At this point it doesn't even seem like God is dragging/drawing him so I suppose I have a long wait to have him like-minded unless of course God pulls another Saul/Paul conversion  :D.  You never know.

Eileen

Kat:

Hi eileen,

I think God may be showing you that you must stand on your own, with the spirit of Christ, indwelling of course.  But your husband must not be someone you 'need' to lean on.  This truth is between you and God and only Christ should be the support you need.

Well we never know what lies ahead, so have hope.  But I think it would be a good idea to drop mentioning Ray's name since it seems to break the peace.  What you could do is to continue to express what you believe, but just put it in your own words and maybe not even mention BT either.  After all if you are embracing these beliefs they do become yours and you should gain their respect because they see Christ living in you.

Now it would be nice to have a mate that believes this truth, so as to share and study these things together, but I don't think that is usually the case.  My hushand did not attend church with me all the years I went, which is probably a blessing now.  But he has no interest in this truth, so why case my pearls before swine?  But I think I still make a big difference in this family, by how I act and react with them and certainly by what I say.  I do think it is these everyday life experiences that show us how we are progressing in being made into His image.

mercy, peace and love
Kat

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