I believe you have compassion, Jase, and no I don't think you were being judgmental towards anyone.
It was horrific. But God is so good. He set it up where after my mom died, my sister Patty moved to California w/ her husband and a year later, after another brutal beating at 16, I was on a plane to southern Cali 3,000 miles away where he couldn't touch me. He was so angry (I don't know why he wasn't happy about me leaving).
He accused Priscilla of helping me run away (but she had no idea) and then he cussed her out and fired her on the spot - after 17 years of dedicated service and love to our family. She wasn't able to see "her children" (my younger brothers) for the longest time after and that tore her heart out.
Her last words to my dad were - You're not going to have any good luck for treating me this way. You're going to die an lonely old man.
Two years after that, the domestic abuse laws changed drastically (thank God for compassionate people!) and child protection services came and took my brothers away from him.
We were all, including Priscilla, set to testify against him in family court, but dad didn't want his "dirty laundry" aired, and didn't fight the charges so the Court gave my brothers to my two older sisters. I liked the judge we had. He was cool.
Dad was so humiliated from being "defeated" he wouldn't speak to us kids for decades and now, true to Priscilla's words, he is dying a lonely old man. Unbelievable.
But thank God this story doesn't end here.
Some people are very hard to have compassion on. And God understands this.
p.s. I should also say that my dad did apologize to me about 5 years ago for the way he beat me. For whatever reason God did not give my dad the ability to control his temper and that is not my dad's fault.