The leaders and the pastor of my former church have dis-fellowshiped me.
Roy, I wanted to reply yesterday to offer prayers and words of comfort, but couldn't find the right words, probably because I felt the empathy with you and yours, knowing that God is going to use all the emotions and trials that you are going through at this time for your growth and His glory.
The word that stuck in my 'throat' as I read your post was "dis-fellowshipped', because I cannot see how this could be Scriptural. A word search of esword brought up the following verses:
Phm 1:6 so that the fellowship of your faith may become operative in the realization of every good thing which is in us for Christ Jesus.
1Jn 1:3 That which we have seen and heard we are reporting to you also, that you too may be having fellowship with us, and yet this fellowship of ours is with the Father and with His Son, Jesus Christ."
1Jn 1:6 If we should be saying that we are having fellowship with Him and should be walking in darkness, we are lying and are not doing the truth."
1Jn 1:7 Yet if we should be walking in the light as He is in the light, we are having fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, is cleansing us from every sin."
From these verses I believe that we cannot have true fellowship with people who are walking in darkness, and so we cannot be 'dis-fellowshipped' from them.
Mat 18:20 For where two or three are, gathered in My name, there am I in the midst of them."
Geoff