Hello again Amy,
I have experienced the passing of both of my parents, it is a painful process and the "time" is never right for those of us who love them. My Dad and Mom were both in the hospital the last month of their lives (13 years apart) and with each of them it was my desire that they hang on, get better, come home.
Looking back (both times) I realized it was me I was feeling sorry for and not so much them, I was consumed with what their departure (a big void in my life) meant to me more than the weak condition they were struggling in, what a glorious day it will be when these "separations" are no longer, when all tears will be wiped away and death is defeated.
Both of my parents knew the time was short for them and they almost seemed to welcome the rest, no more dependence on others for their every need, no more pain or painkillers, no more crying family and friends at their bedside. We did not (or would not) realize or accept this fact but they certainly seemed to.
Amy, it is not my intention to be melodramatic or fatalistic but it is times like this when our faith is tested and strengthened, when we truly live and breath His promises, my prayers are with you and all your family.
Joe