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I have never felt like I really "fit in" in this world. It always seemed like I was sort of watching people living their lives, but I was part of an audience, not feeling like I was a part of the goings on. I did go to school, play with friends, grow up, get married, have children, attend a church for about nine years, etc., etc. But, honestly, all the time I've felt like there was something sort of between me and the rest of the world. Something that didn't allow me to really totally mingle or blend(?) in. What is THAT?? It has been quiet frustrating and so lonely at times----even with a husband and fiive kids. I feel like an ALIEN alot of the time. I don't know of anyone who feels the way I do about life and God. Maybe that's why I feel like I do, does anyone ever feel like this? My husband believes in God and has accepted Jesus, but really doesn't have any interest in discussing God and His Word. I'm guessing that God hasn't led my husband to seek knowledge?? I don't know. I would like to see if others have felt this way and if you have any input. Thanks--Dana
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I KNOW I'm an alien :)
yes Dana...I've felt like this since I was little...didn't quite fit in with my family...was always the rebel but never knew why...but to quote the Scripture...maybe we are a "perculiar"people if in this world but not from it?
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Yes Dana & worm,
Without elaborating I must agree with this feeling & experience you wrote about. What accompanied this was a feeling of something profoundly great or astonishing in the near future, I found this just as confounding as the "alienation" experience. I did not know the source of this positive expectation or exactly what it would entail, become a sports star, rock star, inventor? Or would I discover a hidden treasure in the most unexpected place?
I believe I know the answer now,
Thanks for this intriguing thread,
Joe
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amen.
if you feel like you dont fit into this world rejoice!!!!!
love
euty
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amen.
if you feel like you dont fit into this world rejoice!!!!!
love
euty
Welcome Dana,
Like a Round peg in a square Hole, which just never Fits. Lol!
Welcome to land of Odd Balls. ;D
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I like bobby have tried many many many different ways to fit in and in the proccess made a WHOLE lot of mistakes in my life. I still have two people that I used to call my best friends but now I guess they are more like aquaintenances because we only talk once in a great while and we no longer have anything in common now that I am being me instead of trying to be someone I am not. I am glad that I have my husband because like me we are both outcasts. WE KNOW THE TRUTH. and others don't like the truth or are just not ready for the truth. So, yes Dana I totally know how you feel.
God Bless you and Welcome to the forum,
Amy
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:)You people are so great! Now I know I'm an alien, but it's not so bad knowing that I'm not the only one. I was beginning to understand that I could be different because of whatever God has in store for me, and I don't really want to be like alot of the other people I've been getting to know (in the world). It's just that I've been" going it alone " pretty much and even in church I found noone who really had any interest in friendship (I think I'm too wierd for them) I'm just "real"-- genuine--and I try to really know people and be what God wants me to be. Anyway, this is a great place to be, to share and care with other aliens about God! I can tell I'm at home (away from home). Thanks y'all! Dana and God Bless You!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Yea!!
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Dear Lord! You have just described how i feel.
Yes we are truly alians as we have been called out of babylon, and God refines us as silver and tries us as Gold!
I know however that i am going for the greater Gold! That is what i want, and i would loose all s as to gain Christ :)
You are NEVER alone here with your brothers and sisters, or anywhere you go with Christ in you, even though in the world it might feel like it at times.
God bless
Alex
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Well Dana, if it makes you feel better, I am right there with you (I am also married). I ALWAYS felt (still do most of the time) like I simply did not...and DO not belong on this planet. I was always the ODD one, the quiet one...the shy one. I guess it is just an inferiority complex or somthing, but I feel like I was born with it. God sure knows how to "make" someone miserable, doesn't He! I guess it is all a part of his plan. If I were from another planet (perhaps I am? lol), I would probably be from Pluto. :-\
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I know how you feel. That's all.
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I feel like Alf mostly...
I know what you mean. I remember when God led me to the truth and opened my mind (heart) to his truths. I had just joined my church and it was one of those rock and roll, G12, charasmatic churches, where everything is happy and right with the world (above the earth's crust that is). The moment I believed, I knew my life was about to change. And a bit of me felt resentful, if you can believe that. I hadn't been accepted much in early schooling and always suffered a bit for that, and I felt, wow I fit in and now, yet again, I don't fit in. Now I realize God was always preparing me, and we are all being prepared even now.
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sheesh...where's my mind...i said I'll quote Scripture and didn't...but here it is:
1Pe 2:9
But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light:
the Greek for "peculiar is:
peripoiēsis
per-ee-poy'-ay-sis
acquisition (the act or the thing); by extension preservation: - obtain (-ing), peculiar, purchased, possession, saving.
We are a people "acquired" and "purchased" and "preserved" from even before we were born :)
so rejoice little aliens! ;D
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Good posts love_magnified and worm. You are right. Us "peculiar people" are being prepared. I have wondered about that for a few months now. "Has God been preparing me all of my life for this?"...when we think of it that way, it will be worth it in the end...
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OH, YES! I am VERY REAL ALIEN! 8) My feeling started that way since last two years and many do not want to welcome me! :o
You are not alone. :D
Brett
(deaf)
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I have been peculier all of my life (at least in my thinking) and several folks have told me so.
I'll never forget when I moved to Arizona I called my "friends" all the time, I missed them. One day I noticed, (with the exception of a couple of people) I'm always the one calling, most have never called me.
Furthermore, not one member of my family has ever made the trip West to visit me. I don't try and figure it out anymore, I go home once/year to make all the rounds.
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Does anyone think that maybe this is what the scripture refers to as being a stranger in a strange land?
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Does anyone think that maybe this is what the scripture refers to as being a stranger in a strange land?
Yes, good point, Mickyd. We are in the world, yet not of the world, hence we are all soujourners or strangers. I think this is why God puts such a strong emphasis on being kind and good to the sojourner, fatherless and the widow.
When we think about it, none of us are here of our own will, and none of us have come to this knowledge of our own will. We are as if strangers, being led by God in a strange land to the promised land. And I love this verse:
(Eph 2:12) that at that time you were without Christ, alienated from the commonwealth of Israel and strangers of the covenants of promise, having no hope and without God in the world.
We were strangers without Christ and now we are strangers to the world, no longer being of the world.
(Eph 2:19) So, then, you are no longer strangers and tenants, but you are fellow citizens of the saints and of the family of God,
Now, with our eyes opened by God, through faith, even being strangers to the world, we are now of the family of God. Truly amazing how He works!
God bless,
Gary
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man,just seeing you are not the only one feeling this way helps. For years Ive thought something was wrong with me mentally. I too am married and have children whom I love.But Ive been in a spot in my life where I dont seem to fit in society.
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To be more honest... I feel alien even here at BT's. There is some sort of "control' here...and for a reason... BUT...the sons and daughters of God are truly free.
Bless your souls.
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You hit home on this one Dana. I've recently found that my only 2 friends...well, God is taking them away. One is just too blind to talk to anymore. One, the man I love, is being revealed as a liar after I placed a whole lot of faith in his integrity. He's only half blind but still has no love of the truth apparently. I'm alone in a West Texas boonie town with my two teenage Egyptian sons...who also feel peculiar. Praise God.
Listen to the song "What's Up" by 4 Non-Blondes. I love this song. Listen to it daily. Even uses the word peculiar. That's how I've felt all my life until God started showing me why.
I let my 14 year old play his guitar at a Pentecostal church and he argued with the youth minister and told me that nothing he said made any sense. Now most parents would get upset and lecture them...not me. I thanked the Lord. He's peculiar too.
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When I became a "Christian" over 30 years ago, boy, I felt like a stranger in a strange town. Lost all my "friends", family thought I'd lost my mind etc etc.......
Now, getting in on BT which is way smaller than I ever wouldve thought, Here I go again.
Always knew I was an alien, but now its more like being a loner. Other than this forum, my son, and my husband (I know that sounds like a group to some of you)I have no one to share this with. The few I have tried, well, we all know what that turned out. I go occassionallly to my old church as my daughter and granddaughter attend, but she is not interested in any of this. If I quit going totally, it will be lonely.
I really don't like this elitest, smallest, chosen type feeling. But these are the daily trials and sufferings that we must go thru. At any given moment, eyes may open in my family. That is my prayer.
Sorry to have rambled on......
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You hit home on this one Dana. I've recently found that my only 2 friends...well, God is taking them away. One is just too blind to talk to anymore. One, the man I love, is being revealed as a liar after I placed a whole lot of faith in his integrity. He's only half blind but still has no love of the truth apparently. I'm alone in a West Texas boonie town with my two teenage Egyptian sons...who also feel peculiar. Praise God.
Listen to the song "What's Up" by 4 Non-Blondes. I love this song. Listen to it daily. Even uses the word peculiar. That's how I've felt all my life until God started showing me why.
I let my 14 year old play his guitar at a Pentecostal church and he argued with the youth minister and told me that nothing he said made any sense. Now most parents would get upset and lecture them...not me. I thanked the Lord. He's peculiar too.
Carol V, I went to trade school in that West Texas boonie town and have been to several snake round-up's; I "grew up" just a few miles West of there in Colorado City and Coahoma. I know a little about small West TX boonie towns. I left the West TX area several years ago; I'm now peculiar in an area of over 4 million.
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I have always felt I was an alien. It was that or I was adopted. I opted for alien princess from another planet. Don't ask. child's fancy. From an early age I felt like the oddball even among my own family. I thought it was only because I was the youngest of seven and we had an age gap of ten years between me and the sixth. Now that we are all older, I have to say that if you put me next to my five sisters and one brother, all we have in common are outward appearance. I am the only one that was not baptized (Catholic) as a child, though I married a man raised Catholic and got baptized as an adult. That was not where my journey began, but that was a major crossroad toward my journey to where I am now. It was what brought me back to church. Mind you, I never set foot in a Catholic church as a child because my parents quit practicing around the time I was born. We left the Catholic church, which was my choice. We have tried various denominations over the years. I struggled with tithing being scriptural and whether the dead go straight to heaven, and other things. My husband will join a new church at the drop of a dime. I never felt drawn to join any church. Then I found this site. Praise God! ;D My husband is having difficulty absorbing it all. He went through catechism and the whole nine yards. My only early experience with church was voluntary attendance as a teenager. I feel that somehow I would stay long enough at any one denomination to absorb just what I needed or to meet someone else that would move us along our now joint journey. I know just where you all are coming from. Oh, and when I was young, my only friends were my animals. Anyone else? ???
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Hey Patrick...somehow it helps just knowing that someone knows where the heck I am ;D
Nothing like a rattlesnake roundup to know what a sense of humor God has!
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Carol, the desire to evict venomous snakes from thier dens and gather them up to haul to market never became a desire to me. ;D
Everyone should get the rattlesnake experience; you will never forget that sound.
I'm glad it somehow helps you knowing that I know where the heck you are.
Go get some Gill's chicken and a cherry lime Sprite from Sonic. ;D
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Wow....truly there are ppl such as myself. God has been opening my eyes now for a short while, but I can look back and see that this thing really is a process. I've been in "church" all of my life I suppose. There have been alot of things that just never added up but ya know that many ppl can't be wrong :P I've always felt like I just didn't fit in. No matter how hard I tried. I never hang out with a crowd and only had 2 really good friends, like brothers really. About 3 years ago God took away my friends....no there not dead just took them from me. My wife says I'm anti-social but I really do wan't friends. It's not like ppl don't like me it's like thing's never work out that we can really bond or hang out. Or maybe they really don't like me and are just being "nice" ;) These are church ppl ya know. But I'm ok with being alone...trully my best friend is my wife, even though she's not so sure bout the truth in Gods word. Ya know the most frustrating thing is when you see a truth in Gods Word that you've never seen before and have no one to share it with.
God Bless all you little aliens out there!!
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Welcome Jason!!
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Welcome Jason!!
Thank you. Good to be here :)
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Wow. I've been gone for awhile (on vacation) and just got back. Hope I can learn the new format and that things stay okay here. Um, back to the topic I guess (although it is old).
Oh, and when I was young, my only friends were my animals. Anyone else? ???
I was exactly that way too. I thank God for the animals He gave me to love and play with. Don't think I would've survived without them. They were my whole social world and my only friends.
Thank you for starting this post. Things like this are so comforting to know you are not alone in these things. I never felt I belonged in this world (of course, being told I wasn't supposed to be born probably didn't help that much) but I usually thought perhaps I was born too late. Just spend an incrediible time out in God's world where there aren't many people...just animals and beautiful mountains and lakes and streams. It is so peaceful and beautiful that I can't describe it. Seems so much easier to pray and talk with God when there are no distractions. I feel so comforted and at home there and then I get back to the "real world" of people and tv and phones and all those things I am told I should like. It is hard. I am so confused and hurt by people's behavior. I know that they simply don't know better....but how can people treat each other the way that they do? I know we are never alone in Christ, but it is hard when you feel alone. How does one deal with not having anyone to talk to about...well...pretty much anythign because they are so ....um, peculiar? I only feel okay when I am literally alone and lonely whenever there are other people around. How weird it that! I sometimes think I am destined to be alone but that conflicts so strongly with my desire to love and be loved and to know people and fellowship with them. Thank God He led me to this forum. It is such a blessing to know that others like this exist.
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glad I never fit in....made dodging the bullets on the way out of Babylon easier! :) joyful1
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But...one more note: looking forward to the time when...
Isaiah 29:24
"They also that erred in spirit shall come to understanding, and they that murmured shall learn doctrine"
That would of course include myself.....then at last....no more "alien-nation!" :)
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Luke 9:58 (King James Version)
58And Jesus said unto him, Foxes have holes, and birds of the air have nests; but the Son of man hath not where to lay his head.
Hebrews 13:8 (King James Version)
8Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.
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Luke 9:58 (King James Version)
58And Jesus said unto him, Foxes have holes, and birds of the air have nests; but the Son of man hath not where to lay his head.
Good verse MG. Jesus is an alien like us. I made very good friends in my childhood that lasted until I was 18. But, every childhood friend I ever had has left me ... moved away or is not on friendly terms. The "friends" I made in highschool were not really friends. College was similar, I had one or two friends that I got estranged from. The good friends I made 9 or 10 years ago when I first came to Jesus have moved away or I have become estranged from them. The synagogue I came out of, I was a Messianic Jew,I have become estranged from as well. My best friend is my brother who has also come to know the truths I know now having come to Ray's site. God has still given me him and some new friends at work and my immediate family.
Growing up, and even now, I always seemed to have "identity crises" since I always seemed like an outcast. I seemed to always move to the beat of a different drummer than everyone else. I thought of these scriptures in Hebrews 11.
37 They were stoned. They were sawn apart. They were tempted. They were slain with the sword. They went around in sheep skins and in goat skins; being destitute, afflicted, ill-treated
38 (of whom the world was not worthy), wandering in deserts, mountains, caves, and the holes of the earth.
39 These all, having had testimony given to them through their faith, didn't receive the promise,
40 God having provided some better thing concerning us, so that apart from us they should not be made perfect.
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I hate to break this to you Dana but we are aliens,people who trust God are aliens,heres a test to find out if your an alien,go tell 10 people that you beleave God can save sinners All sinners if nine look at you like your a green bug your an alien.............Jerry
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I asked my teens if they thought they could find someone who believes that Lucifer was not the devil. The answer was, "No." I am blessed that have been able to stay home and home school three of them (the fourth went through public school). They have experienced a lot of estrangement themselves. Secular kids seem to nearly always shun them. My one son bonded with another boy on his baseball team a few years back. We discovered late in the season that he was home schooled by his faith filled mother. I am happy that my kids are aliens also. I would not have it any other way. ;D
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amen jenny I like this beginning post about aliens,the world only confirms us a Gods special people when they reject us,thank God!!!! makes me want to sing a little gospel tune.............Jerry
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A real test comes when you are alien among your own family and are persecuted by those who say they love you. ??? It still boggles my mind. In my case, it is my husband's family and they are very vocal about disliking me (to him, behind my back). They think I took them drew him away from Catholocism. The have not practiced Catholocism for years themselves. They really did not like the issue I had with my sister in-law over her buying our kids Harry Potter books. They dislike that we no longer celebrate the resurrection with the bunny and the day of the dead by dressing up the kids and dragging them around to strangers' homes. On one hand, I am sad for my husband, but on the other, I am at peace. Does that make sense?
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I learned a lesson a long time ago,never bring up religous doctrin other that what you will agree on with someone you know will not listen,thats kind of like pouring fuel on a fire to put it out,If someone gave me a harry potter book knowing I dissagreed with its content and doing it out of a mean spirit,I would just smile really big and say that was so nice of you to think of my daughter like that,your such a nice person,nice to know we are so close,then when I got home I would through it in the trash.I think the best advise is to always be nice no matter what(heep coals of fire on thier face)thats what Jesus said to do, unless your struck by a heavy object then all bets are off......LOL ..Jerry
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All bets are off? ;D We took the kids to the place where she bought them and they exchanged them for what they wanted, but we never told her.
I did try to avoid conflicting discussions and I tried to not put in my five cents when she brought up things for which I had a conflicting opinion. I always gritted my teeth when she brought up horoscopes and showed off her "dream catcher." I would never have known that she and her mother had a problem with me but for my husband sharing it with me. If I had known back then, when we still spoke, that she was offering to loan my husband a dvd from her collection of porn, all bets would have been off! He stayed at her house when he first took the job he has now, which is a couple hours from where we lived at the time. Convenience is not always the best move.
It has never come easy for me to hold my tongue. I have been a very outspoken person since I was young. I guess I would have to say that God has done a lot of work on me in this area.
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Hey I thought I was the only one with a weird family,My sister is into all that creepy stuff,she was so into it it destroyed out relationship,I stoped going to see her and she never see's me either and Im fine with it,talk about hatefilled those newagers are pretty far from reality,she use to screem at me when I would dissagree with her so I stoped saying anythings to he coments like, why do you waste your time with the God of the bible? I almost fliped out when she said that,I finaly told her its best we dont talk about those kinds of things,now its best if we dont talk,God will have to straighten her out,God bless you Jenny I know how tuff those things can be.God bless you and your family...................Jerry
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You are far from alone, sad to say. At least we have comfort from the best comforter of all!!!
Ironically, according to the last conversation she had with her brother(my husband), she got into Riki, a form of Ki. I looked into it on the net and discovered that one of the main steps was to get rid of negative feelings. I wonder where she hid the feelings she had for me??? It is some scary, pagan stuff. She told my husband she was getting some relics to do long-distance prayers. The relics were mentioned online as well. I have no idea if she is still into this stuff. She never called after that and now that we moved, our phone number changed. I am sure if it was all that important to her to talk to her brother she would contact their other brother. I try to keep from talking about her when we are visiting them in Fl. Him and his wife are the other black sheep (or should I say---white?) in the family, though they still talk to the one sister who dislikes me.