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To all who know me.... you know I have a precious daughter and son(in-law). She is 8 months pregnant. I haven't been able to write this till now and I do it with tears falling. 2 weeks ago they found our Brandon laying in the parking lot at his work unconcious. We thought he would be okay. They had him stablized at the hospital. The next day he blew a major blood clot that wiped out his brain stem. His funeral was May 10. He was so excited about being a Daddy and would have been such an incredible one. Now our Heather is left here 8 months pregnant and a widow.
He was only 25... it's just not right. If any goodness came from this tragedy, his organs saved 8 people. Please pray for my Heather and for us. We are all broken hearted. Thank you, Jennie
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Oh Jennie!!
Oh so sorry to hear that! That is a tragedy for sure...my prayers are with you and your daughter...I'm so sorry.... :'( :'(
Kathy :'( :-*
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Thank you so much "Ninny". I just haven't been able to bring myself to tell this. You know...Brandon was the one who told me of this forum. I am so glad he did. Much love from my old mountain place, Jennie
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Jenny;
There are really no words of comfort that anyone can really offer you right now. This is one of those things that make no sense to the natural mind and seems terribly unfair as this young man and your daughter were looking forward to a long life together and now it's not going to happen. I know that you know that God has all this under control and he has put you all through this for a reason known only to him at this point. In the future your family will be able to look back at this time and see how God was doing wonderful things both in and through you but that doesn't help you to walk through this time in your life. God be with your family and give you comfort and help you to lean on and trust only in him. Will be praying for you.
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jenny, i am so sorry for you and your family.....my heart is broken for you...i can not add any better words than have already been offerred, but just to cling to God & trust Him will all your strength.....He will bring you through this.
lauriellen
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Dear Jennie, how very, very sad and shocking. Sudden deaths are more difficult to work through. There is no time for a person to say good-bye or we love you. I am sure your daughter is exceptionally distraught and I would have trouble knowing what to say. I hope she is a young lady of faith and if not you wil have to be the encouraging one. I feel for you and your family. Perhaps when the baby gets here her mind will be occupied. I will remember you and your daughter when I pray. Eileen would be a good one to speak with having had the sudden death of her husband. Love, Judy
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Dear Jennie, I sit here after feeling sorry for myself all day, and I read this and realize that my problems are nothing in comparison to your pain and to your daughter's pain. Life can be so very hard and your trial is one of the worst that can happen. Please know that you guys are in my prayers. Your daughter is so very blessed to have you to hold onto through this. :'(
I am so sorry for your loss.
Lin
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Very sorry for your loss Jennie :(
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Jenny your family is in my prayers :'(
mercy, peace and love
Kat
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Jennie, I add my prayers for your comfort and strength through this loss. I'm so sorry.
Much love to you and your family,
Vangie
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I'm very sorry for your sudden loss Jenny, these months will be dreadful for your daughter and you are the one she will turn to for comfort. Remember that God knows what He is doing and when that new baby comes, there will be much much joy!!! (Some sadness too, as his/her daddy won't be there), but God is with you and your daughter through the good and the bad.
Blessings to you and your family
Prudence
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Your in my prayers. Peace be with you.
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Jennie, this is heart breaking. It's so hard to see the plan in something like this, but we can only pray and trust and know that God heals the brokenhearted. Praying for you and yours.
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Thank you all for your prayers and words of comfort. I went to the doctor with her the other day and he said under the circumstances she is doing well and could have the baby at any time. She is staying with us at night and trying to stay at her house during the day. Her Daddy is afraid for her to be alone much because she is so near due. She is having a boy, Axel Slade.... his Daddy picked it out. Please continue to pray for her. Her husband's company cancelled his health insurance the day of his funeral. Now she and Axel have none but we are trying to find her some. Just pray for us all on this old mountain. Much love to all, Jennie
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Jennie,
That is so wrong of that company! I think they should be held to covering her and the baby! That's just crazy! I will be praying for all of you! Please let us know as soon as that baby is born!
Love to you all,
Kathy :-*
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Dear Jennie, even if a clause in the insurance policy stated that benefits ended on you sin-in-law's death, I would try to fight it as the baby WAS being covered and the baby is still alive!! You'd think that company's would have some mercy.
Either way, God will be there and everything will eventually be o.k. It's just the getting through it and the terrible accompanying sadness. God bless you Jennie, your daughter and your about to be born, grandson. I love the name!
Love, Judy
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Jennie,
I wish there was something I could say to you and your daughter that would help since, like Judy said, I just lost my husband unexpectedly in March. Although I was married 23 years and that's more than your daughter will have with Brandon, I am sure her pain is just as great. Hopefully when I figure out my own grief, I will have more supportive words. In the mean time, I hope you and your daughter can cherish the time that you had with Brandon. It's not easy to be grateful at a time like this but its worth the effort. Please feel free to contact me if I can be of any comfort.
Love in Christ,
Eileen
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Jennie, if the COBRA thing doesn't work out for some reason, (I am thinking it will), ask around your beautiful mountain (and I will ask mine for references), and find you a big hearted (shouldn't be hard) midwife and have that precious baby at home saving you THOUSANDS of dollars and much heartache.
Just my opinion as a midwife fan anyway.
Lin
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Hello Jennie,
I wish I had something inspirational to say, but I don't... However, I would like you to know that I'll be praying for everyone involved; especially your daughter and her new baby boy, Axel.
May God grant you peace and direct your path.
Christopher
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Again....many thanks for all of you here. We did find out about the cobra and it is $495.00 a month! Here in these mountains no one could afford such. Her doctor will take no money from her in light of all that has happened. He is a wonderful man of faith and said he wanted to do this to honor Brandon. He is not going to charge her anything. There are still good folks around.
My daughter has a backbone of steel and faith that is just as strong. She spoke over him at his memorial and told the 500 + people that were there to always tell people you love tham like she and Brandon did. She also said that in her almost 4 years of marriage she and Brandon had more love and laughter than many get in a lifetime. So for me.... I tell you all.... I love you and you mean so much to me. You have stuck with me through good times and bad and I truly appreciate each and every one of you.
Our Heather is staying with us for now and gets her biscuits, gravy, eggs and bacon or sausage every morning! See I told ya'll I am not much count but for taking care of folks! Much love and blessings to you all from old Mountain Jennie
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Wow, that's wonderful!
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I am so happy to hear this for your Daughter and all of you.
In His Love,
Marlene
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Jennie that is great news but please check as I have heard of this before and the hospital wasn't so kind and they did want money. The hospital charges are the ones that hurt the most.
Just concerned...Lin
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Jenny,
Lin is right, the doctor fees will be small compared to the hospital, etc. I know the $500 is expensive, but it will be far less than the other bills. And, if God forbid, there are any complications with her or the baby you would be covered. If afters all said and done and everything is fine, then drop the cobra.
Craig
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hi jenny,
i have read all the post replies from your original post regarding your daughter and the devastating loss of her husband, especially while being so close to delivering their baby. my heart ached for her as it did for eileen after the loss of mark, and as it does whenever i meditate on all the forum family who have lost loved ones and others who are suffering through their personal trials and tribulations. sometimes it is just so hard. but, our Brother Jesus Christ will strengthen your daughter and each of us as we go to Him for comfort and rest. He said He would. you have indeed received some loving and wise counsel and encouragement from the forum members. i especially wanted to say that craig has given you some very good advice with regards to the cobra coverage. as a retired health and life insurance agent/underwriter, i would also advise your daughter to NOT cancel the cobra coverage. $495 mthly is expensive, but, the coverage will be there for your daughter and the baby to help pay for the hospital bills and well baby care after the birth. the cobra coverage can be cancelled once the baby is born.
i will keep you and your family in my prayers jenny.
claudia
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I don't know if Brandon had a life insurance policy, but if he did, it would be well spent on the COBRA premium. That is what I have had to do and it's twice 495.00 (for myself and two children). Luckily for me, I have this COBRA for life so I don't have to worry about ever losing insurance as long as I can pay the premium.
Eileen
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Jenny, Cobra is so expensive. When my husband was let go from Allstate at 55 with 30 yrs. we had to pay $900.00 a month. And we really couldn't afford it but the peace of mind was worth it. We just let the house rot, no kidding. I was still working but didn't bring in that much anymore. Now, Allstate dropped their retirees from their Health and RX program.
My two women friends just prayed for health when they didn't have any ins. We have a Hoosier health plan in Indiana, maybe you have a state plan there also. Children can also be covered by Medicaid. Don't forget the Soc. Sec. for your grandchild. Either way nobody I know is in jail for not paying the hospital and our friend had 2 heart operations and a pacemaker put in with no ins. It's the system's fault anyway. The Ins. comp.'s, the poor who have no access to affordable ins., and the welfare system that doesn't pay out enough to Dct.'s and hospitals.
God, I really got started didn't I ??
Hopefully, if everybody gets in the ins. pool there will be enough money to go around.
Judy