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=> Testimonies / Prayer Requests / Fellowship => Topic started by: hebrewroots98 on November 23, 2008, 01:43:22 PM
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My Family,
Along with the normal pressures and stressors of living a very busy life, I now have two urgent and different situations in which I am currently having to face and I would greatly appreciate your prayers during this trying time.
1-My two adult brothers and their dog are literally DYING from malnutrition as we speak (one was taken by ambulance the other day to the hospital for falling out (malnourished) while attempting to work at roofing (... in exchange for their one bedroom slum apartment that they share.) I want to help them out by taking them food and some basics since they are too poor to help themselves (they have zero money (till the first of each month when one brother gets only a tiny sum of SS Disability money), no food, personal items, furniture, vehicle etc.. due to the heavy drug lifestyle that they chose to live over the past 30 yrs of their lives...they are in their 40's now and have barely have anything to their names...and no one to help them out except for a church that gives out one free meal on a daily basis and they must walk very far to get there since they are on the outskirts of town and have no vehicle!) So, my DH (as well as my other siblings) refuse to help these two guys out since "they made their bed, let them lie in it and they have ignored all of our advise in the past." My senior parents would help if they could, but they are barely making it themselves and yet they want to help and can't. I do not want to usurp authority over my husband and disrespect his adamant stance here (he thinks that they guys are still doing drugs), (all of us have dished out ALOT of money, time, energy, patience, etc...on them in the past with NO THANKS, WITH ONLY DISRESPECT AND HARD TIMES GIVEN TO US BY THEM) but neither can I handle it if they died from me not helping them out. I feel stuck and do not know what to do here...any thoughts/suggestions? I am too emotionally involved to see things clearly right now I guess.
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2 wks ago I was in a truck crash that TOTALLED my truck (F150 Supercrew Cab...big truck...) as well as (the F-150) truck that the woman who pulled out in front of me was driving; thus I am struggling in different areas and need some divine intervention here with the following...((we are now at home from the hospital and recovering, thankfully, and are ready to get back into our normal routines again...)
1-my 10 yr old and I both suffered head trauma's...the cat scans showed that all was normal, but I need to feel peace about this particular delicate type of injury...(as well as both of my knees as well as my leg (right above the ankle nearly broke, I have lots of pain and swelling still there.)
Also, the Police officer at the scene of the accident issued a NO FAULT citation/police report to both of us drivers, and clearly it was the fault of the girl whom did not yield while turning on a green light, when I had the green light (I have been going through this intersection for 28 yrs now without a wreck...) I feel that the girl is lying and that the cop was not willing to put forth the effort to get my side of the story (I was whisked off in the ambulance while the other driver was not even taken to the hopsital), so he spent time with her and then took her word and now I am getting ready this morning to call him and ask him to change the police report since it will make all the difference in me paying my medical and gettin another vehicle bills or not!
I must go see an attorney tomorrow to see if there is anything that I can do about this police report and it being her fault and not just a NO FAULT ACCIDENT; as well as that my Insurance agent did not do what I asked of him (to change my policy/PIP coverage to a higher amount this last summer,) and how I will be cheated out of what is due me if he doesn't make it right by me; Ugh!!!
thank you so much!
Blessings,
Susan
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You have my prayers.
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Regarding #1 it sounds like a living parable of the prodigal son, except there are more than one of these
(Luk 15:14) "Then when he had spent all, a severe famine occurred throughout that country, and _he_ began to be having need.
(Luk 15:15) "And having gone, he was joined to [or, hired out to] one of the citizens of that country, and he sent him to the farms to be feeding pigs.
(Luk 15:16) "And he was longing to fill his stomach from the carob pods which the pigs were eating, and no one was giving [anything] to him.
(Luk 15:17) "But having come to himself, he said, 'How many of my father's hired workers have an abundance of bread, but _I_ am perishing with hunger!
(Luk 15:18) 'Having risen, I will go to my father and will say to him, "Father, I [have] sinned against heaven and before you,
(Luk 15:19) and I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me as one of your hired workers."'
Neither of them have reached the "blue" part in the story.
I think you need to show compassion always....7x7x7 x7 to the infinite.
I myself would provide minimal amount of basics to them but always with a note...that there is more if genuine repentance ever comes...
They must be have very stubborn personalities...that even in this bottom of the barrel state they cannot see how bad their choices have been. Perhaps their goal is to continue and blame their family and friends in the end for their ultimate demise.
Regardless of how they act...you show them love
regarding problem #2
Calmly explain the accident to the police officer, explain your situation and concerns. Then accept what happens...even the worse. You can also write to the person and explain what her carless actions caused in your life.
In the end we need to understand that all things work for His Good Will and not ours
In the meantime I will pray that you and others involved will benefit from your actions and faith that Father will provide for all in this circumstance and that He will provide comfort and support to you during these two trials and also I will ernestly pray for repentence for your two brothers.
beloved
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Praying for God's help and intervention.
I have a sister that had a serious meth problem. The girl almost broke me, I said never again will I help her or anyone else that gets themselves in that situation.
God humbled me and I am thankful he changed me.
Only by the grace of God and I could have been in my sisters situation.
If they need food please help them accordingly.
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Susan, you will be in my prayers.
Iris
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Thinking of you and family and will be praying for you Susan
D
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Susan, I will keep you in my prayers.
In His Love,
Marlene
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Hello, guys! I am taking your advice and trying to reason w/ DH about 'loving and doing good to those whom persecute us'... as well as 'feeding the hungry'...I just want his blessings before I go out and do something that he has asked me to not get involved with...but, I cannot just sit back and do nothing; if they died I would feel horrible. I know that SH just does not want to be an ENABLER like we have done before (which kept my brothers into their drugs...) I explained to DH everything that you all have stated here and how we could be held accountable (for possibly being too arrogant and how that it could have happened to us...) He is listening. Keep praying b/c I think that it is working. DH ususally is a very benevolent person, but in this one case he is fed up (after 28 yrs of relentless giving to these guys who are takers...) and it shows...I think that God is working on his heart too! I will know something more tomorrow, hoepfully.
thank you all, again!
blessings,
Susan
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Oh my dear Susan. This is indeed a trial you have gone thru- I can't believe you were in such a serious accident. Praise God you and Daniel are OK. You have my love and prayers for both incidents. Thank you for sharing w/ us.
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I don't think that I would give them money. But food is not money. Nobody is enabling drug users by giving them food.
Sounds like that girl lied about it being a green light and there were no witnesses. I'd fight it, but let God help you with your decision.
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Oh Gena, you have always had such a warm place in my heart! Thank you for your concern and prayers! We are getting around very well now, thank the Lord!
Hi there Musicman! You are right about not giving cash, I had learned long ago to never give money to a drug addict. My DH thinks that providing them with food keeps them from being at their lowest thus then being where they can hear God talking to them?? ???
Yes, I will try and fight this vehicle wreck situation. God will open or close my doors for me...BECAUSE HE IS A GENTLEMAN!!! All that i have to do is to walk through those doors in faith that HE is the one in control!
blessings,
Susan
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OOPS, I sent this out before I was able to thank ALL of you for your prayers! That means ALOT to me...May God richly bless you for caring for me :)
In Him,
Susan
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(Wow, I just noticed that I have been on here for 13 days, 13 hours and 13 minutes as of NOW...I know there is a meaning behind this, I'm just not sure what that would be???)
Well, I just respoke w/ DH and he is furious that I would want to help them after they have taken so much from our home and family after 28 yrs; he thinks that I am asking for troulbe and disrespect and that I am not protecting our family... He says that he would not be a good husband or daddy if he allowed us to sacrifice for these two guys again; he says that he feels that he would be worse than an infadel if he allowed them to interupt our home anymore...they have been unthankful and disrespectful to us in the past and they only call us when they need something and that he won't help them when they refuse to work and plan for themselves...he still maintains that we would be enabling them again like always before and that they will not learn their lesson if we help them...I just told DH that I do not agree but that in order to keep peace that I would not say anymore about it to him; he is fine with that arrangement. I told him that I would be very upset if something happened to them though and that he would be resposnible for our family's decision and not me...
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susan,
regarding your brothers (and their dog) i would take them food (doggy too) and know that you are doing what Jesus would do. yes, they have taken advantage of you and your husband, yes they have made horrible decisions in the past (except for the poor dog), but we are called to a higher calling than resentment (which your dear husband is harboring) and that calling be to love your enemies (even if they are also your biological brothers). but i cannot see our Savior turning His back on them when they are so low and expect to not help them til they see what they have done wrong. i don't know if your husband is a believer or not, if he is then he is not following the example of Jesus Christ. if he is not a believer then he will never understand your compassionate heart for your brothers. you say that your husband is usually a benevolent man but in this case he is fed up. i can understand that your husband is frustrated. he is also angry. he is also trying to make you feel guilty that you want to help your brothers and their dog, eventhough you will ONLY being giving them food to eat. if the food you give to them will not be taking food off your table then your husband is being unreasonable. your brothers need help. i don't know where they live but they need intervention. surely there are some city or state organizations that could advise you. please don't let the bitterness your husband is feeling cause you to not do what your heart is urging you to do. you will not be enabling them by feeding them. perhaps they qualify for food stamps. if you turn away from your brothers and their doggy you are not only turning your back on them, you will be turning your back on the love of Christ. that is our example. that is our calling. i will say special prayers for you and your family. regarding the auto accident, i am thankful you and your son are recovering. (God knew your brothers would be needing you) i would do as others have advised you and talk to the officer who was at the scene of the accident and tell him that you did not have an opportunity to tell your side of the story. i cannot believe that any officer would file an accident report without speaking to you first. he could have visited you in the hospital to do so. if he will not listen to you then i would appeal to the his superintendent. susan, please know that i am not asking you to disrespect your husband's decision to not help your brothers anymore, but he is disrespecting your love for your brothers.
love in Christ Jesus,
claudia
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Hi Susan,
I will always give my son food, warm clothing, and help him get medical attention if he needs it. That is all I will do when he is drinking. I take the tags off the clothes so he can't take them back. I won't pay his bills. I won't let him live with me. I won't bail him out of jail. I won't pay his tickets or fines. I won't pay his consequences for him. I won't give him cash. I know many people think that's enabling, but what good does it do if you don't enable and they die. I try very hard to keep my distance and stay out of all his drama. It only harms me to get involved because there is nothing I can do to fix it. Being responsible gives him a better chance of getting better.
Sending lots of hugs and prayers.
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Hello Susan,
Sorry to hear about your recent plight regarding the Automobile accident and
your two Adult Brothers. Beloved gave some Scriptural sound advice. Also, I
would like to add this Passage: " But take your stand solid in the faith, knowing
that the same things in the way of sufferings are being accomplished in the entire
association of Brothers in the World. But after you have suffered a little while, the
God of all Grace who called you to his age-lasting glory in Christ will himself finish
your training, he will make you firm, he will make you strong. " 1Peter.5:9,10.
It's most difficult when Family members take advantage of sincere kindness and
hospitality, we(Pam & I) have experienced that recently, to a smaller degree.
I certainly can relate to your Husbands sentiments regarding your Brothers, so
with all of that in mind, the suggestion of providing the necessary necessities; food,
clothing, etc without releasing any Monetary funds is sound advice. A few times in Life,
I had a complete stranger asking for money for the purpose of food. The first time I gave up
some money and viewed him purchasing Alcohol. Thereafter in other instances, I offered
to buy a meal or provide one and was refused.
Of course when dealing with family members(Your Brothers) it's much more difficult due
to Familial Love. Personally, but it's just my " opinion ", don't lay a possible responsibility
towards your Husband. We are all accountable for our actions, the fact you are helping
with your Brothers necessities is admirable.
Without getting into detail, 12 years ago I was homeless for 1-2 months, only one person
in my Congregation helped me. After staying at his House for three weeks and finding a
one room Hilton with money he lent me, I paid back every penny within three weeks and
voluntarily did work for Him(Lawn Mowing), free of charge for one year, to show my
gratitude and appreciation.
Sorry, if I sound alittle unfeeling about all of this, but throughout my entire Life I always
paid for the consequences of my actions, never expecting others to pay for mine. I guess
it " hits a nerve " to hear of others, like yourself being taken advantage of, especially when
it's family members.
In the past few Months, Pam and I have experienced a few Scenarios regarding others
arrogantly and carelessly deciding to do things a certain way that led to a financial
repercussion for us. So instead of them paying for the consequences of their Actions,
we suffered the consequences. In each case, it wasn't simply a mistake, it was a " I
don't care what happens attitude" and a " I Know it all attitude. "
In the case involving the close Family member, I am not at liberty to disclose this matter,
out of personal respect for my Wife.
In the case involving your Brothers, perhaps they really need Professional substance
abuse help. Without that, their lives might be in jeopardy.
My prayers go out to you and may God's guidance direct your steps in this most difficult
time. All of this suffering(Evil) is necessary for our training, even though none of us enjoy
it. When it's from Strangers, it's more endurable. When it originates from Family sources,
it indeed, is a fiery trial.
Kind Regards, Samson.
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Susan, I'm sorry you have such hard decisions to make I sympathize with you in that. I pray that God will give you the answers you need to deal with your brothers.
I have gone against my husband's wishes on matters of conscience and it really isn't easy, I know. I can't offer anything, but prayers.
Prayerfully everything will go well with your accident situation.
Kathy :)
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Wow,
Thank you all for your input here...I have NEVER gone against my DH (who is a believer...and a BT believer) (like myself) and we are equally yoked on just about every spiritual truth that really matters... with the exception of "my brothers". I have never agreed with him that we should just drop them and never see them EVER again, but that is how DH feels about them...he truly NEVER wants to see them again. He does not want to spend another dime on them...right now DH is having to work a job that is out of state and he only gets to see us minimally each month, just in order to try to get us financially even (no credit/strictly cash), and now this wreck sets us (about 6 mos to a year) behind financially....neither of us are happy with that either, but, he doesn't complain about it) he just knows that they are much younger than he is and that they choose to be lazy than to work and he thinks that they expect him to dish it out when they are in a bind and when we don't they then cuss us out and hang up on us.
I told him that I could not handle it if they did die (all b/c I/we would not help them)...nor if my parents (who live 1500 miles away) expected me to ensure that they get buried properly by the city that they live in (also out of state from us.) But, DH does not even want for me to go to there and spend my time and the stress of me caring for their dead bodies (I know this sounds horrific...) if they were to die! I am so torn and will just have to pray till I find peace inside on this issue. DH doesn't believe that they are starving and that it is just a ploy to not have to work for their needs, but mom is told everything by these two brothers and she thinks that they are telling the truth; (DH thinks that the drug lords are needing their money from my brothers.) My mom has been calling around to try to get the churches in that city to help them and no one can/will). This new level is something that I have never had to deal with before and it certainly is a trial for me b/c DH thinks that if I help them anymore then I am taking away from our home when he is the only one working (he doesn't want to spend a dime on them ever again, not on gas to get there or on food for them and their dog) all b/c my brothers have been here at this desperate point in their lives SO MANY TIMES BEFORE and they don't care to learn from their mistakes. (One brother has been in TEN rehab centers and the other one REFUSES to step foot inside one!) DH thinks that they are still doing drugs and that he shouldn't have to help druggies...so does the other half of my family think like DH does, so they will not help our brothers either.)
I have taken (and will continue) to take into consideration and prayer what each of you has had to say. Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart and I will keep you informed as to where HE leads me...HE must provide the $ (it would be DH's earned $ that he has asked me not to use on them), time (I am buried up to my ears it seems in legal paperwork that has deadlines since the wreck), and strength/energy for me to go and help them (as well as the ability to say no to my DH who loves us with all of his heart and who thinks that he is protecting us from them and that I am being ungrateful by not seeing what he sees....what they have done to us in the past.)
blessings,
Susan
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Susan, I can feel the heaviness of your heart tonight. :'( I will continue in prayer for you. People can tell you what they would do, but it is ultimately up to you and your family. So just please feel the peace of God around you and let God take care of it. Remember that saying that says "Let go, Let God"?
Prayerfully,
Kathy
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Dear Susan,
As hard as it is to do in this situation, I feel like you must honor your husband FIRST and you will be blessed by doing so.
Pray for your brothers' protection. Feel free to call on community support to meet your brothers' needs (social services, etc.) But honor your husband's wishes especially since you say he is not only a believer but one with open eyes.
If you feel he is in error, pray for his heart to be changed by the Lord and the Lord will do so if it is His will for your family.
I have found that many times in the past when I felt I was in the right about something, by honoring my husband, and allowing God to handle it, my husband then came around and did the right thing and I wasn't the one pushing him. It all works out so much better when God does it. ;)
Just my opinion as a loud mouthed, opinionated, wife who has spent the last 17 years learning these lessons the hard way. ::) :-\ :D
Many blessings, Lin
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Yes, ladies, you understand, thank you! I Do have peace in my heart when I just give them over to God to work out for me. Right now I MUST honor my husband/spiritual covering first and yes, I am praying both for DH as well as brothers. I think that I would dishonor my DH and bring chaos into our family life (I already have just by bringing it up) and DH would loose all trust in me if I ever lied to him or did this behind his back (he has already told me to not do this behind his back), so I can't in good conscience. God will have to provide a way for my brothers too. I have no extra time, energy, or strenght to spend on them right now, unless HE gives it to me (if they lived closer by, yes , but they are 3 hrs away and it's nearly impossible right now with all of the medical appts, litigation, paperwork, insurance attorney, homeschooling, etc....) Lord knows my heart.... :)
Till later,
Shalom and blessings,
Ssuan
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I agree with Lin for sure! and I am glad that you will honor your husband! Your brothers brought their situation on themselves and God will have to deal with them in His way and in His time. It will happen just the way God will have it go.
Many prayers,
Kathy
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Dear Friend Susan,
I don't know your situation and am in no position to make any judgments, but I would like to try to help you to see the facts as others may see them.
Please let me begin with the accident.
I don't know the rules or traffic laws in your State so I'll have to estimate a little.
If called to the scene after an accident, the traffic officer in most states takes statements from each driver and any witnesses and to record any physical evidence. It is not his task to determine who is responsible; not according to the law. Of course officers sometimes do offer an opinion but that is not binding on the Insurance Company or a Court of Law. Under insurance regulations the Insurance Company may not sue another person for you. The insurance contract they have with you is to defend you in the event that you are sued by another. Another part of the contract is to reimburse you for accidental losses no matter who is at fault.
Of course the officer's report will be taken into consideration by the insurance claims dept., but that is their choice. There is often misunderstanding after an accident so be careful what you assume. Also, the officer cannot change a report that has already been filed. Perhaps a superior officer can add information that was not previously included.
The insurance agent that you use has an ethical obligation to provide good service and keep you informed (within reason) but that is a judgment call. If you asked for changes in your policy last summer, an ammended policy or a "binder" good for ten days, should have been issued by the agent or by the insurance company home office. It is your responsibility as driver to be sure that the revised policy was issued or to have a copy of the application that you signed when you asked for the change. If you didn't ask for a paper copy on official stationery and just trusted the insurance agent to remember then the situation is at least partly your responsibility. I know that we get used to trusting our agents, but the law doen't require the agent to remember. That is why we have paper, just in case he has a heart attack and doesn't file the request. So, my point is that the police officer and the insurance agent don't have ALL the responsibilities that you hoped.
Finally, the person who turned right at a red light after stopping was not in violation of the law by making the right turn. She may have underestimated your speed and pulled out in front of you at the last minute thinking that she could make it before you got to the intersection. Can you prove any differently? Are there witnesses that can prove that she saw you and carelessly caused the accident? Or was it just human error? If it was just human error, as far as the evidence indicates, then the police officer was correct to file a "no fault" report. Each driver is expected to keep their auto under control and be able to stop in case an animal or a child runs out into the street. Usually both drivers have some partial responsibility for an accident, in that they could have done something to avoid the accident even if they had the right of way. This may not be the case in your accident, but the insurance company wasn't there and they have to go by what can be proven.
So your options now are to file a civil suit in court at your own expense and hope to recover enough to pay the court expenses and your lawyer IF YOU WIN.
My Family,
Along with the normal pressures and stressors of living a very busy life, I now have two urgent and different situations in which I am currently having to face and I would greatly appreciate your prayers during this trying time.
1-My two adult brothers and their dog are literally DYING from malnutrition as we speak (one was taken by ambulance the other day to the hospital for falling out (malnourished) while attempting to work at roofing (... in exchange for their one bedroom slum apartment that they share.) I want to help them out by taking them food and some basics since they are too poor to help themselves (they have zero money (till the first of each month when one brother gets only a tiny sum of SS Disability money), no food, personal items, furniture, vehicle etc.. due to the heavy drug lifestyle that they chose to live over the past 30 yrs of their lives...they are in their 40's now and have barely have anything to their names...and no one to help them out except for a church that gives out one free meal on a daily basis and they must walk very far to get there since they are on the outskirts of town and have no vehicle!) So, my DH (as well as my other siblings) refuse to help these two guys out since "they made their bed, let them lie in it and they have ignored all of our advise in the past." My senior parents would help if they could, but they are barely making it themselves and yet they want to help and can't. I do not want to usurp authority over my husband and disrespect his adamant stance here (he thinks that they guys are still doing drugs), (all of us have dished out ALOT of money, time, energy, patience, etc...on them in the past with NO THANKS, WITH ONLY DISRESPECT AND HARD TIMES GIVEN TO US BY THEM) but neither can I handle it if they died from me not helping them out. I feel stuck and do not know what to do here...any thoughts/suggestions? I am too emotionally involved to see things clearly right now I guess.
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2 wks ago I was in a truck crash that TOTALLED my truck (F150 Supercrew Cab...big truck...) as well as (the F-150) truck that the woman who pulled out in front of me was driving; thus I am struggling in different areas and need some divine intervention here with the following...((we are now at home from the hospital and recovering, thankfully, and are ready to get back into our normal routines again...)
1-my 10 yr old and I both suffered head trauma's...the cat scans showed that all was normal, but I need to feel peace about this particular delicate type of injury...(as well as both of my knees as well as my leg (right above the ankle nearly broke, I have lots of pain and swelling still there.)
Also, the Police officer at the scene of the accident issued a NO FAULT citation/police report to both of us drivers, and clearly it was the fault of the girl whom did not yield while turning on a green light, when I had the green light (I have been going through this intersection for 28 yrs now without a wreck...) I feel that the girl is lying and that the cop was not willing to put forth the effort to get my side of the story (I was whisked off in the ambulance while the other driver was not even taken to the hopsital), so he spent time with her and then took her word and now I am getting ready this morning to call him and ask him to change the police report since it will make all the difference in me paying my medical and gettin another vehicle bills or not!
I must go see an attorney tomorrow to see if there is anything that I can do about this police report and it being her fault and not just a NO FAULT ACCIDENT; as well as that my Insurance agent did not do what I asked of him (to change my policy/PIP coverage to a higher amount this last summer,) and how I will be cheated out of what is due me if he doesn't make it right by me; Ugh!!!
thank you so much!
Blessings,
Susan
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Wow! Indiana Bob!
You are so smart! I am impressed :)
We should know the laws a little better. How do yo know these things? Are you a retired lawyer? Oh maybe you're a retired Judge?! Or are you just really informed!? Now don't tell me it because you've "been around awhile" That's what I tell my grand kids when they say "Wow, Ninny how did you know that?!" :D :D :D
Oh well, that was great advice, as usual. That is very helpful to know!
Kathy :)
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Thanks for the compliment Kathy,
Actually, I'm not that smart, just very curious and experienced.
Much of my life I wanted to know why I had to do some things.
I didn't take well to people ordering me to obey, when they weren't well informed.
So, I went to the source to find out what the rules really were.
In addition I have held several jobs, so I am the example of "a jack of all trades and master of none" always seeking something new and interesting.
Civil Engineering surveyor 1 year, U. S. Air Force 4 years, U.S. Steel mill 1 yr., U.S. Post Office 1 year, City Police Officer 6 years, Insurance agent 5 yrs, Plumber in City Water Dept and Wastewater plant operator then plant manager 20 years, Lab manager in Civil Engineering Dept, U. of Notre Dame 15 years. Then the most valuable experience was married with four children 47 years.
So, no exceptional successes, lots of failures that taught me some lessons.
I guess that I just like to help and you know where "good intentions" can lead.
The real trick is to wait until we are asked, to give advice.
Anyway, I am finally on the right track and God dragged me over some interesting if painful experiences along the way.
Wow! Indiana Bob!
You are so smart! I am impressed :)
We should know the laws a little better. How do yo know these things? Are you a retired lawyer? Oh maybe you're a retired Judge?! Or are you just really informed!? Now don't tell me it because you've "been around awhile" That's what I tell my grand kids when they say "Wow, Ninny how did you know that?!" :D :D :D
Oh well, that was great advice, as usual. That is very helpful to know!
Kathy :)
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Wow! Now I'm even more impressed! That's really cool. I like to learn too, mainly I learn from all the mistakes I make! ;D
I do enjoy your posts!
Kathy :D
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I hope things are working out for you Susan. Keep us posted!
Bob, I enjoy your posts as well. I think I met you in Mobile last year, but was too shy to get to know you or anyone at the time! Thanks for your thoughtful and timely advice.
Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving.
Love in Christ,
Vangie
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Samson, Indiana bob and ladies...
thank you for the in depth and thoughtful remarks. The auto accident is in litigation as we speak, so God is ultimately in control as you said. Soooo much paper work just b/c a girl was too impatient to wait her turn and in her own words to my Dh "I thought I could make the yellow arrow"...which btw, she did recant immediately, lol! My witnesses saw what happened and they will testify if it comes to that!
As for my brothers, I too have suffered financially b/c of these brothers (whom have the 'I don't care what you think' attitude toward us )(as your experience has been too.) Thank you for understanding that it is the brothers whom are at fault for their plight and not my DH (sorry if it sounded as though I thought he was to blame...) You see, I have struggled recently with trying to justify wether my DH was correct in his handling of this matter (of feeding my brothers or not) (b/c I have a friend whom listens to her (spiritually erring) husband and he is leading her astray from the Bible truths that I had shown her and that she was 'getting' until her husband put a stop to it...therefore she submitted to an erring husband just to appease him when she knew the truth quite well and was too afraid of her husband to create any waves with him...so she is back into living the lies that her DH does...which I think is wrong of her to submit to him under these circumstances, but, that is her life and apparently where God has her for now. I had compared her submitting to her husbands' spiritual lies versus me submitting to my DH's sound spiritual truths (advice) of not allowing these (whom he believes that they are still lying about doing their drugs) to be around us to where we could possibly lose our child if they were to be in the same vehicle with us and have some drugs on them or plant some drugs in our vehicle)...DH just cannot feel good about protecting us from these lying druggies if he goes into their lives to feed them...I hope you can make the connection between me submitting to a husband who lives the truth versus my friend whom submits to an erring husband...
God is going to have to deal with them in HIS way without us in the picture for now...we must know for certain that they are not lying or drugging before DH will help them out! What a hard decision for me to make too! I will trust that HE will get the outcome that HE has in HIS plans for them...please just keep these 2 guys in your prayers (Scott and Tim...thank you so much too!)
Blessings,
Susan
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Hello everone and blessings in HIM!
I hate to burden youall anymore but I just found out that my two bothers and the 6 yo boy will be getting evicted tomorrow and that they will have no food, vehicle, place to stay, nor any money to their names;! There are no homeless shelters in their town, so Please pray for them... DH does notwant us in their lives or them in ours b/c of the hurt that they are always causing our 10 yr old son who loves them dearly and they care nothing for him....thanks you so very much again for your understanding and prayers...they mean so much to me right now!
Blessings In HIM,
Susan
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Susan,
When there is nothing more we can do then God is at his best doing what He CAN do! Prayer is all we can do so that is what we have to do! Pray and believe that God will provide the answers.
Love,
Kathy :-*
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AMEN Kathy! Earnestly praying here and knowing that HE will provide for them...(I just hate to see them suffer...it is only 18 degrees outside right now and I hear that they all have colds as well.) I am patiently waiting to hear their outcome...
blessings,
Susan
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Susan, I know that it hurts you to love them so and not be able to help, but God is not far from you.
Praying for your strength.
Kathy
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AMEN Kathy! Earnestly praying here and knowing that HE will provide for them...(I just hate to see them suffer...it is only 18 degrees outside right now and I hear that they all have colds as well.) I am patiently waiting to hear their outcome...
blessings,
Susan
I am praying for all, it is so hard to see the ones we love suffer.
Unfortunately there are some that just can't seem to survive regardless.
It seems like many families have those that have gotten mixed up with drugs etc along the way.
We can only love them and pray for them.
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Thank you Jackie Lee!!! (Ijt's working so far b/c the Landlord has not come by to kick them out today....) :)
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GOOD NEWS TODAY FRIENDS! I just learned that my brother got a house to stay in with his boy and his boys' mother. It is not ideal, but they are out of the cold for the next month, whew!!!! (WHAT AN AWESOME AMAZING GOD THAT WE HAVE AND WHO BLESSES THE DISIRES OF OUR HEARTS!!!!)
THANKS FOR YOUR PRAYERS BROTHERS AND SISTERS; AND PLEASE CONTINUE TO PRAY FOR THEM AS THE SPIRIT LEADS YOU...
BLESSINGS,
SUSAN
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Good to hear of God's mercy,
Brenda
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Amen!!! God is Faithful.