Hi to all!
As some of you know, I already have some time around the forum, sharing these truths posting personal life stories and at some moments starting controversial subjects.
Well, the reason of this post is not controversial, I am just asking for the opinion/ commentary/encourage from the wise brothers around here. (Blessed is the man who doesn’t go around asking advice to the no-wise.)
Here is the story: a friend, who is a believer, had a girlfriend since already
years ago. They used to live in the same city with their own families, until he moved because
of a job opportunity and personal reasons, including being free of the families social pressure
to assist the Christian church. They kept in contact often and he used to go visit when the
opportunity was presented. The plans were clear… eventually get married and move with him
after finishing her University career. It has already passed more than one year since this occurred...
The story follows that since months ago she started being very “frustrated” with the situation.
Implying with hurtful comments that she wasn’t ready to move, that she wanted him to go
back, that she didn’t feel she had a boyfriend anymore, that she was frustrated, that she felt
limited of hanging out with others just because she was waiting like a fool. Well, she was
waiting for him with a negative attitude. This wasn’t anything new at this point of the relation
and it was truth that she wasn’t ready to leave everything and move. Eventually he tried to
leave things for good, because he didn’t want her to regret moving and he wanted to avoid
future eventual bigger problems (but she didn’t seem to assimilate the break over).She is still a little immature and still deals a lot with family and friend social-pressure. She
was risen in the middle of the ‘‘Christian church show’’ and still believes most of what they
teach on church.
My friend who is a believer have told her some about his main believes (that
he have learned on bible-truths) but she doesn’t seem to assimilate the information and the
consequences of it. Even so of what she had heard from him, she still has suggested him to
find a church to attend.
However; they both have very alike personalities and have already a long history. She is very
easy going, attractive girl who tends to be very “influence-able” and no strongly emotional
stable.
Okay. Here is where the complex dilemma arises:
While the relationship was getting over and after it supposedly finished, He met a girl at the
place where he lives. They start hanging out as friends and after a little while; it’s obvious that
she likes him. He wants to get to know her deeper and he likes her as well.
This girl doesn’t have an explicit or arranged set of believes, but she have said to be open to
learn more about the bible and what he have to say about it. She is more mature and more
independent and has already a strong attachment with him. She has been very patient,
comprehensive, supportive.
My friend says she really does look like a “helper fit, helper meet”. But since this
is recent he doesn’t know her very well yet.
But recently his ‘‘ex-girlfriend’’ have been trying to contact him often, she have apologize
for not waiting patiently and for things she said before, now, suddenly, she says to be ready
to leave it all and move. And since they had so much history together, now she seems to be
trying her best. But, ¿is it true? Or is she just saying these things because she is afraid to lose him for good?
Her time to try to prove what she now says was all these separate time, this past year,
now it’s seem a little bit late, and may not be true. All year has been a struggle for him, trying
to convince her every time, that he was doing these for both, that soon time to be together will
come, but she kept on trying to convince him to go back and make him feel selfish and bad
because of leaving her. My friend’s heart is stumbling, but his intellect should make the decision
while he hopefully is already on time...
Should he go back with her?, Should he wait and see what happens? Should he stay with his
present good friend that lives close to him who is available to wait for him until he clarifies his
situation? He needs time and they are waiting for his decision!Please stay with me in the story, this complex situation is not an easy one... All is of God and
eventually everything works for good on those who love him. There are times to hang on
there, and there are also times to make hard, drastic, fast decisions…
I really hope that I was able to put all these together as clear as possible, of course this is just a small extract from the whole situation, but if anyone would have something to say and time to pray about it; it will be much appreciated.MoisesPs. (I am not camouflaging the situation saying that it is about a friend while it’s about me. Those who know me here know that I haven’t gone through all this experience on the past years. However, I have tried to put myself on my friend’s shoes and here I post these tread)