I have read, (and please forgive me being unable to quote scripture) in the new testament on concerning marriage that a man and woman should live separately unto the lord but from time to time because of the sin and temptation in the world they can or should satisfy their sexual need and then return to the lord. What is the writer trying to say here ? I know that we shall eventually be married to Christ and he should come first in all things and that you cannot follow the lord if you put anything in front of that including your mate.Help me out here , please.
Gallenwalsh,
The scriptures do not state that a husband & wife 'should' live separately. We should be careful when stating the Lord 'says' something if we can not substantiate it, that is how one stumbles into heresy.
Paul admonishes for both a husband & wife to give their spouse 'due benevolence' [1 Cor 7:3] to 'avoid fornication' [1 Cor 7:2], so this 'due benevolence' [Gk. 'good will'] is sexual in nature. He says, if both consent [1 Cor 7:5], then the husband and wife can abstain from sexual activity...but again, only if both consent. He then says that after this time apart (not living apart) they should continue giving one another 'due benevolence' to avoid Satan and his temptations [1 Cor 7:5]
Hope this helps,
Marques
P.S. I'm not sure how much time allows you Gallenwalsh, but you have to read & study the material on the site. So many of your questions are answered in Ray's teachings (with numerous scriptural references) that it would be well with you to make a concerted effort to read Ray's material.