We always quote the "turn the cheek par"t but forget the first part.
Why was the person being hit in the cheek for in the first place. Read all the words
(Mat 5:38 KJVR) Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth:[/u]
(Mat 5:39 KJVR) But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.
Jesus was talking about a means for ameliiorating the extracting of revenge
Here are the three OT references that Jesus refererred to from in EX Lev and Deut
(Exo 21:23 KJVR) And if any mischief follow, then thou shalt give life for life,
(Exo 21:24 KJVR) Eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot,
(Exo 21:25 KJVR) Burning for burning, wound for wound, stripe for stripe.
(Lev 24:19 KJVR) And if a man cause a blemish in his neighbor; as he hath done, so shall it be done to him
(Lev 24:20 KJVR) Breach for breach, eye for eye, tooth for tooth: as he hath caused a blemish in a man, so shall it be done to him again.
(Deu 19:20 KJVR) And those which remain shall hear, and fear, and shall henceforth commit no more any such evil among you.
(Deu 19:21 KJVR) And thine eye shall not pity; but life shall go for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot.
Now why did Jesus say this...perhaps because he knows that we do derserve the "unecessary words" sometimes...perhaps we need to examine ourselves more closely.... sometimes we need to take it in on the chin ....perhaps she is getting back for the last lashing out that you gave? Is this revenge eschalating on a small scale?
Rathere than "revenge" and getting your own due for her bad behavior forgive her this time ....and this time ....gently confront her in a positive and loving way.
How many times are we to do this ,,,like Jesus told Peter.....seven time seventy
Do not hold on to any anger rather ...see her sad state... and pray for her eyes to be opened.
Beloved